Hello, Forced-Bi aficionados, and welcome to the latest in our interview series. Today, we welcome an ethereal and exquisite Mistress.
First of all, what is your name? What do you go by?
“‘Galactic Goddess,’ or ‘Goddess Asari’.”
There are various different adjectives, epithets, modifiers, or monikers that women in your area use. Which – if any – do you think of yourself as, or prefer?
“I think of myself as a combination of ‘Brat’ / ‘Mean Girl,’ Domme, and – of course – Goddess.”
Oh course! These seem fitting, if I do say so!
May I ask? Do you have any special reasons for this preference? As if I couldn’t guess!
“I am a domineering, bratty Goddess!”
Lol! That’s awesome.
What do you think of yourself as doing? I mean …is this a “lifestyle” or just a bit of fun, or… what is it?
“It’s definitely a lifestyle. This is who I am!
“But it’s also got a social-activist component, for sure. And it’s also a bit of a spiritual exercise.”
Right on. Let me ask a related question. People – guys, probably – seek you out. Right? How do you think of them? What descriptors do you use?
“I am inclined to call them ‘betas,’ ‘losers,’ ‘slaves,’ or ‘subs’ – depending on the situation and person.”
Any special reason?
“I like to remind weak men of their place.”
Alrighty, then!
Speaking of cream puffs (pun intended), here’s another: What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?
“I’ve always had a dominant personality. I also like to make people think outside of their programming and societal internalization. I believe if it weren’t for such taboo and borderline-negative views of being gay/bi, more men would admit that they feel this way!”
It’s an intriguing perspective, no doubt.
So… how long have you been doing this online?
“I’ve been an online sex worker in a general sense for 10 years. A Dominatrix for 5+.”
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“Nope. It’s just online for me.”
Fair enough.
What’s your goal? Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“While I do take pleasure in what I do – and I personally get off to this kink – at the end of the day, what I provide is a service. And I’ve never met a therapist, trainer, or service provider who gave away their talent and knowledge for free.”
Right? To quote the Joker character from Christopher Nolan’s Dark Knight movie: “If you’re good at something, never do it for free”!
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“It’s a full-time occupation.”
Are you satisfied with this level of involvement?
“Extremely satisfied! And …you will be too 😉”
Ha! Oh, my!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? For example: How old are you? Are you in a relationship? (Conventional? Alternative/BDSM?) What is your sexual orientation? Etc.
“I am 30 years young, in a Female-Lead Relationship, (open on my end), and I am pansexual.”
Fantastic!
Let’s talk a little about the Forced-Bi fetish.
On the face of it, the it’s made up of two things: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – is possible?
“Yes; it’s possible, of course! What would this fetish be about if it weren’t?”
What do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish as? Maybe it’s a combination of things.
“It’s a lot of things: a lifestyle (for all involved), a role play, a fun kind of game… But it’s also a power trip for me.”
There are actually a few names for this fetish – “coerced bi,” “forced bi,” etc. Which, if any, do you prefer – and why?
“Any of the these: ‘coerced bi,’ ‘forced bi,’ ‘forced gay.’ Same difference.”
Okay.
In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“It can pertain to male or female submission. Although, I prefer to deal with cis, ‘straight,’ male subs.”
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” probably means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting? Coercion, commandment, encouragement, enticement, inducement, instruction, permission, persuasion, provocation, seduction, etc.
“It’s a blend. Encouragement. I am like a cheerleader, egging the guy on.
“But I also entice, persuade, and seduce – as the occasion calls for it. So, it’s a bit like I’m like a mythical siren, tempting guys to their bisexual – or gay – doom. It’s obvious that they’re attracted to me. I just aim this attraction in a homosexual direction. I suppose that I provoke as well.
“Still… I’m also kind of an instructor – teaching the guy to come to terms with his curiosities. And for some guys, it’s like I just give them permission to act on their true desires.
“It varies. Different guys, different situations, different approaches.”
There’s a lot of nuance, isn’t there?
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation? A. Strong no; B. weaker no; C. You don’t know; D. You don’t care; E. weak yes; F. strong yes.
“I think it’s an even mix of B. and E.”
That’s an oddly appropriate letter combination! “B&E”: Like Breaking and Entering into a guy’s psyche.
“On the one hand, it’s a weak ‘no’ because I don’t think that all guys who come to me are latent homosexuals. Some might be. But I also don’t think that I modify anyone’s sexuality. Straight men might engage in forced-bi activities as expressions of obedience, submission, and subordination.
“On the other hand, it’s a weak ‘yes.’ I think some guys can be trained to respond to male-on-male stimulation and this can alter their orientation over time.”
Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.)
“All men, deep down, are betas. They are only ‘alpha’ to each other and never to a Woman. But, a Woman can choose to use men for fun, pleasure, or pain/domination. Just because She has sex with one doesn’t make him Her equal.”
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be “attention whores.” Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.
Do any of these resonate with you?
“I love guy on guy sex because it’s hot and passionate! I also love watching a man be coaxed to suck another’s dick. I like first times/first experiences.”
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women.
What do you think?
“It’s this all the way: Bisexual guys are (or can be) attractive and desirable (They’re just one type of guy and their bisexuality doesn’t affect their attractiveness.)”
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? (Here, we mean it is positive and helpful for a male sub’s flourishing, or is it negative and unhelpful? For physical health and STD risk, see “Limits” section, below.)
“It’s healthy. Absolutely. I want my subs to fulfill their cock-whore destinies. I’m really freeing them and doing them a service.”
If you think it’s healthy, why is it healthy?
“It’s productive exploration and it aids in self-discovery.
“I’m all about giving a safe, non-judgmental space to enjoy a kink that’s somewhat taboo.
“I also think it can be a bit neutral, like a little harmless diversion or fun.
“It can be aimless experimentation. But I also think it’s aimed exploration: Truly accepting one’s self and admitting your truths.”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“Yes. Forced Bi is a bit like a ritual. I think of it as sex magic or psychological programming.
“Also, I certainly derive power from Forced Bi, or from getting guys to subject themselves to this. Totally.”
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“I don’t really care.
“Lots of kinks are ‘problematic,’ but if we take away kinks based on being ‘right’ or ‘moral’ (which are both perspectival), then I don’t get how else people are supposed to get their kinks met. If we (that is, sex workers) don’t offer a safe space of cathartic healing, then who will? How will that manifest for those who can’t get their rocks off in a safe format?”
Let’s shift from the abstract to something more, well… physical: Forced-Bi activities.
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“Cock sucking/oral sex all day. It can be non-reciprocal or 69.”
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“I prefer both guys to be versatile – flexible.”
Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m both aroused and amused.”
Awesome!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“I don’t know. Wanna find out?”
Ha! Um…
So… what are you interested in doing? I mean, fantasy-only? Or encouraging guys to get down and dirty for real?
“I’m open to either. I can keep things at the level of fantasy chat.
“But I’m also happy to encourage guys to have real, in-the-flesh encounters with other males (Chat might be the gateway; but I want to see how far they’ll go. And push them further.)”
How “involved” do you like to be?
“Often, I just issue the instruction, order, suggestion, whatever. And then it’s up to the guys to do what they will with it.
“But I prefer to see photographic evidence. I want proof that they went through with whatever was discussed.”
What is your biggest focus/turn on?
“Honestly, it’s mostly about my power. I really get off on my ability to get a guy to do extreme – even gay – things.
“But I love the gay sex, too!
“Both A and B. Ugh! It’s just so hot – and a power trip.”
You can’t decide! Lol. I love it.
What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries?
“As I said earlier: I love cocksuckers. I really get off on getting guys to suck cock.”
Kinky!
So, readers likely want to know: Do you have any limits?
“We all have limits. Respect and communication are keys to serving Me.”
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”)?
“I’m fine with guys barebacking in a limited sense.
“Get tested!”
Relatedly, some Mistresses insist on safety because Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in a sub are completely undesirable. Others don’t care either way. Some even profess to find it a turn on to see a guy engage in risky gay sex. I think I can guess, but…How do you feel about STDs and STD risk?
“Bareback all day, slut. But keep clean.
“No, I won’t drop a sub who gets an STD. (That’s so fucked up – and aids stigma.) But I will encourage they get help.”
Again, thinking about Forced-Bi encounters, how do you feel about married men?
“In a way, I don’t care either way. I usually don’t even ask.
“But, in another sense, I prefer married men. I like defiling marriages and ruining things!”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“I tolerate their use. Whatever floats your boat.
“I pretty much don’t care either way. It’s not my body or health.
“And, yes, I cater to the poppers fetish too.”
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex?
“I have no idea! But we can perform the experiment.”
Lol!
“Seriously! It’s a risk I’m willing to take. I mean, it’s what you guys really want anyway.”
It does attract a certain kind of person, doesn’t it?
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct? (E.g., “blackmail,” cock-and-ball “torture” [CBT], crossdressing, cum-eating, cum-eating instruction [CEI], humiliation, pegging/strapon, small-penis humiliation [SPH], Etc.)
“So many! Check out My clip stores and use the search bar! I most likely cater to your kinks!
“But to name a few: CBT, SPH, Ebony Domination, BBC Slut Training, Verbal Humiliation, Goddess Worship, Femdom, Findom, Tease and Denial, Ass Worship, Foot Fetish, Lips/Lipstick Fetish, Roleplay, Cuckolding, Chastity and more!”
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? (Do you have any social media accounts or websites to share?)
“Websites: iWantGalacticGoddess.com
“Subscription Sites: OnlyFans.com/GalacticDomme
“Sext Me: Sextpanther.com/Galactic-Goddess
“Twitter: @GalacticDomme
“Email: TributeMissAsari@Gmail.com.”
It’s been a hot pleasure, Goddess Asari! An out-of-this-world, Galactic experience! Thank you so much!
Just a reminder to Forced-Bi fans, we now have a Subreddit (Reddit.com/EnforcedBi) devoted to our brand of deviance as well as a few weeks-old Twitter account (Twitter.com/forcedbisexual)! Find us in either corner of the web — or both places! — and say “hi”!
(All photographs in this post are Copyright 2019, Goddess Asari. They are reproduced, here, with express permission of the copyright holder.)
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