Okay, Forced-Bi fanatics! You better put on your thinking caps! Today’s guest will force some blood up into your brains (for a change). Though, admittedly, a lot of what we discuss will immediately redirect your juices right back downwards again! It was inevitable – if we’re being totally honest!
Hello, and thanks for being with us!
Let’s get the formalities squared away. How should prospective subs address you?
“Mistress Dida. Although, I do have a couple subs that I specifically have address me with a different honorific, such as ‘Goddess’ or ‘Queen.’ I find that it elevates my particular dynamic with them, for us both.”
Those are special cases? A number of readers will now have something to aspire to!
“But… unless I say otherwise, it’s ‘Mistress Dida.’”
Very good, Mistress Dida!
Okay. The next question isn’t especially imaginative. Haha! But it’s standard fare, I suppose. How did you get into fetishes in general and Forced Bi in particular?
“Oh, wow. This is a heavy question, and I could easily write an essay as a response.”
No kidding? I’m glad we didn’t skip it, then!
“But I will try my best to narrow down my answer.”
Please, take as long as you’d like!
“I’ve always been kinky – since I was quite young – as well as fascinated both with sex and the realm of human emotion.
“I’m really interested in people. I come from a professional health and fitness background. So, it’s always been this interesting game to find out what motivates people, and how to manipulate that thing to produce an outcome that I want (and they ultimately want as well).
“Fetishes and forced bi are just a way-more-fun version of that!”
I’ll say!
“I get a lot of gratification and fulfillment by helping (forcing, haha) people to grow. Betterment through BDSM!”
That’s gold!
“I know the potential of the person you could become. And, sometimes, the only way to get there is with a cock in the ass.”
Yes! Wel… ahem! I feel a bit flush…
I can’t resist switching gears into a little “Forced-Bi Theory,” so to speak. What does “force” mean to you? Coercing? Encouraging? Seducing? Etc.
“This is totally dependent on the sub and the scene.”
Right on.
“I’m a very versatile Mistress and can wear many ‘hats.’
“Am I your naughty neighbor lady, who wants to teach and instruct you on how to do grown up things? Or am I your sadistic bitch-of-a-Mistress who just takes great pleasure in commanding you and forcing you to do things because I simply love to watch the layers of your fragile ego crumble away, while I laugh?”
These questions press themselves on our, um… minds? Back sides? Something!
“No matter what word you use to explain ‘force,’ at the end of the day, all these activities are just tools to put you in a suggestible headspace. That is always my end goal.”
I see! You wield an assortment of instruments, like a kinky surgeon!
Speaking of things that achieve the Forced-Bi mentality, do crossdressing, pegging or strap-on sessions push in that direction? Or are they separate fetishes?
“They are definitely separate fetishes that do have the tendency to overlap. But, like everything in BDSM, it’s unique to the individual.
“I would say that crossdressing, pegging, and strap-on play can lead into forced bi. But, in my experience, it’s more often not the case.
“On the other hand, I may be hard pressed to name a sub who has experienced forced bi and yet has not experienced at least some of the other things mentioned.”
That’s interesting.
So, you’re saying something like: “Considering Forced-Bi subs, many of them have gotten into these other fetishes. But, considering those who get into these other fetishes, most of them are not (necessarily) also into Forced Bi.” Even though all dogs are mammals, not all mammals are dogs.
“Crossdressing, in particular, can simply be an expression of a sub’s feminine energy. Or it can reflect a desire to be as close as possible to the Divine Feminine. In either case, it has absolutely nothing to do with getting fucked by another guy.”
In your opinion, does Forced Bi change a sub’s sexual orientation? (To put it dramatically: Can it “make” a guy “turn gay”? Is it “addictive”? Etc.)
“This is an interesting question. My instinct is to say, ‘No, not likely.’
“But I suppose we can never really know the inner workings of another human’s mind.”
Ain’t that the truth!
“Maybe if someone claims it ‘changed’ their sexuality, they were just repressing their homosexuality to begin with?”
I hear ya!
On the other hand, still surfing the waves of philosophical subtly, I can equally well see how “they had latent homosexual desires yesterday,” doesn’t necessarily decide the question of whether the desires were “in there” the day before that. And what would count as the desire being “in there”? How fully formed would it need to be? And on and on… Fascinating stuff!
“I feel that part of what we do as Dommes is rewire our subs’ neurochemistry around what arouses them. We ‘Pavlov’ them, so to speak, by linking our own pleasure to the act. So, they eventually get turned on and excited by things like forced bi.
“But I don’t see it as a shift in their sexuality. I see it as a deep act of devotion to me.
“I think that, while they overlap, our sexual orientation and what arouses us can be very different things.”
I follow you!
A humorous example might be taken from Dana Carvey and Mike Myers’ “Wayne’s World” comedy sketch from the 1990s. In one bit, the character “Garth” (Carvey) says of some attractive woman: “She makes me feel kind of funny, like when we used to climb the rope in gym class.”
That Garth was aroused climbing ropes can probably best be explained as a serendipitous – and frictional – coming together (no pun intended) of male anatomy with a cord of nylon. We needn’t worry that he will end up walking down the aisle with any alpine gear!
We tend to speak as if Forced-Bi subs are always – or, at any rate, are usually – males? How does that comport with your experience? Are Forced-Bi subs variously gendered? Or… could they be?
“Personally, I have only ever had male forced-bi subs. But I would love to do female forced-bi scene. That would be so hot.”
I couldn’t agree more!
“I have the whole scene playing out in my head right now. Forced-bi girls, call me!”
Can I “second” that motion?? Just… please send us links to any future video clips! (Pretty please!)
As a Domme, it doesn’t require an imaginative stretch to suppose that you don’t really have dominant clients! But… do you have a preference between bottoms and tops? Is there any “flipping” going on? Etc.
“I absolutely prefer submissives as clients – although, I do take on bottoms once in a while, as long as we connect really well, and they understand the session will still revolve around the power exchange.
“One of my favorite clients is a bottom who likes to play submissive for me. But we have a ridiculously fun time together.”
Haha! I’ll bet!
“But I won’t do a session where there isn’t a power exchange – and I’m the dominant.”
Understood! And… curious readers: Pay careful attention!
While we’re on the subject of sessions – I can’t resist! – what Forced-Bi activities do you most enjoy overseeing?
“I see forced bi as sort of crescendo to a beautiful siren song that I’ve been singing to someone over a period time.”
I’ve seldom heard it put so lyrically!
“I absolutely love building up the fantasy over multiple sessions.”
So… this is a time investment, for sure!
“Depending on the person, this can take a very long time.”
But… are we talking fantasy chats? Real, in-person situations? Something else?
“I think it’s very important, for both the Domme and the sub, to understand the difference between fantasy and reality.
“If someone has never done forced bi before, I don’t take the act lightly.
But, from the initial build-up, we gradually move into the ‘milder’ activities – cock sucking, cum eating. And then – eventually – …”
Yes? Yes?!?
“… if you’re lucky, I may turn you into a full-blown gangbang party pig!”
I’m sorry… Did you say what I think you said?
I think I may have lost consciousness for a minute there!
“…Gangbang party pig!” I can’t say it without parts of me swelling with warm tingles!
But… maybe that’s just me!
I have to ask, though: Does Forced Bi arouse you? Or are you just amused?
“Genuine power-exchange always arouses me. And forced bi is such a strong demonstration of devotion that I can’t help but get excited about it.”
So, it’s not so much the, um… “gaiety” as it is the relational dynamics?
“It’s definitely less about the sex itself, and more about the power.
“Although, I do generally structure sessions around amusing myself. The things I will make you do, say, and wear will all be to amuse me.
“Ultimately, it’s the fact that you, the sub, are doing these things that fills my heart and gets me wet. But I still want you to put on a good show for me.”
That’s reason enough for me!
If you had to summarize your approach, how would you describe it? Are you beckoning subs toward the “light side,” playfully promoting healthy exploration? O are you a siren, tempting the hapless to cross over onto the “dark side”? Sorta in between? Neither??
“I would have to say, somewhere in the middle. Although, the actual expression of this depends on my submissive.
“I will toy with you, use you for my amusement, and get you doing things you never thought you would do. But I will always keep your heart safe.
“It’s the devotion-hungry sadist in me that will keep pushing to corrupt your further, though.”
Let me ask about that. How far “out there” do you get? Or, to put it another way, do you have limits?
“I have a lot of limits. And I’m quite strict about them. You can find a full list on my website!”
Very good! Would-be subs: Don’t forget to check for those!
If someone asks for a Cliffs-Notes version – specific to Forced Bi – what would you say about “poppers,” for instance?
“I don’t personally allow any drugs – including poppers. I feed off the vulnerability, and I want you to experience every single moment of the scene.”
In excruciating vividness, you mean? That is, with nothing to “take the edge off”? Copy that.
How do you feel about guys “barebacking”?
“As for barebacking, I use condoms pretty religiously.
“But, I have been a part of private, intimate (non-professional) scenes where everyone involved knew each other personally – and, more importantly, knew each other’s health details. In those cases, condoms were intentionally left at home.”
<Waves of envy crash inside my head>
What’s your opinion of married men coming to you?
“I think if I had a problem with married men coming to see me, I would work a lot less!”
I hear that frequently!
“I don’t condone sneaking around or lying to your spouse. But let’s be realistic here. BDSM has a bad rap on the large scale, and that condemnation only tends to be magnified when you zoom in on individuals’ lives.
“But, for so many of us, our kinks and fetishes are an integral part of our sexuality and self-expression. It’s part of who we are. When we don’t have a proper outlet for these things, they can manifest in negative ways.”
And you provide the psychosexual equivalent of a relief valve?
“Giving a safe space – and providing guidance – for someone to explore and discover parts of themselves that have otherwise been rejected and hidden (from themselves as well as others), is such an honor to me.
“I’ve had countless subs tell me – sometimes even after just one session – the clarity they’ve gained, the sense of relief they’ve felt, and the improvements in their work and family life they’ve experienced.
“They’ve become better husbands, better fathers, better business owners, and better CEOs.
“I think it would be naïve of me to say that I’m out here ‘saving’ the marriages of all these of men (and women). But I can’t deny how much overall improvement I’ve seen in my subs’ lives and, in particular, the lives of ones who are married.”
Well! That’s a positive note on which to conclude!
Oh! Hold on…
Don’t forget to let readers know where they can find you online!
“My Instagram got deleted (at 16k, sigh.).”
I hate to hear that. Building something like that is always a major time investment. I’m sorry!!
“So, I currently only have Twitter/X where I am @MistressDidaFox.
“I am in the works of building a LoyalFans page, as well as Nightflirt and Sextpanther – so stay tuned for those!”
Absolutely! Please don’t forget to send us the details once those are in place, and we’ll add them here.
“Otherwise, you can find me – and the application to serve me – on my website: www.MistressDidaFox.com.
“You can also email me at: mistressdida@mistressdidafox.com.”
Perfect!
Thank you so much, Mistress Dida!
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