Today, continuing our interview series with various Forced-Bi professionals, we welcome a seductive and self-assured practitioner.
Hi! And thanks for coming on.
I know you have very definite opinions about how you like to be addressed. Please tell our readers about those. What name do you go by?
“‘Ms. Elena De Luca’ is my full title but those who serve may call me ‘Ms. De Luca.’”
All right. And do you think of yourself as an “Alpha,” a “Brat,” “Domme,” “Empress,” “Goddess,” “Mean Girl,” “Mistress,” “Princess,” “Sadist,” “Queen,” etc.?
“I consider myself a Mistress, Dominant, Sadist and Goddess. But I only will accept being called ‘Mistress’ when an honorific is being used and prefer just to be ‘Ms. De Luca,’ because my title should be about me, not an interchangeable moniker that could be anyone.”
Fair enough.
“Always calling Dommes by names like ‘Goddess’ or ‘Mistress’ is like calling every woman you date ‘baby’ so you never have to worry about saying the wrong name.”
I’m sure you’re not wrong in a lot of cases.
Thinking generally of your role or roles – Dominant, Goddess, Mistress, Sadist, and so on – do you see yourself as engaging in a lifestyle, a role play, a bit of fun, social activism, a spiritual exercise? Anything like these?
“It’s really inherent to who I am as a person. I am always dominant.”
I sense that!
Okay. Let’s say thing about the people who seek out the services of someone like you. What word do you prefer for these kinds of people? I’m thinking of words like “betas,” “losers,” “masochists,” “slaves,” “subs,” and those of things.
“The title depends on the bottom but generally I see slaves and submissives.”
What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?
“I’ve always been kinky, and cuckolding was a main interest of mine before I even realized what this meant. After meeting and getting to know a Professional Mistress I was opened up to the full lifestyle and pro scenes of NYC [New York City]. That’s where I really learned how much I loved forced-bi scenes.”
Very cool. And how long have you been doing this online?
“I have been a professional mistress for over a decade. I started dipping my toe into online domination in 2010 when I was first going independent in my career.”
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“Yes. Visit my website, NYDominatrix.com to apply and you can find yourself in my presence.”
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“My concern is both pleasure and money.
“It’s about finding something that I love to do and making it my career.”
That’s a special thing, if you can manage it! What’s the saying? “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life”?
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“It’s a full-time occupation.”
Are you satisfied with this level of involvement? Like it to be more? Less?
“I’m satisfied where things are at.”
That’s great.
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? E.g., How old are you? Are you in a relationship? (Conventional? Alternative/BDSM?) What is your sexual orientation? Etc.
“I’m 34, I’ll be 35 on November 2nd. I keep a stable of men to meet all my desires.”
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – is possible?
“Yes, of course!
“What would this fetish be about if it weren’t?”
Which of the following, if any, do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish as? A lifestyle for you, the males, or all; a role play; a power trip for you; a game; a fun activity; a pastime for you; a trap for males?
“A little bit of each of these but in different amounts for each scene/person.”
There are actually a few names for this fetish. It can be called “coerced bi,” “enforced bi,” “forced bi,” “forced gay,” etc. Which, if any, do you prefer?
“Forced bi/forced bisexuality.”
Fair.
In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“It can pertain to male or female submission.
“I generally think of male submission when I hear the term. But it can definitely be for any gender.”
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” probably means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting? Coercion, commandment, encouragement, enticement, inducement, instruction, permission, persuasion, provocation, seduction? Anything?
“Seduction!
“The guys are attracted to me. I redirect this away from sex with me and onto sex with other males.”
How naughty of you!
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy changes his sexual orientation?
“I don’t think that all guys who come to me are latent homosexuals. Some might be.
“But I also don’t think that I modify anyone’s sexuality. Straight men might engage in forced-bi activities as expressions of obedience, submission, and subordination.”
Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.)
“Sure; why not?
“Some people are a bit of both – active and passive.”
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be “attention whores.” Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.
Do any of these resonate with you?
“I like viewing guy-on-guy sex the way men might enjoy viewing girl-on-girl sex.”
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women.
What do you think?
“Bisexual guys are more attractive or desirable than straight guys (They’re fun in bed and make for some exciting possibilities for threesomes and ‘moresomes.’)”
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? (Here, we mean it is positive and helpful for a male sub’s flourishing, or is it negative and unhelpful? For physical health and STD risk, see “Limits” section, below.)
“It’s healthy.
“I want my subs to fulfill their cock-whore destinies. I’m really freeing them and doing them a service.”
Why is it healthy?
“I give them the space/convince them to explore something they may not have thought about or felt free to explore. They may or may not like it, but at least they will be expanded for having done it.”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“Yes; I derive power from Forced Bi or from getting guys to subject themselves to this.”
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“I don’t know.
“I don’t think so, but I am not well-versed in advanced gender studies.”
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching? Cock sucking/oral sex; Penetrative sex/anal sex; Kissing/osculation; Rimming/tongue fucking; Cum eating/swallowing; Facials/bukkake; Creampies/internal cumshots?
“All of the above. I love the show.”
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I think it’s getting more popular.”
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“A little – tangentially. It is becoming more okay to be on the LGBTQ+ spectrum[1] of sexual identities and that is making it more okay to submit to forced bi play.”
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“I prefer both guys to be versatile (flexible; switches).
“Everyone should bend to my will and interests in the moment.”
Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m both aroused and amused.”
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Nope!
“Once he sucks cock – or takes cock in his ass – he’ll be a cockwhore thereafter.”
What are you interested in doing?
“I encourage guys to have real, in-the-flesh encounters with other males. (Chat might be the gateway; but I want to see how far they’ll go. And push them further.)”
How “involved” do you like to be?
“I sometimes direct and watch in real-life situations.
“I love to not just watch but direct them verbally and physically.”
What is your biggest focus/turn on?
“Honestly, it’s all about my power. (I get off on my ability to get a guy to do extreme – even gay – things.)”
What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries? Cocksucking? Guys bottoming, anally? Guys being cumdumps? Guys topping?
“All of them. I like seeing men crossing their boundaries and exploring new sex acts for my entertainment.”
Okay. What about limits? Basically… Do you have any? Do you insist on any?
“Yes, of course.
“I have many limits. And I insist upon certain limits with respect to my subs as well.”
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”)?
“I’m fine with guys barebacking in a limited sense (E.g., if the guys trust each other or can produce clean bills of health.)”
Relatedly, some Mistresses insist on safety because Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in a sub are completely undesirable. Others don’t care either way. Some even profess to find it a turn on to see a guy engage in risky gay sex.
How do you feel about STDs and STD risk?
“The sub must stay clean. He needs to practice safe sex.”
Again, thinking about Forced-Bi encounters, how do you feel about married men?
“I don’t care either way. I don’t even ask.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“I tolerate them. Whatever floats your boat.”
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex?
“I do think that once a guy sucks cock, he will forever be open to it and realize it is something he desires and wants more of.
“But I don’t believe you can be ‘addicted’ to gay sex. I just think you will find it is who you are and make it a part of your life.”
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct? (E.g., “blackmail,” cock-and-ball “torture” [CBT], crossdressing, cum-eating, cum-eating instruction [CEI], humiliation, pegging/strapon, small-penis humiliation [SPH], Etc.)
“I have a wide range of fetish and kink interests and it’s always growing and evolving as well. I’m a sadist, tease, humilatrix, disciplinarian and evil doctor. It just depends on my mood and our chemistry.”
Awesome.
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? (Do you have any social media accounts or websites to share?)
“I am on Twitter, Instagram and Fetlife as @ElenaDeLuca.
“My main clip sites are ElenaDeLucaFetish.com and FascistFemDom.com
“You can also visit my website NYDominatrix.com for a full list of links to all my social media, chat services, phone domination and clip sites.”
Thank you so much!
(All photographs displayed in this post are Copyright 2019 Ms. Elena De Luca. They are reproduced here by express permission of the copyright holder.)
Notes:
[1] “LGBTQ” stands for “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer/Questioning.” The “+,” here doubtless is a nod to the idea that the spectrum isn’t fixed and may be expanded.
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