Today, Forced-Bi continues its parade of interviews with a dynamic yet sensual (and bosomy!) Mistress.
Hello and welcome!
To get the ball rolling… What name do you go by?
“Miss Kelle Martina.”
I understand from your website that you pronounce it /kel/ not /KEL-ee/. So, readers are forewarned against flubbing that one!
Now, there are various adjectives, epithets, modifiers, or monikers that women in your area use. Which – if any – do you think of yourself as, or prefer? “Alpha,” “brat,” “domme,” “mean girl,” …
“I’m a sensual Domme.”
Okay, so a domme/domina? And sensual? All right. That will be fun to explore.
Do you have any special reason for this preference?
“I like to be in control, but I don’t need to raise my voice to get my way. I use sensuality and pleasure to control.”
I knew it would be fun!
All right, so… as a sensual domme, what do you see yourself as doing in your sessions? I mean, are you simply living out a lifestyle? Are you role playing? Having fun? Being a social activist? What’s going on with you?
“It’s a lifestyle. This is who I am… pretty much all the time.
“But it’s also a spiritual exercise. I’m definitely using sex for the pursuit of spiritual enlightenment.”
Very cool! We’ve actually written on some cool, forced-bi-related stories in ancient mythology – if you can believe that one! (See “Does Forced Bi Have Its Origins in Mythology?”)
Let’s jump to the other side for a moment. People approach you – guys. What words best describe the kind of guy who seeks you out? Are they “betas,” “losers,” “subs,” etc.?
“They’re ‘slaves’ or ‘subs.’ But there is nothing inherently shameful about choosing to give over control, so I don’t use humiliating terms, generally speaking.
“However, I greatly enjoy consensual humiliation scenes. I understand it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.”
That’s another facet of your sensuality, I’ll bet. Awesome.
So, here’s an almost obligatory question for this sort of interview. What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?
“I was always kinky, so as I began to read and learn about BDSM, I found out how tied together many fetishes were. Bondage was my gateway drug into BDSM, and forced bi was a fetish I was naturally drawn to once I discovered that I liked seeing two men enjoying each other sexually.
“That is my strong preference. But helping people explore that desire for same-sex attraction is very similar, so it wasn’t a long shot.”
You were already in the vicinity! Fair enough.
I appreciate the phrase “gateway drug.” It’s been a topic of great interest for me. To some degree, a sexy Mistress – like you – can definitely be a “gateway drug” into homosexual sex for seemingly heterosexual guys.
How long have you been doing this online?
“I’ve been at it a long time. Around 12 years!”
Wow. Congrats! Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets? Or is this online only for you?
“Absolutely. I take appointments from all respectful applicants, regardless of experience.”
Sweet! Readers take note!
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“While this is my career, I do this because I have a passion for it. Without the financial support, I would not be able to offer my time, experience, and emotional labor to anyone who applied, but it would still be a part of my life even if I did not do it as a career.”
Well said.
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“It’s a full-time occupation.”
Would you change anything about your time commitment? Do you wish it was more or less or about the same?
“I’m satisfied where things are at.”
I’m happy for you! Not everyone is in that kind of position. It’s an enviable place to be.
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? E.g., How old are you? Are you in a relationship? (Conventional? Alternative/BDSM?) What is your sexual orientation? Etc.
“I’m a pansexual BDSM player who has personal and professional relationships. I don’t cross those lines, but I do consider those who devote themselves to me online and in-person to be relationships as well. I take good care of my boys (and girls!). I’m in my late twenties and expect to be doing this work in some capacity as long as there are willing supplicants.”[1]
Ha! Nice! I love that turn of phrase, too: “willing supplicants.”
Okay, let’s get a little more analytical.
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males is possible?
“I’d say true bisexuals are ones who call themselves ‘bisexual.’ There is no need for an exact 50/50 desire, nor is it expected. This may change and grow as a person evolves and learns about themselves. Generally, people are just attracted to whom they are attracted to.”
So…what is forced bi to you? Lifestyle? Game? Hobby?
“It’s different for everyone.
“Just please identify it (or let me help you identify it) and don’t say you’re a ‘lifestyle forced-bi slave’ if you’ve never sucked cock and only want to talk about it when you’re jerking off!”
Ha! Good call! You know guys well! Lol.
There are actually a few names for this fetish. “Coerced bi,” “enforced gay,” “forced bi,” yada, yada. What do you call it?
“Forced bi/forced bisexuality.”
Pretty standard.
In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission… both? What do you think?
“It can be both. It can pertain to male or female submission.”
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” probably means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting? Is it “coercion,” “encouragement,” “inducement,” “permission,” “persuasion,” “seduction”? What is it? (Fuck it; I’ll threaten if I want. At least, I’ll apply pressure.)
“Again, every person attracted to this fetish comes at it from a different desire. I’m willing to use any of these to achieve my ends.”
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation?
“I wouldn’t say it’s a strong ‘no.’ But it’s probably a weaker ‘no.’ I don’t think that all guys who come to me are latent homosexuals. Some might be. But I also don’t think that I modify anyone’s sexuality. Straight men might engage in forced-bi activities as expressions of obedience, submission, and subordination.”
Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.)
“Sure; why not? (Some people are a bit of both – active and passive.)”
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be “attention whores.” Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.
Do any of these resonate with you?
“Yeah, they do. I like viewing guy-on-guy sex the way men might enjoy viewing girl-on-girl sex.”
Nice!
“I also like the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects. It’s kind of like a twisty therapy.
“But honestly, I mean, I literally just like anything gay.”
“I like anything gay”! I give that quote of the day!
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women.
What do you think?
“Bisexual guys are more attractive to me or desirable than straight guys. This might open the door to male-male-female threesomes. (But I’m not going to assume someone is into group sex because they are bisexual.)”
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? I mean…is it good for the sub, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, whatever?
“It’s healthy! I want my subs to fulfill their cock-whore destinies. I’m really freeing them and doing them a service.”
If you think it’s healthy, why is it healthy?
“It can be productive self-discovery or self-exploration. Or it could be that I free up a latent homosexual to be who he really is deep down. …All of the above could be true!”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“Not really, in the sense that I’m religious or spiritual in other areas, but I don’t see religion as relevant to forced bi per se.
“However, I’m also into ‘religious fetishes.’ So… if bi or homosexual sex happened to be against the sub’s religion, then that fact would make the ‘forced bi’ scenes that much more exciting to me.”
Oh? Now that’s interesting! I really like that.
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“No, not at all.”
Right on. Okay… let’s do a deeper dive into your thoughts on the activities that go into forced-bi scenes.
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching? Anal sex, cock sucking, creampies, cum eating, facials, kissing, rimming, etc.?
“Mostly, I enjoy seeing cock sucking/oral sex – whether it’s one-sided, or mutual (for example 69ing); cum eating and cum swallowing; bukkake or facials; and gay kissing.”
Gotcha. Not so much into anal sex or penetration?
“Butt sex is still good though. But it’s just not as exciting for me as oral and cum eating.”
Fair enough.
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“I definitely prefer having one dedicated bottom/passive partner (the beta, bitch, catcher, cocksucker, or cumdump; etc.) and one dedicated top/active partner (the alpha, cum donor, pitcher, stud, or stunt cock; etc.).”
So, readers will wonder: Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m both aroused and amused.”
That’s awesome!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Sure. Maybe a particular guy likes it; maybe he doesn’t.”
What are you interested in doing? Just fantasy? Or…encouragement to have a guy try actual, in-the-flesh same-sex encounters?
“I’m willing to explore wherever the sub wants to go.”
The old joke about a person being a “try-sexual.” If it’s possible, they’ll try it!
“And… push a little if they also desire.”
It is “forced bi,” after all! Nice!
How “involved” do you like to be? Just instruct from a distance? Have guys submit photos of videos to you after the fact? Watch via webcam? Or actually direct in person?
“Whatever I can get!”
Ha! I like your style!
So, what is your biggest focus/turn on? Power?
“For me, it’s mostly about the gay sex.”
No kidding? Wow! Cool! You really do like gay sex!
“I just adore cocks going into males’ mouths and assholes.”
Especially mouths? Per your previous remarks. Lol!
I’m thinking I can predict this next answer. What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries?
“I love cocksuckers. I really get off on getting guys to suck cock.”
Yep. That’s hot.
Do you have any limits?
“I have a few. But they apply to me rather than to my subs! Mostly, they are things I am not willing to do; subs can do it all.”
Okay. That kind of surprises me. But… roger that one!
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”)?
“I don’t care either way. The guys can do what they want, as long as it’s consensual. It’s not my ass; and I’m not going to fuck them.”
There’s a little darker streak in there.
Let’s see how far it goes.
Some Mistresses insist on safety because Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) in a sub are completely undesirable. Others don’t care either way. Some even profess to find it a turn on to see a guy engage in risky gay sex.
How do you feel about STDs and STD risk?
“I am always going to encourage safe sex with my subs.”
Fair.
“But, in the end, it’s about their own consensual sex life, and is up to them and their partners to communicate the level of risk they are willing to accept.”
That’s kinky.
Still thinking about Forced-Bi encounters, how do you feel about married men?
“I don’t care either way. I don’t even ask about that.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“I oppose their use. Keep them away from me.”
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex? Is this a possibility or genuine worry?
“The question is malformed. I don’t think they will be ‘addicted.’”
Thank you.
Just a few final things…
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct? (E.g., “blackmail,” cock-and-ball “torture” [CBT], crossdressing, cum-eating, cum-eating instruction [CEI], humiliation, pegging/strapon, small-penis humiliation [SPH], Etc.)
“A lot! Too many to list here! But for those interested in in-person BDSM sessions, check out my interests here: https://studiosanctuary.com/staff/kellemartina/interests/.”
Awesome! Thanks!
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? (Do you have any social media accounts or other websites to share?)
“In-Person BDSM sessions: https://StudioSanctuary.com
“My Site: www.MissKelle.com
“Social Media: www.Twitter.com/KelleMartina and www.Instagram.com/KelleMartina
“Video Stores: Clips4Sale: www.clips4sale.com/miss-kelle-martina; Kinkbomb: https://www.kinkbomb.com/studio/KelleMartina; IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/1007/Kelle-Martina; and ManyVids: https://www.manyvids.com/Profile/1000886450/KelleMartina/.”
That’s fantastic! Interested readers should absolutely check you out!
You’ve been a real treat. Thank you for coming on today!
(All photographs are Copyright 2019 Kelle Martina. They are reproduced on this webpage by permission.)
For other Mistress interviews, see the following links!
- Goddess Asari
- Goddess Brandon
- Goddess Lilith
- Goddess Macha
- Laci Sedona
- Miss Elena De Luca
- Miss Kelle Martina
- Mistress Ava Zhang
- Mistress Emma Switch
- Mistress Jaa
- Mistress Lux
- Princess Meggerz
- Sabina Erotica
- Selene Pain
Notes:
[1] For more basic information, see here: http://misskelle.com/.