Today, Forced-Bi.com welcomes the erotic and epicene hardbody, Mistress Emma Switch!
Hello, Mistress, and thank you for being with me today.
So… let me just get this perfectly clear from the outset: What name by you actually go by?
“My name is Emma Switch.”
Now… How do I put this delicately…? You’re not a switch, in BDSM terms, right?
“Calling myself ‘switch’ while only offering sessions from dominant position might be a little confusing. But I’ve just kept the name since I was known by it for 5 years.
“I used to work as a professional Switch.”
Okay; gotcha! Thank you for clearing that up.
“I wouldn’t call myself submissive in the slightest sense, but I do enjoy pain – both on the receiving end… and to inflict it.”
What “titles” do you prefer to be addressed by?
“Domme/Domina, Mistress – though, these have the same connotations, I sense.
“Sadist, also. Well… I am a dominant sadist.”
“I hate a lot of the other terms – like ‘Goddess’ or ‘Mean Girl.’ But, apart from that, ‘Brat’ might fit as well, since I often have a rather wild, young, involved way of interacting.
“This is diametrically opposed to the kind of detached interactions of ‘goddesses.’ I am not a ‘goddess.’ I’m far too primal for that.”
I totally get the drift of what you’re saying. “Goddess” is sometimes used by very plastic-looking females, with ultra-high heels and heavy makeup and other such things. But, the word “primal” is interesting. Many mythology enthusiasts would probably be quick to point out that a number of ancient goddesses – like maybe Adrestia, Artemis, Hecate, Kali, Sekhmet, etc. – were often associated with death and violence.
“Being being called ‘goddess’ by random strangers rather makes me cringe.”
Ha! Fair enough.
How long have you been, well… doing what you do?
“I’ve been doing this for almost 15 years.”
You consider it a lifestyle, then?
“It’s pretty much a lifestyle, yes.
“Though, my partner is my equal. I do not keep him chained to a bedpost.”
That’s funny that you need to say that. I was afraid to ask!
“It’s a big part of who I am.”
What else does this sort of thing mean to you?
“For certain aspects, it veers into roleplay, sure. But it can definitely reach a spiritual level as well – depending of the type of session, and the trust given by the sub.”
As far as go the people who seek you out… how do you think of them?
“‘Alphas’ and ‘betas’? I really hate such terms. And words like ‘losers’? I’ll leave that kind of talk to those self-proclaimed ‘findommes.’
“I respect my clients.
“Submitting is a choice; it requires strength. It’s not a deficiency.
“Therefore, I’d say that my audience consists of subs, masochists, slaves, wrestlers, and fetishists of various kinds.”
How did you start down this path?
“It was a childhood dream.”
No kidding? Including Forced-Bi?
“Forced bi. Well… in general, I have a very bi-curious audience – maybe because of my androgynous look.”
Do you have an online presence?
“I don t really work online, apart from flexing on HerBicepsCam.
“For the rest I only engage in real-time, face-to-face sessions. And I’ve been doing this for almost 15 years.”
Very cool! So, you have a physical space for this?
“Yes; I have my own dungeon. Currently, I’m in Bucharest (Romania). Before that, I was in Antwerp (Belgium). And, from next spring on, I’ll be in Madison, Wisconsin.”
Aha, nice… coming stateside, as it were.
What drives you? Are you doing this for pleasure? Money? Both?
“My concern is both pleasure and money. Money, logically, since I make a living at this – it’s my job.”
I hear you. Full time?
“Full time.”
Is that the amount of involvement you prefer?
“I’d like to be less involved, actually.”
Really. Interesting. Anything else about yourself that you’re willing to share?
“I recently got married.”
Congratulations!
“And I am bisexual. Well… pansexual, if you want to avoid the male-female dichotomy.”
Nice segue! Do you think that bisexuality is possible?
“Yes. I believe everybody is latently bi – whether consciously or unconsciously.”
That’s a bold position.
“Whether some people explore bisexuality has both to do with personal history and cultural norms – and the acceptance of those.
“With the old Greeks everybody was bi (at least the guys). That says enough, no?
“And concerning ‘forced bi’: it’s not a fetish where openly self-accepting bi people come to see me. Hence the word forced.
“Basically, you can divide the ‘forced-bi’ subs into two categories.
“Firstly, you have the bi-curious/or latently gay guys. They want to be guided into it. There are a couple of possibilities, here. On the one hand, they might come to be either because of trust or because I can provide a safe place in which forced-bi activities can occur. (That is, if they’re open to it.) But, on the other hand, they may find comfort in the ‘forced’ aspect – in the sense that they can leave afterwards with a clean conscious. After all, they were ‘forced’; it was against their will!”
I’m gratified to hear you put it that way. I’ve often made a similar point myself.
What’s the second sort of sub?
“The second type is just a real submissive. It’s a person for whom forced bi would be the ultimate humiliation and, therefore, proof of his ultimate submission to his mistress.
“Of course, one can argue to what extent one’s biggest fear is connected with one’s biggest fantasy.”
Very thought-provoking, indeed.
What do you get out of the exchange?
“It’s just a power trip for me.”
Right to the point! Admirable.
Do you call the fetish “coerced bi,” or “forced bi,” or “forced gay”? Any preference?
“Nah. Any of those. Same difference.”
Is forced bi just something males get involved in, in terms of submission, I mean? Or are there female forced-bi subs as well?
“In principle, it can pertain to both male or female submission.
“Though, there’s one big difference. It is far more stigmatizing/taboo for a guy to be fucked or to give oral service to other guys than there is for girls to perform sexual activities on girls.
“Whereas a man would be emasculated by such acts, a girl is often just be perceived as being sexier in homosexual, girl-on-girl encounters.
“Moreover, bisexual girls are a straight man’s fantasy. These kinds of scenes are even categorized under ‘straight’ in porn collections.
“Since stigma/taboo and fantasy always go hand in hand, a ‘forced-bi’ fantasy will in most cases be left for males.”
As a practical matter, as opposed to a theoretical one. I follow you.
Let’s talk a bit more about the “forced” part of the fetish. What does it come down to for you?
“It’s a mixture of coercion – where I apply certain kinds of pressure; commandment – where my subs are expected to obey my orders; instruction – where I am teaching a guy how to behave; and permission – for those for just need a safe space with which to satisfy their latent homosexual urges.”
So, I think from what you’ve already said, I can guess your answer. But… does a guy change his sexuality in a “forced-bi” situation? Or… after numerous such situations?
“Mostly, I’ll say a weak ‘No.’ As I stated, some subs may be latent homosexuals. Not all are. Others submit to forced-bi as acts of submission. So, the bottom line is that I don’t think that I modify anyone’s sexuality.”
Can a guy be a “switch”? That is, can he both “top” or “bottom”?
“Sure; why not?”
Some Mistresses profess that males are inherently one or the other.
Would you say that you derive sexual satisfaction from watching guy-on-guy encounters? Amusement only? Little bit of both?
“No, it does not turn me on, sexually. The only turn-on I experience is that of power.”
Why am I not surprised to hear you say that?
Do you think that a guy who gets into bisexuality – participates in homosexual activities – is more or less attractive? Or… does it not affect his attractiveness?
“I would not mind dating a bi person. Like I said earlier, I think everybody is latently bi. It’s just a matter of history, curiosity, and the acceptance of norms that makes the difference in terms of acting on that, or not.”
Do you think of the fetish as healthy for a guy, or unhealthy?
“I’d say: It’s neither.”
You mean: It’s neither healthy nor unhealthy, or it could be either?
“From a healthy point of view, it could be productive exploration.”
Any religious aspect to this, for you?
“No.”
Many people these days are conscious of so-called “binary language”: masculine versus feminine, for example. Some people are opposed to the use of such language on the grounds that it’s too restrictive or confining – similar, perhaps, to the way you designated yourself “pansexual” as oppose to “bisexual.”
Do you see the “forced-bi fetish” as problematic, since “bisexuality” – and, therefore, binarism – is baked into its name?
“Not at all. The entire fetish has it source in heteronormativity. It is an outgrowth of the taboo of queerness, and it is based on the dichotomy of male and female.
“A pansexual genderqueer wouldn’t visit me for forced bi because, if he regards genders to be fluid, he wouldn’t feel repressed by gender labels or the cultural stigma of ‘emasculation.’”
Interesting.
What homosexual activities do you most enjoy having guys do in a session?
“I order cock sucking and anal fucking.”
Do you think the forced-bi fetish is gaining in popularity?
“No clue.”
Do you perceive it to be promoted in any way by the “mainstream media”?
“No.”
Do you prefer having guys in dedicated top/bottom roles? Or do you prefer them to switch off?
“Dedicated roles, for sure. In fact, the sub who gets fucked is the one who pays. The bull who does the fucking is paid. Usually, the bull is a friend or escort. If I only have two subs, then the session is probably just going to involve oral play. Cock-sucking subs aren’t made for fucking.”
So, are you aroused by any of this? Amused?
“Meh. Neither, really. As I said, I enjoy the power trip.”
Do you think that a guy can “just try” getting assfucked and then quit? Or would he become hooked on it?
“Nah. I think he could quit. Maybe he likes it; maybe he doesn’t.”
What interests you, mainly? Online chatting and fantasy, or in-person forced-bi sessions?
“I’m not interested in anything online. I’m a real domina, meeting real subs in real, live meetings.”
You’re certainly real!
Where can interested readers find out more about you?
“Readers can find me on www.mistressemmaswitch.com and email me at switch.emma@gmail.com.
“I have two clip stores, too. See the following links.
“ESB/wrestler Emma Switch (concerned with wrestling, etc.) at Clips4Sale: http://clips4sale.com/91413 and MistressEmmaSwitch (more usual BDSM-related stuff), also at Clips4Sale: http://clips4sale.com/92243
“See, also, my FetLife account: https://fetlife.com/users/1956458
“And my Twitter: emma switch@emma_switch.”
That’s awesome! Thank you so much for your time!
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