Hello and Happy New Year, Forced-Bi Land! 2024 already! Crazy!
Today, we have the experienced, yet approachable – and pansexual – Ms. Rita!
Welcome, welcome!
First thing’s first, how do you prefer to be addressed?
“Mistress Rita.”
Besides “Mistress,” are there any other honorifics that you enjoy – or tolerate, as it were?
“Domme, Mistress, or Goddess.”
Right on!
“My domination style is warmer and more loving than cold, cruel, or bratty. Though, I can play differently it in roleplay scenarios… if I feel like it!).”
If the mood strikes you!
“I identify as a down-to-earth Goddess type! I’ve just used the title ‘Mistress’ for a really long time. It’s just what I’ve used.”
Fair enough!
Is it ever anything beyond a roleplay?
“Sometimes it can approach a spiritual exercise, believe it or not.”
No kidding? Like… using your sessions to pursue enlightenment?
“For myself, the sub, or… both.”
Really quick: The people who seek you out… what do you call them?
“Sluts.”
Haha… guilty as charged!
Any particular reason?
“I just really like the word ‘slut’!”
Same!
“‘Slave’ has a negative connotation for me. ‘Sub’ is okay, but some guys who want Forced Bi aren’t actually submissive; they just want their fantasy, you know?”
I certainly do!
“I don’t identify as a ‘sadist,’ so I don’t say ‘masochist.’ ‘Betas’ makes me think of, like, ‘incels’ and mens’-rights guys. Ew.”
Haha.
“‘Slut’ works for me because, well… I’m gonna turn you into a slut!”
Mmmm… I’m good with it!
I know it’s hackneyed, but… what got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and Forced Bi in particular?
“I never identified as a particularly dominant woman ‘in real life.’ But I’m utterly fascinated by people’s sexuality and how many different kinds of sex there are.
“I’m very non-judgmental about fetishes, and what gets someone off – as long as it’s not actually hurting anyone. You know, not counting the consensual, ‘good’ kind of hurt!”
Roger that!
“I learned about BDSM while working at a sex-toy store that taught workshops in the early/mid 2000s. I’ve been a Pro Domme since 2007. I had a roommate who was a Domme, and she got me into it. I worked at many New York City [NYC] commercial dungeons before going independent.
“Once I started Domming, I was so interested to find that a lot of my male clients had fantasies about wanting to be coerced to be sexual with another man. Most of these sessions involved fantasy talk and had me teaching my client how to suck cock (on my dildo) and get fucked (by my strapon). All this is training for when I one day have them ‘take it’ from a dude.
“I don’t do a lot of ‘real life’ Forced-Bi sessions. But that doesn’t mean I won’t; and it doesn’t mean I haven’t!”
I read you – loud and clear!
How long have you been doing this online?
“A total of 17 years.”
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“I do. But… But I’m very selective.”
Interested readers can… apply?
“Sure.”
Is this business or pleasure?
“Both!”
I hear ya!
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“Oh, I’m full-time, all right.”
Is that where you want to be?
“Absolutely.”
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? E.g., How old are you? Are you in a relationship? What is your sexual orientation? Etc., etc.
“I am 45 and happily single.”
I can relate.
“I identify as pansexual.”
Lemme “drill down” – as it were – on Forced-Bi!
On its face, the “Forced-Bi fetish” involves “force” and “bisexuality.” Let’s talk about both for a moment.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” is possible?
“Yes, of course.”
Which of the following, if any, do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish as? I’m wondering about things like: is it a lifestyle choice, you already said role play, but… what about a power play, game or leisure pursuit or pastime, or – maybe – a trap??
“Not really anything to do with power or trapping anybody. But I can say lifestyle, role play, and something in the vicinity of a game.”
I gather you have something of a “light touch.”
“I feel that ultimately it’s a way for bi-curious men to have their desires fulfilled in a way that feels safe for them. And I’m happy to facilitate this.”
Haha… well, I’m happy that you’re a happy facilitator!
“Also, I think seeing a guy get to act on his fantasy of being with a guy for the first time is hot!”
Mmmm… goodness. I may need to open a window.
There are actually a few names for this fetish. Which, if any, do you prefer – and why?
“I call it ‘Forced Bi.’ But it is always consensual.”
I gotcha – 100%.
“It’s what he wants, ultimately, but is afraid to do. The ‘forced’ part is the fantasy.”
It’s the nudge. Copy that!
We have been speaking of this as though it’s exclusively the province of male sluts. Do you ever get females, trans folks, or others who are interested?
“I’ve never seen or done this with women / nonbinary people. So, I haven’t had experience with clients other than men.”
No worries; we just always wonder.
As far as goes the second core idea of being “Forced,” we say that – for legal reasons, if nothing else – it necessarily means less than literally compelled under threat. But that still leaves quite a lot of possibilities.
What it is for you? Coercion, Commandment, Encouragement, Enticement, Inducement, Instruction, Permission, Persuasion, Provocation, Seduction, or… something else?
“For me, it’s something between Encouragement and granting Permission.”
I gotcha.
“But I can roleplay any of the other scenarios, for sure.”
Oh? Hm. IN-ter-est-ing! Haha!
What do you think is going on with “Forced Bi”?
“Sexuality is a spectrum! I think it’s possible to be anything from a tiny bit to a lot queer. And I think it can shift around at different times throughout a person’s life.”
Or, perhaps, at different times in the day!
“I think there is a lot more queerness (even if it’s never acted on) in men than we think. I think it’s definitely more ‘acceptable’ in society for women to experiment with other women than it is for men with men.
“There is a lot of stigma, shame, and homophobia. So, these desires get pushed waaayyy down. I love bringing them to the surface and making them ‘okay.’”
I think I can anticipate your answer, but… is it possible for a guy to be a “switch”? Or, if you like, “versatile”?
“Absolutely.”
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. How does that resonate with you?
“Frankly, I like viewing guy-on-guy sex the way many men enjoy viewing girl-on-girl sex.”
Okay… how about this? Is bisexuality in general a “positive” quality in a guy? …in your opinion.
“Bisexual guys are – all things being equal – more attractive or desirable than straight guys. They’re more fun in bed. Bisexuality makes for exciting possibilities for threesomes and ‘moresomes’!”
Yummy!
Here’s another one I think you’ll say “yes” to. But, I’ll ask anyway. Is the Forced-Bi fetish “healthy”?
“It’s healthy. Yes, for sure.”
I thought so.
“I’m helping them feel freer to explore their desires.”
So… it’s productive exploration and self-discovery?
“You got it.”
Some Mistresses think that Forced-Bi-fetish guys are just latent homosexuals.
“I don’t know about ‘latent homosexuals.’ But… maybe they’re a ‘little queer’ and, probably, suffering from internalized homophobia.”
You said you sometimes think of Forced Bi in religious or spiritual terms. How do you mean?
“I definitely believe sex/BDSM can be deeply spiritual!
“It can be ritualistic.”
Like sex-magical?
“Yes, it can have a powerful transformative effect.”
Do you find it empowering?
“Yes, I derive power from Forced Bi or from getting guys to go through with it!”
Here lately, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But Forced Bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name. Do you see this as a problem for the “Forced-Bi” fetish?
“Yes, it can be a problem – being that, as we’ve discussed, sexuality isn’t necessarily binary. But there generally is a lot of problematic shorthand in BDSM language, isn’t there? For example, ‘master’ and ‘slave’?”
We have actually written on that very point!
“Maybe I could call it ‘queer encouragement’?”
Let’s step back from these abstract issues.
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
I thinking about: Cock sucking, anal sex, kissing, rimming, cum eating, facials, creampies, etc.
“All!”
Mmmm! Yay!
“But there’s just something about seeing a guy with a ‘real live’ cock in his mouth for the first time – especially after having him practice on my strapon until I think he’ll do a good job with the real thing – that fills me with such a sense of pride!”
Oh, goodness!
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I think, maybe because of porn, it is more well-known than it used to be.
“Also, I’m hearing from guys who are younger and younger – as young as 18 – who are curious about the fetish. I think younger people now are just able to explore their desires more than people used to be able to in the past. So, they’re more open about, and willing to act on, them now.”
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“I don’t really know.”
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role you want?
“Hmm, I’ve done every kind of scenario! But… I think having two switches is especially fun – more options!”
I always have to ask: Are you aroused by Forced Bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m aroused if it’s someone I’m aroused by – like… if I’m having a real-life lover or partner do it.”
Is that so…?
“Which… I have. A number of times.”
Pardon me a second. I need to collect my thoughts. Haha!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Sure. Maybe you like it and maybe you don’t.”
What are you most interesting in doing?
“I like being there in-person… to facilitate. Though, I can’t always provide ‘bulls.’”
I imagine it’s, um… hard to arrange – no pun intended.
How “involved” do you like to be? Are you just issuing instructions? Are you collecting photographic evidence or watching live streams? You sometimes direct in real life?
“All of the above.”
That’s great!
What is your biggest focus?
“I like seeing how much he likes it. What a good slut!”
What kind of Forced-Bi slut is your favorite? Cocksuckers? Cock-socket anal bottoms? Cumdumps? …
“While ‘cock socket’ is a fun term – never heard that before! – I’d probably say I have a soft spot for cocksuckers.”
Fair enough. Let’s talk limits.
Well… do you have any? Haha.
“I’m a safety girl! Safe-sex practices when possible, boys!”
You mean…
“Condoms! Also: No one too inebriated or under the influence to be ‘present’ enough to participate safely.”
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”) and STD / STI risk?
“I say the sub must stay clean. But I do know we’re all adults and are responsible for ourselves.”
Fair enough.
“I dunno, I grew up in the 80s and 90s. So, condom use was really ingrained in me. And I’m friends with a lot of nurses so I know there are a lot of gnarly STIs!”
How do you feel about married men? – for Forced Bi, I mean.
“While I’m picky about condom use, maybe I’m lacking in moral fiber? I say I don’t care either way. I don’t even ask!
“As far as that is concerned, it is not my business. You make your own decisions.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“I tolerate them. But… within reason. I mean, I’ve used them before myself!”
All right, then! Haha… hot!
How do you feel about guys really getting ‘addicted’ to gay sex?
“It’s a risk I’m willing to take!”
Bwahaha!
“I mean, sex addiction is an addiction like any other. But I think the ‘I’m-going-to-get-you-addicted’ talk is, like, dirty fantasizing a lot of the time.”
I understood. It’s not to be taken literally? Roger that.
Do you have any particularly memorable Forced-Bi session to share?
“Sure. Once upon a time, a female friend and I each had male partners who had fantasized about having sex with a man, but both were too shy to act on it.”
Oh, boy… I sense where this is going!
“She and I arranged a very special ‘surprise night’ at a hotel for them – and for us! It was so much fun to relax with cocktails with my friend while our slut boys sucked each other’s cocks.”
Mercy…
“They were so grateful for our ‘surprise’! And they didn’t need too much encouragement!”
Oh to have been a fly on the wall!
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?
“I love feminization and crossdressing. But, again, more in an encouraging way – not as humiliation, since I see it as powerful to be feminine, not humiliating. I also really enjoy strapon play.”
Mmmm!
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work?
“My website is MistressRita.com.
“And my Twitter handle is @RitaMistress.”
That’s awesome; thanks!
Don’t forget, also, to connect with us at @ForcedBisexual!
(Image Copyright 2024 by Mistress Rita; reproduced on Forced-Bi.com With Permission.)