Today, we’re going to be, um… probing our favorite fetish from the unique vantage point of an experienced practitioner who has managed to blend life coaching and …kink! You don’t want to miss this!
Hello! Thanks for being with us!
Please, tell everyone: What’s your name? How do you prefer to be addressed?
“My name is Natalie King, and I generally go by ‘Mistress Natalie,’ ‘Ma’am,’ or ‘Daddy.’”
Right on, Mistress Natalie! Thank you for joining us!
First off…
As a fetishist, how do you think of yourself?
“Being described as ‘Domme’ would fit me appropriately.
“I like to be in charge; it is my nature. I’m controlling, but not in a micro-managing kind of way.”
I gotcha.
Is this just a profession for you? Lifestyle? Hobby?
“I would definitely say that this is my lifestyle. It’s just who I am, and I incorporate various aspects of BDSM and kink into my life, whether it’s in a personal level or a professional level.
“As part of my BDSM activities, I enjoy roleplay. I think that it has lots of benefits for both tops and bottoms. Assigning a ‘role’ can help people let go of their egos and selves and really explore things – if they feel they are someone else, or that they’re acting.”
I follow you.
“It gives them license to do things they would normally not do.
“Also, adults should ‘play’! It’s good for the brain and the body to participate in activities that are fun.”
I wholeheartedly agree!
“As adults, we tend not to allow ourselves much time for play. It’s no longer a priority.”
So, would you say you have a light-hearted approach to things?
“I have a lot of deference and respect for the people that I play with – whether it’s personal or professional. But, yes, there there’s definitely a lot of fun to be had.
“I do not have to take everything with a serious tone.”
No, indeed!
But… you do incorporate a more serious element, I take it.
“I feel that my work helps to make people more aware, breaks down stereotypes, and also goes against a lot of conventional, societal norms. So, you can say I am an activist – on a personal level, not political.”
Right on.
Do you see any of this in religious or spiritual terms?
“When it comes to spirituality, I have seen kink play fill this need for some.
“‘Spirituality’ is a word that can mean different things to a lot of people. It has been used on many occasions by some of my subs when describing their participation.
“I see the ritual, reverence, and sacredness to what I do there. In my eyes, I also see it’s a kind of spirituality.”
How do you think of the people who seek you out?
“In describing by subs, I generally don’t use words like ‘losers’ unless it’s a part of our consensual humiliation. Same with words like ‘faggot,’ ‘queer,’ or ‘gay.’
“I tend to use words like ‘sissy,’ ‘slut,’ ‘sub,’ ‘slave,’ ‘play partner,’ ‘kinkster,’ ‘fetishist,’ etc.”
Right on.
What got you into, well… all this? Lol.
“I got into BDSM by accident!”
No kidding?!
“Years ago, back in 1993, I sort of just fell into it. And over the decades, it’s really developed.”
Haha! I guess it has!
What gets you going?
“One thing that I really enjoy about Forced Bi is that it gets my subs to really push their boundaries and open up their perspectives – on self and others.
“It helps to break a lot of preconceived notions. It gives them a safe space to be able to explore things that they consider taboo, or things that they would never want to do. It’s very powerful.”
I think you’re right, there!
How did you get started online?
“I think online started years ago, with videos. I would say 2000, maybe.
“Obviously, Covid has had me readdress my virtual presence.”
I don’t blame you.
Do you also maintain an in-person location?
“I have my own private studio, and have been in the scene since 1993.”
That’s awesome.
How much of your time and energy does this take up?
“My BDSM and kink is a full-time profession – and passion! It’s not just a lifestyle.
“As a ProDomme, I have also started KinkyCoaching – being a certified life coach and a certified personal trainer – I have combined all my interests into one.”
Holy crap! That’s fantastic!
“It’s like coaching, training and nutrition guidance – with a bit of kink.”
What a novel approach!
Given that intriguing blend, I’m wondering: What do you think it actually “going on” with Forced Bi?
“I think people participate in Forced Bi for many reasons. But, there are three main ones.
“One, is that they truly are curious about sexual encounters with the same sex, and they’re using this as an avenue to safely explore it.
“Two, is people who truly don’t have an interest in it, but are willing to do it as a part of their submission.”
I gotcha. And…
“Three, is people who are looking for the thrill / rush of doing something taboo or secret.”
Haha! That can all be hot!
“I found that a lot of people who like to participate in Forced Bi do need the female element, or the submissive element.
“Some have expressed that they don’t go around looking at men, finding them attractive, wanting to be with them, etc. But they like the idea of being made to do this as part of a submissive act, or for the pleasure of a woman.
“Then I’ve found others who, after exploring Forced Bi with a woman / Domme, proceed to incorporate bi activities on their own.”
What term do you prefer for this?
“When talking about this sort of play I generally use the term’ Forced Bi.’ But… ‘forced’ is definitely in quotation marks!”
I understand!
I mean… all the options are usually variations on the “forced” theme: “coerced,” “make me,” etc.
“You are right; there aren’t a lot of other words to use to describe it.”
Different phrases – similar undercurrent!
“The word ‘forced’ is definitely not just vague, but pretty loaded – which is why I always put it in the invisible quotation marks.
“I would never force somebody to do something that they didn’t consent to, in advance.”
I totally appreciate it!
How do you see the “force” part, then?
“When engaging, generally – but not always – I provide encouragement, instruction, or permission.
“Being their cheerleader… and allowing them the space to explore.
“There’s also usually some persuasion and some instruction.”
What do you think is going on with Forced Bi? Does a guy actually “change” his orientation?
“I always find it hard to talk about people’s sexual orientations. I feel that we, as humans, can be very fluid in our desires and needs – and even in how we see ourselves. So, I hate to pinpoint and label what’s going on, especially with another person.”
I can see that. Fair enough.
“I do believe that when somebody is participating in Forced Bi with me, that they are broadening their own experiences and finding things out about themselves. But, whether or not it actually ‘changes’ how they view their sexual orientation… that I am not sure.
“My perception is: No, I have not seen that.”
Right on.
Can a guy be either a top or bottom? Or is he usually one or the other, exclusively?
“I do feel identifying as a switch or versatile is very valid.
“It goes to what I was saying before: we’re fluid creatures.”
And do you see this as a healthy pursuit?
“I think that Forced Bi – or any self-exploration – can be extraordinarily healthy.
“It could be challenging – in a good way. It could be thought-provoking. It could really elevate one’s self-esteem.
“Many times, you go somewhere or do something that is challenging, or scary, and you get through it; it can be very rewarding and positive – especially if it’s done in a safe, consensual way.
“I think Forced Bi, as well as a million other activities, can be used in a very healthy way – as long as you’re approaching it that way.”
And what do you get out of it, personally?
“For me, participating in Forced-Bi scenes – orchestrating Forced-Bi scenes, watching Forced-Bi scenes – is always really powerful and strong. Knowing that I am having my sub go outside of their comfort zone and explore themselves more deeply.
“I love the control aspect and the role reversal – the exciting and challenging nature of it.”
That’s hot!
What else do you enjoy?
“Other than Forced Bi, my list of other kink activities is pretty extensive: chastity, feminization, pegging, medical play, role play, foot domination, corporal, NT,[1] CBT,[2] CEI,[3] bondage, sensory deprivation, hypnosis…
“The list goes on!”
Haha! And on. And on! That’s hot!
Before you go…
Where can interested readers find you online?
“Text: https://www.sextpanther.com/Mistress-Natalie
“OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/dominanatalieny
“Videos: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/105696/105696-mistress-natalie-nyc
“Website: https://www.mistressnatalie.com
“Twitter: https://twitter.com/DominaNatalieNY
“Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistressnatalienyc”
Thank you so much, Mistress Natalie!
(All images of Mistress Natalie are Copyright 2021, Mistress Natalie. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com or its affiliates or associates with permission.)
Notes:
[1] “NT” = “nose torture”
[2] “CBT” = “cock-and-ball torture”
[3] “CEI” = “cum-eating instruction”