Hello, out there! Today’s guest bills Herself as an innovator whose distinctive methodology could be described as a blend — or, perhaps a cocktail 😉— of Domination and Sex Education.
Hi and welcome!
Please, introduce yourself to everyone!
“Mistress Chlöe Fresh is my official title, but I also answer to ‘Goddess,’ ‘Daddy,’ or ‘Sir Chlöe’ (depending on the scene).”
Thanks for speaking to us, Mistress Chlöe!
To get the ball rolling, as it were, let me ask the obvious. How did you get into fetishes in general and Forced Bi in particular?
“I became involved in kink and BDSM in my early twenties with a former partner. We started with some of the more cliché role play scenarios, but then moved into crossdressing and pegging.”
Yumm! I’m sure more than a few readers will be envious!
“It was a really wonderful dynamic, because it was the first relationship in which I got to express and explore my masculinity – and he got to explore his femininity.
“After a few months of dating, he shared with me that he thought he might be bisexual. But he wasn’t sure, and had never been with a man.
“I ended up facilitating a scene for him with a hot gay man I knew, after providing some anal training and pegging, so he would be prepared to bottom.”
You certainly had his back(side!), as it were!
“I set everything up for them. When the day arrived for them to have sex, I got to watch him get fucked.”
Mmmm… so hot!
“It was incredibly sexy, and it made me realize that forced bi was a huge turn-on for me.”
And… it’s already getting hot in here!
Okay, how about a little theory? In Forced Bi, what does “force” actually mean to you?
“The term ‘force’ falls under the umbrella of consensual non-consent (CNC) in that I fully negotiate my scenes with clients beforehand to ensure informed – and enthusiastic! – consent. (This includes discussions of STI status, condom use/barrier protection, etc.)
“But, the scene itself is fully controlled by me.”
Interesting!
“Most of the time, my forced-bi sessions start off with some playful encouragement and enticement.”
Could you give us a for-instance?
“I might ask ‘Would you really do anything for me?’ Or, I may say: ‘It would be sooo hot if you sucked my friend’s dick and let him fuck your ass while I watched.’”
Oh…mercy… What were we talking about?!? My mind just went blank…
“A lot of my clients are seeking permission to explore their fantasies. They just need the extra nudge of a Domme to get them to feel comfortable and confident enough to act.”
So… we’re talking mostly persuasion?
“I do have some clients who enjoy feeling more coerced or ‘blackmailed’ into sex acts with people of the same gender.”
Okay! That’s intense!
“In those cases, ‘force’ typically takes place in the context of a roleplay. For instance, maybe they are my employee, and I catch them committing a fireable offense. Their only option to save their job is to prove to me that they are serious about their career – through forced bi, of course!”
Haha! As if we hadn’t hoped!!
You mentioned crossdressing and pegging when you were giving us some highlights from your own journey. Do you think that sort of thing can lead a guy into Forced Bi? Or are they not linked?
“In my experience, exploring gender expression through crossdressing is a separate interest that can, but does not necessarily, overlap with an interest in forced bi.”
Fair enough.
“A person’s interest in crossdressing does not dictate their sexual orientation. Nor does sexual orientation dictate gender expression.
“Sometimes people assume there’s a connection. At the crux of this assumption – that these interests may lead someone into forced bi – is American society’s tendency to conflate gender identity and expression with sexual orientation.
“To understand this conflation, we must look at the history of pathologizing queerness in many Western cultures. Of particular interest is the term ‘sexual inversion,’ which was popularized by sexologists in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.”[1]
My understanding is that “sexual inversion” held, basically, that same-sex attracted men were really females, psychologically – even though they had the anatomy of males. Similarly, lesbian women were held to be covert males.
“This pathologization relied on the assumption that men with a sexual and/or romantic interest in other men, must therefore act femininely and dress in feminine clothing; while women who were sexually and/or romantically attracted to other women must – inherently – act masculinely or dress in masculine clothing.”
It sounds strange to us nowadays, for sure. But it’s worth mentioning that almost all the earliest sexologists were progressive when examined in their historical context.[2]
“You didn’t think you’d be getting a history lesson, now did you?”
Haha! I never know how a conversation might develop! It’s fascinating, though.
“I have certainly had clients who love being feminized and ‘pimped out’ because it helps them feel affirmed in their gender. However, I do not believe that one interest necessarily leads to the other.”
Fair enough. What’s your opinion about pegging?
“When it comes to pegging and strapon sessions, I would say that many, if not most, of my clients (most of whom are cis-gender men) only enjoy prostate stimulation by a femme person.
“That being said, I can understand how pegging may pique an interest in exploring different anal sensations – like the feeling of a real cock in their ass.”
Relatable!
“All in all, I’d say there is certainly crossover. But I don’t consider crossdressing or pegging to be ‘gateway drugs’ that lead to forced bi.
“Prostate stimulation feels good, regardless of a person’s sexual orientation!”
Haha! Right on!
Since we’ve already jumped into the deep end (no pun intended – or, maybe… pun intended!! …question mark!!) of theory, what do you think: Does Forced Bi change a sub’s sexual orientation?
“No, I think forced bi is a way to explore one’s sexuality, but each of us has the right to define our sexual orientation on our own terms.
“For some people, the experience of forced bi may lead them to change how they identify. But, for others, it is simply an act of service to please their Dominant.
“Like any sexual behavior, if it provides enough of a dopamine hit or unlocks intense arousal, forced bi could become a part of one’s sexual arousal template, but I am not someone who believes that sexual behavior should be pathologized as an ‘addiction’ like drugs or alcohol.
“All that being said, I may tease my clients during a scene by implying that the experience has ‘made them gay.’ But I only do that if that is pre-negotiated.
“And I don’t actually believe it to be true, but it arouses many of my clients.”
Now that I’m picturing being under your thumb in a session, I’m wondering who most of your clients are. For example, are your Forced-Bi subs always/usually males?
“I would say that most of the people I’ve encountered seeking forced-bi sessions are cis-gender men. But I’m sure there are people of any gender that would enjoy the experience.
“My assumption as to why so many forced-bi fetishists are cis-men is due to them being socialized in an environment of toxic masculinity. Boys are raised to believe that queerness makes them somehow ‘less’ of a man. So, many of them do not feel safe exploring sexual experiences with other men for fear of social isolation, retaliation, and/or violence.
“Forced bi provides them ‘plausible deniability’ while allowing them to explore these desires in a scene – most often with a Dominant woman or femme.”
Makes sense.
“When it comes to femininity, however, bisexuality is often eroticized and encouraged – so long as it benefits the male gaze.”
Can you explain what you mean by “benefits the male gaze?”
“Many women and femme folks may not require a Dominant to ‘force’ them into these experiences because society already thrusts it upon them in an objectifying manner.”
I gotcha. You mean to the degree that men find a particular expression of bisexuality arousing.
“I’d be interested to see how this script could be inverted in a kink scene, in which there is no male gaze, but a female gaze in the form of a Dominatrix.”
I take it that some of my interviewees – or prospective interviewees – think something similar about the scenes they preside over.
“Honestly, this sounds really cathartic, and I’d love to explore that with some straight, queer, or questioning femmes and ‘thems’!”
Haha!
Do you have a preference in terms of your clientele: between bottoms or tops, for instance?
“When it comes to clients being ‘bottoms’ or ‘tops,’ I like both. But, most of them seem to be interested in bottoming for forced bi.”
Haha…guilty.
“I wonder if this might be due to many of them identifying as submissives or bottoms in the kink scene and viewing forced bi as another way to ‘endure’ discomfort to please their Mistress.”
It’s one of the possibilities in “logical space,” for sure. Human psychology is multifaceted. And, and you alluded to, there’s also the physiology of pleasure and pain to factor in. Point being: a sub might begin with one motivation and then segue into others. And, addiction or no, we’re creatures of habit! The more a person engages in an activity, the more “automatic” and ingrained it may become.
Speaking of activities – wink, wink! – what do you especially enjoy overseeing when it comes to Forced-Bi scenes?
“For one thing, I certainly love teasing clients and using it as a ‘threat’ during a non-forced-bi scenes.”
Oh, wow. Haha!
“However, I mostly enjoy getting to witness in-the-flesh activities.”
Now we’re talkin’!
“I’d say my favorite activities to oversee are cock sucking, cum eating, and anal sex.”
Mmmm… excellent choices, if I may say so! Bwahaha!
Do you permit bareback, or is this all condoms-only?
“Most of my forced-bi sessions include condom use and barrier protection – unless all parties have been tested and have agreed to the risks associated with …certain activities.”
I usually say, I came to Forced Bi partially via bukkake and gloryhole porn! Haha. Everything is bareback in my imagination!
“I have yet to oversee a bukkake scene. But that sounds incredibly fun!”
Doesn’t it, though?!? I’d be “totes jelly” (as the youngsters say) of anyone for whom you arranged that sort of extravaganza!
I have to ask: Does Forced Bi arouse you, or just amuse you? Something else?
“Forced bi definitely arouses me.”
Oooh! That’s my favorite answer!
“The majority of my clients being cis men, I love how visually apparent arousal and orgasm can be.”
Mmmm… yes. Indeed. I certainly see what you’re saying, there!
“And being able to witness two men visibly enjoying themselves? That’s a huge turn on.
“I also love the power trip of it all. It is so incredibly hot to know that my subs will do anything to please me.”
Ahem. Yes! Gosh… am I the only one feeling a little lightheaded?? Evidently, my body is rerouting the blood flow away from my brain!
Do you have a scene that sticks out in your mind?
“My most memorable forced-bi session was also a double-Domme session with a sub and two ‘bulls.’
“The other Domme – shoutout to Philadelphia’s Skyler Grey – and I played with each other while the bulls worshiped our asses and tits. Then they took turns fucking and spit-roasting the submissive.”
Have mercy!
“We went back and forth between the sub face-sitting while being pegged and being spit-roasted.”
Could you pause for a sec? I think I need a cold shower really fast.
“It culminated with the two bulls cumming all over the sub’s face while Skyler and I teased the bulls and kissed each other.”
Um…GAWD. Please tell me that I can find that video clip somewhere! Haha!!! FUCK, that’s hot!
Has that become an option on your fetish menu, so to speak?
Okay… now I have to ask: How do you see yourself? Are you on the “light side,” playfully promoting healthy exploration; or the “dark side,” corrupting and tempting men to disaster like a mythical siren? (Something in between? Something else?)
“I would describe my Domme persona as a playful and nurturing seductress who turns on you when you feel safe and least expect it.
“But I’m also a sexuality educator. So, I tend to be very pro-healthy-exploration – unless, that is, the client expressly wishes to be used and abused.”
Mmmm… yum!
Speaking of “used and abused”: Do you have any limits? For example, you mentioned bareback earlier. Is that a live option? How do you feel about guys “barebacking”
“I do not oversee barebacking sessions unless there has been a seriously lengthy pre-negotiation where I can ensure everyone is informed of, and consenting to, the risks of such play.”
Roger that.
“I need to ensure that everyone involved is of sound mind, knows that they can back out at any point, and are people I trust to respect me and each other.”
Fair enough. It’s a business, after all. Right? Can’t have excessive liabilities.
Same goes for “poppers”?
“When it comes to poppers, I generally don’t allow any drug use during professional sessions because it impedes their ability to consent.”
I hadn’t thought of that angle.
“But …more so because it may impact their ability to know whether things are moving too fast for their body to handle – especially if this is their first time experiencing a dick inside of them.”
I understand. That I have considered!
“I don’t want anyone getting injured because they didn’t realize there wasn’t enough lube, or because their ass couldn’t handle what was being thrust into it so quickly!”
Painfully true!
What’s your opinion of married men coming to you?
“My opinion on seeing married men is that I always ask if their spouses know that they are seeing me. If not, I will not do any forced-bi scenes that would put their spouses at risk for contracting an STI. So, no dick-sucking without a condom, no bareback, no cream pies, no bukkake, and no cum-eating.”
That might be a powerful incentive for them to be, um… straight with their wives!
Oh! Don’t forget to let readers know where they can find you online!
“You can find me online at my website, on IG, and on Twitter (X).”
And you also have a physical location?
“I provide in-person sessions in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania – and the outer suburbs – and I occasionally go on tour. I am also available on Niteflirt for texting and pre-scheduled phone calls.
“Lastly, I offer custom clips and sell pre-recorded clips directly.”
How can interested readers take advantage of those?
“Send all serious inquiries to ChloeFresh@protonmail.com.”
Thank you for being with us today, Mistress Chlöe!
“Hope to play with you all soon! Xx Chlöe”
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(All images of Mistress Chlöe Fresh are Copyright 2024, Mistress Chlöe Fresh. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com with permission.)
End Notes
[1] Noteworthy figures include Havelock Ellis, Magnus Hirschfeld, and Albert Moll.
[2] Most appear to have been motivated by a belief that homosexuality should be decriminalized. Even Baron Richard von Krafft-Ebing, whose Psychopathia Sexualis (published in 1886) would be considered “intolerant” by today’s standards, was driven by a desire to take homosexuality out of the courthouse and put it onto the psychoanalyst’s bench!