Today, Forced-Bi.com turns readers’ attentions towards the lithe and lethal Mistress Jaa. We provided her with a questionnaire and her replies are reproduced, below.
This Mistress certainly has a sarcastic edge, as our audience will no doubt detect. We hope that you have fun perusing her replies!
First of all, what is your name? What do you go by?
“Mistress Jaa. Though, that’s not my real name; I’ve had to adopt it as it’s the name the original Mistress Jaa used in the website’s URL jaa4u.com.
“I originally went by the name of ‘Mistress Pasaya’ when I first began, but had to abandon that name when I was harassed by a stalking ex-boyfriend. After that, I decided just to go with the name ‘Jaa’ and introduce myself properly come the introductory email. You’ll note, though, that I don’t sign off any of my blog stories with the name Jaa. I simply put ‘xx’ at the bottom.”
There are various adjectives, epithets, modifiers, or monikers that women in your area use: Alpha, Brat/Mean Girl, Domme/Domina, Mistress/Maîtresse, Goddess/Princess/Queen, Sadist. Which – if any – do you think of yourself as, or prefer?
“I go by my real name.”
Do you have any special reason(s) for this preference?
“Yeah. Because I don’t need other men frequently calling me by the name ‘Mistress.’ If they wish to do so that’s fine. I’m fully aware of who I am and what I am; I don’t need a man overusing the term to reinforce it in any way. In this regard, ‘power is power’ and my personality speaks for itself.”
Thinking generally of your role as defined above, do you see yourself as engaging in any (or a combination) of the following? A Lifestyle, A Role Play, A Bit of Fun, Social Activism, A Spiritual Exercise?
Similarly, there are a number of words that sometimes describe the people who seek out the services of someone like you. Betas, Losers, Masochists, Slaves, Subs/Submissives. What word do you prefer for these kinds of people?
“Gentlemen.”
Do you have any reason(s) for this word choice?
“These questions are trying to put me in a predefined box. But that’s not how life goes.
“In regard to the question up above, I sometimes feel like being a Mistress is a lifestyle – as it’s who I am. There’s definitely a great deal of roleplay involved in my sessions and it’s always a ‘bit of fun.’
“Given where I started from in terms of social class and the way men treat girls of such means, there’s a hint of Social Activism in my life’s curve, just as much as it’s a Spiritual journey as well. So, by such measures, I’d have to say I qualify myself under all answers A to E included.
“As for how I see the people who visit me, to give them a specific name is folly. To address them all in my mind as say a ‘Loser’ or ‘Slave’ closes my eyes to ‘walking a mile in their shoes’ and finding out who they really are and what motivates them. Thus, the only proper way to address all of them would be simply as …‘gentlemen.’”
How long have you been doing this online?
“Entering my 7th year as head mistress for the website jaa4u.com.”
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“I host in my nice spacious condo and, come April 2020, it’ll be an even more spacious house – all decorated with ‘furnishings of pleasure.’
“A dungeon is so ‘meme.’ It lacks imagination – as does the ‘red and black’ trope of mistress garb.
“To be unique, one only needs two things: a playful imagination and a deep understanding of what motivates men.”
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“My aim is to leave behind the constraints of being born Thai – to live and travel abroad as a Mistress never needing to return here. Pleasure and money are a means to an end to me.”
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“It’s more than a full time Occupation. I sorely need a staff, but since that’d take away the intimacy of personal communication lines which we develop through email, having someone work for me is a major no-no. Thus, I’m resigned to these 18-hour days.
“But I enjoy it.”
Are you satisfied with this level of involvement?
“It fluctuates. Sometimes I’m raring to go, and, other times, I need a huge step back from what I do.”
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? E.g., How old are you? Are you in a relationship? (Conventional? Alternative/BDSM?) What is your sexual orientation? Etc.
“I’m in my 30’s as I write this, just coming into my own as a woman. Anyone who’s envisioned walking a mile in my shoes would know that a conventional relationship is far removed from what I consider possible. It’d be like asking a soldier in the middle of an assault to stop, smell some flowers and contemplate life. The surroundings of my life, same as said soldier, just don’t allow for one to entertain something that for others seems so normal.
“As for ‘sharing,’ that I’ve done over the 700 stories I’ve written for my blog. My heart and soul is properly on display there for all who wish to truly know me.”
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – is possible? Yes, of Course; I Don’t Know; I Don’t Care; No.
“What a truly funny question.
“To try and encapsulate the thoughts, feelings and motivations of an entire gender into 4 possibilities is pointless. How about … of the millions of men who at some point confront their bisexuality, perhaps each has a unique story that can be told and properly answered only by themselves.”
Which of the following, if any, do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish as?
“An exploration of a man’s fantasy.”
There are actually a few names for this fetish – “coerced bi,” “forced bi,” etc. Which, if any, do you prefer – and why?
“Unless it’s rape, there’s nothing ‘coerced’ or ‘forced’ about it. Even slamming some guy’s head balls deep on a 12-inch dick until they involuntarily throw up saliva [isn’t ‘coerced’ because it] is what they truly want to experience.
“If that weren’t the case, they wouldn’t show up at my condo in the first place.
“These are words we like to use to paint a picture. George Carlin[1] has a great bit on how we use words to allow ourselves to think about something in a particular light. But, really, it’s all just bullshit.
“It’s rare to find an individual who’ll write to me for his session request and leave it at ‘Hey Mistress, what kind of imaginative things can you do with me you and a ladyboy present?’
“Usually I get ‘Mistress, though I’ve never ever thought of even sucking a cock…’
“Yeah, right! And I’ve never thrown a chunk of broccoli under the table to a dog, either.”
In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well. Do you see it primarily in terms of (A.) male submission, (B.) male and female submission, (C.) both, or (D.) neither?
“Of course, B. To say otherwise suggests females don’t have similar fantasies to males.”
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” probably means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting? A. Coercion. B. Commandment/Ordering. C. Encouragement. D. Enticement. E. Inducement. F. Instruction. G. Permission. H. Persuasion. I. Provocation. J. Seduction. K. Something else.
“Though I use all of these in various forms at various times – depending on the situation – I’d have to say ‘J,’ because that’s what I’m best at: seduction.”
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation?
“Who the fuck knows? Every guy is different.”
Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.) A. Sure; Why Not? B. I Think It’s Possible for Him to Function as a Switch. C. I Don’t Know. …
“This. Definitely, this[:]” D. No. (Deep down, he’s either passive and therefore a bottom, or active and meant to be a top.)
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be “attention whores.” Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing. Do any of these resonate with you?
“This is like asking a gynecologist how he likes to view the woman’s pussy he’s examining.”
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women. What do you think?
“I don’t fuck guys; I use them in bed, if they’re lucky enough to elicit that desire from me. I couldn’t give a shit either way if he’s bi or not. At that point I’m only interested in the 60 seconds that I need his cock to give myself an orgasm.”
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? (Here, we mean it is positive and helpful for a male sub’s flourishing, or is it negative and unhelpful? For physical health and STD risk, see “Limits” section, below.)
“{rolls eyes} This is starting to feel like those 4-hour Economics exams I had back in University where, by the 4th hour, I’m thinking just how anal retentive the professor’s life must be to come up with his 400th question on the Utility of Economic Supply and Demand Theory.”
If you think it’s healthy, why is it healthy?
“‘The four types of economic utility are: form, time, place, and possession, whereby utility refers to the usefulness or value that consumers experience from a product. The economic utilities help assess consumer purchase decisions and pinpoint the drivers behind those decisions.’[2]
“Hey. I haven’t ordered food yet. Do you think I should get garlic-basted crab this evening, or splurge for Nordic Salmon with lemon?”
If you think it’s neutral, why?
“Dear god, these questions are getting a bit vain. Somebody’s put wayyyyyyy too much thought into dudes just wanting to have a good time for a few hours.”
If you think it’s unhealthy, why is that?
“Oh, it’s so unhealthy. Once a guy does forced bi, do you know what happens? He becomes a pagan worshipper. And worse, he begins masturbating to Chuck Norris infomercials which begets a slippery slide into endlessly watching Richard Simmons workout videos and, after that, there’s just no coming back.”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“Pagan worshipping is not something to be taken lightly. After one goes forced bi, we’ll have cats and dogs living together, guys jacking off to the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man. Mass hysteria!”
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name. Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“Truth: I’ve had more fun eating broccoli than I’ve had answering these questions (after the 100th of such questions).
“John Money is a reincarnated John Ritter, and since John Ritter in Three’s Company wished Chrissy and Janet would force him to suck that guy with the dark curly hair’s cock …I think it’s safe to say that John Money has a coerced viewpoint when it comes to forced binarism. In fact, forced binarism was and still is a path to Communism. And once we envision Stalin running around in pink, polka-dot undies and giving head to all his cabinet ministers, well …I think I’ve made my point very clearly, don’t you?”
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“Holy fuck! I just scrolled down and realized that there’s 5 more pages of this shit.
“That’s fucking unreal. How about this fact: with the advent of social media, people’s focus tends to be held for only a matter of seconds due to the ‘peek and flick’ nature of Twitter, Facebook, et al.
“If you’re indeed reading this far into this survey, then I have 3 things to say about your personality. 1) You’re by far the person who’s walked the line of ‘should I or shouldn’t I?’ the farthest and, heck, you may straddle the thought of whether or not to get somebody to make you suck dick another 30 years. Which’ll mean that by the time you actually suck a cock, you’ll 100 years old and without teeth …and it’ll be the best face fuck that 97-year-old young stud has ever had in his life. 2) Holy shit; you have the attention span of the guy in ‘A Clockwork Orange’ – the dude who had his eyelids forced open. 3) You should really eat. It’s taken you like 16 hours to reach this point.
“Go get some Forced-Bi flavored Häagen-Dazs, will ya?
“Oh, and to answer the question above: deep throat fucking and gagging… and giggling my ass over it.”
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“What? No mention of sheep? I prefer the sheep to be on top and the guy on the bottom to be versatile. Probably he’s a New Zealander if we’re talking versatility and sheep, amiright? Lol.”
Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m amused by the length of this questionnaire.
“I have no doubts that the guy who’s written all this out has never sucked a dick in his life but has jacked off over 1-million times to the thought of it. And I have been sucked into answering all this shit just so he can squeeze one more out.
“Here’s hoping that cumshot hits the roof.
“As for the proper answer …I’m indifferent.”
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“If the guy fucking him goes by the name of Bubba, and has just served 10-20 of hard time in solitary, and carries a 14-inch-long and 4-inch-thick dick that he’s madly intent on going balls deep as hard as he can until the guy he’s fucking dies of blood loss… then I think, yeah, …it just may be a ‘one and done’ sort of thing.”
What are you interested in doing?
“If they don’t show up, then I ain’t gettin’ paid. Means to an end, baby. Means to an end.”
How “involved” do you like to be?
“I like hanging upside down from the chandelier while tossing pizza dough onto the guys below. It adds a certain je ne sais quois to the session, while at the same time offering a fucking fantastic viewpoint.”
What is your biggest focus/turn on?
“My turn on is, and always has been, that guys will do absolutely anything I ask of them. Because I’m fucking hot, and guys will do absolutely anything for a hot babe with attitude.”
What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries?
“What I like best is: I love circus trapeze artists swinging 100 feet above the ground and landing a perfect swinging anal entry on a bound and suspended victim who’s about to get the hardest forced entry of his life. I’d even buy popcorn for such a show. Not the microwave popcorn. I’m talkin’ old-style, shake-the-pot-on-top-of-the-stove popcorn. And douse it with melted butter and a pinch of salt.”
Do you have any limits?
“I draw the line at forced castration – usually… but not always.
“Strangely, I do have for some reason a replica French Revolution guillotine in my bedroom just in case the mood persuades me.”
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”)?
“What I do is I go and find a guy with an ass festering with puss, pimples, and a fungal growth growing out of his asshole. Then I stand back and say, ‘do you wanna use a condom for this?’
“I don’t know if they would use a condom though, as before I can get a reply they’ve parachuted out of the 25th floor balcony here.”
Relatedly, some Mistresses insist on safety because Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in a sub are completely undesirable. Others don’t care either way. Some even profess to find it a turn on to see a guy engage in risky gay sex. How do you feel about STDs and STD risk?
“If the sub dies, I get no future revenue. So having my slaves die due to std’s is a bad business practice in general. Lol.”
How do you feel about married men?
“All the dudes who book a session with me are married men. I’m their fantasy, their dream girl – the one they should have married instead of the ball and chain they have back home.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“Bring them for the session, cuz if the cops in my country do a roadside search – which they’re prone to do (to extract their bribe money that they use to go to the whore house and get laid) – then the ‘slave’ has to pay half his life savings to stay out of prison. And the session becomes a Humiliation, Pay-Pig session. So, it’s like a 3 in 1 for me. Lol.”
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex?
“The real question here is ‘How do I feel about that last Ghostbusters movie?’ To which I may or may not write a blog story about soon.
“Holy shit ….!!! Do I actually see the word ‘Final’ down below??????
“Fuck! The world might be ending. It’s been so long answering all this much. How old am I now? Lemme go check the calendar real quick.”
Final Questions: Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct? (E.g., “Blackmail,” CBT, Cum-Eating; Pegging/Strapon, Etc.)
“Yeah. There’s like a 100 of them on the blog I’ve been writing for the past decade. Go check it out, will ya? jaa4u.com.”
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? (Do you have any social media accounts or websites to share?)
“https://twitter.com/FemDom_Bangkok
“mailto:mistress.pasaya@gmail.com”
(All photographs in this post are Copyright Mistress Jaa, 2019. They are reproduced here with express permission of the copyright holder.)
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Notes:
[1] The late, American stage comedian.
[2] Mistress Jaa quotes, here, from J. B. Maverick, “What Are the Four Types of Economic Utility,” Investopedia, Jul 8, 2019, <http://investopedia.com/ask/answers/032615/15/what-are-four-types-economic-utility.asp>.