W are so happy to bring you a Domme who has accomplished and exceptional, Midwest-based Domme who has, well… She’s has seen a lot. And, today, we’re going to be benefiting from her experiences and insight.
Hi! Welcome! Thank you for being here.
First of all, please tell us, what is your name?
“Mistress Simone.”
Right on. Do you sometimes fly under a different label?
“My online handle tends to be ‘Chicago Mistress’.”
I think that’s exactly what I was thinking!
Any other titles that you enjoy, prefer, or… tolerate, as it were?
“Ma’am.”
Okay! Any special reason? Just like the sound of it?
“It was given to me by my leather community — especially the LGBT segment. So, I prefer it as an honorific.”
It’s got sentimental appeal.
“I know some ladies do not like this word. But, I find it incredibly arousing coming out of the mouth of a submissive.”
To each, her own!
Fantastic!
How do you see the people who seek you out? Or, at least, what do you call them?
“‘Subs’ or ‘submissives’.
“I feel it fits those that seek me out better than other words – like ‘beta,’ ‘loser,’ etc.
“I also enjoy ‘masochists.’
“However, I hate placing people in boxes. So, I tend to only use labels when one reveals oneself to me.”
They’re “true nature,” so to say? Because of the variation?
“Not everyone is submissive that seeks a Dominatrix out.”
What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general?
“I ran the largest fetish store in Chicago in the 90s, and many of my customers were local Dominatrices.”
Ah. Interesting!
And how to you end up venturing into Forced Bi?
“Forced bi grew on me as my career developed – especially once I started working with other Mistresses, and we found double teaming on a bitch’s holes amusing.”
Haha! Mmm…
How long have you been at it, then?
“A long time!”
Lots of experience!
Now, this isn’t just online for you?
“I have two fully equipped dungeons.”
Ha! That’s a big “no!”
“As well, I prefer IRL[1] over online.”
Fair enough!
“More fulfilling for all! Lol!”
Haha! Agreed! In so, so many ways!
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“While I do not engage in this lifestyle only for money, I am a professional and my time is valuable.”
Understood.
“For a submissive to garner my attention, they must realize that and make it worth my time to give them attention.”
Readers – and would-be Chicago-Mistress subs – take note!
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“Full time! It has been my career for 27 years.”
Congratulations!
And, are you satisfied with where things are for you?
“Yes… even though COVID has hampered IRL connections.”
Right.
Before we move on, would you care to add anything about yourself – on either a personal or a professional level?
“I am a mature Mistress – over 50.
“I have been in this profession for 27 years.
“I identify as bisexual. So, all genders are welcome to see me.
“I live my life as a Mistress, with a main partner and a personal stable of submissives.”
Awesome! Thank you for that, Mistress Simone!
Now… about the “Forced-Bi” fetish, itself.
On the face of it, there are two pieces: (1) something about “force” and (2) something about “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males – is possible?
“Yes, but with qualifications.
“Everything is on a scale. Sexuality can range from 1 to 10 in terms of attraction.
“But, as I identify as bisexual, why would I not feel others are as well?”
Given that frame of reference, how do you see the fetish, particularly? For example, is it an extension of your lifestyle? Is it a game or pastime? A roleplay? …A trap?? Haha.
“I would say that it fits a combo of these – specifically, power trip, fun activity and can be a game.”
Fair enough!
What do you call the fetish?
“‘Coerced bi.’ Forced can imply lack of consent which, to me, is important in scenes.
“Coerced can include consent, especially if someone desires to do ‘forced bi’ to please me as the main goal.
“Regardless… whether they want to take cock or not, if it makes me happy, then…!”
Haha!
Right on, Mistress!
In practice, “Forced Bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“It can pertain to male or female submission. It can pertain to overall sexuality – for either gender.
“However, in my industry, it primarily pertains to males.”
Practically. I gotcha.
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. You explained your preference for the word “coerced.” But, even here, it seems to me that there could be some variation.
For legal reasons, “coerced” obviously has to mean something less than literally compelled by threat. But, what does that leave us with?
Commanding? Encouraging? Enticing? Inducing? Instructing? Permitting? Persuading? Provoking? Seducing? Just what does “coercing” come down to?
“All of these can pertain. It depends on the individual scene.”
Fair enough.
“One scene can be fun with it as a game, egging on the participants. Another can be a heavy prison fantasy, with commanding.
“It would be narrow-minded of me to reduce this, or any other, fetish down to one, single methodology.”
What do you think is going on with coerced bi? Does a guy actually “change” his sexual orientation?
“No. I do not think that sexual orientation always plays into this activity.”
Interesting.
“There can be other reasons for doing forced bi such as obedience, submission, etc.
“To say that all people who engage in this activity are gay is narrow-minded.”
Is it possible for a guy to be “versatile”? That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.
“People can be switches, sure. In fact, people who switch have the best of both worlds! In many ways they have more variety to choose from.”
Haha! Maybe so!
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex.
I’m curious, do the “optics” do anything for you?
“I do like the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects.”
Do you see it as a sort of activism or “therapy”? …in a loose manner of speaking?
“I like gender play and bending the norms of what society thinks gender means – but without the therapy aspect.”
I gotcha.
Do you think bisexuality affects a guy’s attractiveness, or desirability?
“Bisexual men are very hot.
“Plus, why should one fit into another’s box?
“Sex is about fluidity and expression. More freedom to express oneself comes from being open to different ideas.”
Is the Forced-Bi fetish “healthy,” then? …psychologically speaking, that is.
“…If done with consent and positivity, overall. There can be dark scenes, boundary pushing and extreme edge-play – all within agreement.”
But, when it’s consensual and “sex positive,” it’s healthy, because…
“It’s productive exploration and it assists subs in self-discovery.”
Roger that.
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“I would say that, if it has a component such as this, it lies along the lines of sex magic – ritual.”
Fair enough.
“Also, it could take on the roleplay of anti-religious and rebelling against societal norms, which then brings in the possibility of humiliation and degradation.”
A lot of different avenues – some of which a few people find verboten.
On a similar wavelength, nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine.” This appears to be a consequence of John Money’s concepts of “gender” and sexuality.
But coerced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name. Do you see this as a problem for the fetish?
“As stated earlier, gender is fluid. It can be 100% male, 100%female, or absent of either.”
Okay! On to the coerced-bi activities!
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“Cock sucking! Followed by cum eating / cum swallowing!”
Haha! Mmmm…
I’m feeling a bit absent-minded, all of a sudden!
Do you think that coerced bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“The more a specific fetish is shown in porn clips, the more it is requested.”
Haha! I’m hearing “yes”!
Programming at its finest!
Do you perceive that the coerced-bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“I don’t care.”
Fair enough!
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role you want?
“I prefer both guys to be flexible. I like to rotate the dynamics based on my mood.”
Mix and match?! Love it!
I have to ask: Are you aroused by coerced bi, or just amused by it?
“Both. Aroused and amused.”
Mmm… Yummy!!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“As my mother said, ‘How do you know you don’t like it ’til you try it?’.”
Haha!
What are you interested in doing? You mentioned your two dungeons. But, with COVID… Is this mostly fantasy chat, lately? Or do you encourage subs to have real, in-the-flesh, guy-on-guy encounters?
“Both.
“Once again, it depends on who I am playing with and where I want the scene to go.”
How “involved” do you like to be? Are you sitting back, just issuing instructions – or commands?? Are you watching sub-created home movies? Looking at candid “Snaps” sent from the local gloryhole? Are you tuning in to a live stream? Or… directing in one of your two physical locations?
“All the above.
“But… I prefer to either direct in person, or issue instructions.”
Right on.
Anything really get you going, as it were?
What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries?
“Cocksuckers!”
Lol! Mmmm…
Let’s talk limits for a sec.
First of all… do you have any?
“Oh, yes; sure. Many.”
May I follow up?
So, for instance… condomless sex? “Barebacking”?
“Safety is a priority for me.”
Respect.
“I strive to keep my stable – as well as clients – clean.”
Understood.
So, with respect to STD/STI risk, it goes without saying, then…
“The sub has to be clean. That means safe sex, for sure.”
What about married men? Limit for you?
“I don’t care either way. I don’t even ask.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers – so-called “poppers”?
“No. I want my engagement with the sub to be the high.
“Get off on what we are doing. Feel the natural high.”
Fair enough!
Do you have any particularly memorable coerced-bi session – or sessions – to share?
“At one of the femdom parties we had, we held a blow-job contest to see which of the males could give the best head!”
Oh, gawd! Mmm…
“Another time, I had one male sub bound to my spanking bench while other males used his holes repeatedly.”
Mmmmm.. Is it getting warm in here?
What else are you into?
“I am a huge CBT[2] aficionado, loving all aspects of it.
“Sissification and crossdressing are enjoyments.
“Heavy bondage is one of my main kinks.”
Mmm… Kinky stuff!
Before you go…!
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work?
“www.twitter.com/chicagomistress
“www.niteflirt.com/Mistress_Simone.”
Thank you so much, Mistress Simone!
Just a reminder to coerced-bi fans, we now have a Subreddit (Reddit.com/r/EnforcedBi) devoted to our brand of deviance as well as a recently minter Twitter account (Twitter.com/forcedbisexual)! Find us in either corner of the web — or both places! — and say “hi”! You can always quit later. We promise. Wink, wink!
(All images of Mistress Simone are Copyright 2021, Mistress Simone. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com, or its affiliates / associates, with permission.)
Notes:
[1] “IRL” = “in real life”
[2] “CBT” = “cock-and-ball torture”