Oh, boi! Today, we have a self-styled Sizzling Seductress from Down Under and she’s ready – and willing! – to violate your, um… Outback!
Hello, and welcome!
First of all, what is your name? What do you go by?
“I am Victoria Gray. Although, many call me ‘Queen.’ 😉”
Ha! Nice!
Well, thank you for being with us, Queen Victoria Gray!
Tere are various different adjectives, epithets, modifiers, or monikers that women in your area use. Which – if any – do you think of yourself as, or prefer?
“Perhaps it’s up to the boys who serve me from their knees – with a cock in their mouth – to answer. I usually hear ‘Goddess,’ ‘Queen,’ and ‘Mistress,’ however.”
Why am I not surprised?!
In general, as a fetishist, is this a lifestyle for you? A roleplay? Social activism?
“I am a lifestyler and professional Dominatrix.”
Right on!
How about the people who seek you out – what do you call them? “Betas”? “Losers,” maybe? “Masochists”? “Slaves”? “Subs”?
“Frankly, I like all of those words. Pulling a man’s hair and calling him a ‘bitch’ or ‘faggot’ is also fun, too.”
Mmm… Kinky!
Any specific reason you can put your finger on?
“I guess that they’re bitches and faggots might have something to do with it.”
Haha!!!
Touché!
What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?
“I have been kinky all of my adult life. But, the city of London allowed me plenty of opportunities to explore my kinks, which was amazing.
“Then I went home to Melbourne, Australia only to keep returning to the big, kinky city on a regular basis for work and for fun.
“I especially enjoyed the dogging scene in the U.K. – taking submissives out to places in Essex in their cutest little sissy outfits only to allow other men to use them was one of the best things about London and the U.K. for me.”
Mmm!!! Now I’m feeling flush!
How long have you been doing this online?
“Professionally I have been working as an online dominatrix and content creator for a little over a year.”
Oh? How’s that going?
“It has been a wonderful year!”
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“I have been a lifstyler for years. Back in Australia, my spare room is kitted out as a private dungeon.”
Haha! That’s awesome! It’s not the first time I’ve heard someone say that, either!
“I don’t play in-person with people I meet online, however. I only play in-person with my personal slaves.”
Of course. That’s totally understandable!
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“Both. All the way.”
Why not?! Lol! Both are best.
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“Difficult to answer.
“As a professional, I would say a few hours a day, five to seven days a week. As a lifestyler, well… it’s a lifestyle.”
Right on. So… 24/7!
And… are you satisfied with where things are at?
“More playthings! I am a greedy Goddess.”
Mmmm… Yummy! That’s hot!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels?
“I am in my twenties. 28 at the time of writing.
“I have a number of submissives. I play with when I am in Melbourne or London. And, when I am in Melbourne, I date fairly actively as I am pretty damn hot! 😉”
Mmmm!
Yes; indeed!
“Most of the people I date are more of the alpha type, though, which helps when I want to remind my submissives how cuckolded they are.
“Generally speaking, I think sexual orientation is a bit silly, because I don’t know anyone who really agrees with the binary of ‘heterosexual or homosexual?’
“For this reason, I guess I have to identify as bisexual, because I adore both men and women. It isn’t a label that sits comfortably, however.”
Fair enough. And… thanks for sharing!
May I ask you about the Forced-Bi fetish, itself?
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males is possible?
“Sure. Why not? Although, many of the people who I play with in a forced-bi context don’t identify as bisexual or gay.
“It is more about the power dynamic of them doing this to please me.”
I gotcha.
You said that, for you, fetishism was both a lifestyle and a profession. How do you think of Forced-Bi, specifically?
“That is a really difficult question. I guess I cannot answer broadly, as it is different for everyone.”
That’s fair.
“I have played with new people, people who only want to try this once, people who want to serve me in a more long-term capacity.”
It can be a lot of things.
I forgot to ask: What do you call the fetish?
“I like ‘forced bi.’”
I like it too 😛
But, seriously: In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“I have never ‘forced’ a woman to play with another woman. Although, I would be open to it.
“The fetish, for me, has always been something I enjoyed with male submissives.”
I understand!
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation?
“Lol! No.”
Ha! I always ask!
We do get a variety of replies!
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be “attention whores.” Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.
Do any of these resonate with you?
“It is a power play, and a fetish.
“Sure, it’s hot to watch two guys playing together. But, that’s not all that is going on here.
“Like everything in the world of BDSM, from the outside, it might look one way. But, to those of us in the middle of playing, it can be something else entirely.”
Oh?
“The way it feels to play with someone who shares this fetish is what I love.
“The way I feel when I say words that push his buttons, call him names, watch the cock go down his throat.”
Oh…fuck!
I’m going to forget where I am…
“There is nothing hotter.
“There is more going on here than men acting like attention whores. Although, that can be part of it.
“Of course, there is some gender-bending when my plaything is cross dressing. But, not all forced bi is about gender bending.”
It’s always fascinating to get other’s opinions on this fetish!
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women.
What do you think?
“I think people need to chill out. We’re only here once. If you ever enjoyed sucking dick, you have to accept you probably aren’t the only one.
“That being said, this sort of treatment of people who participate in my favorite fetish means there are more subs for me. So, I shouldn’t complain too much.”
Haha! I never thought of it like that!
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”?
“Like anything in life, it could be healthy or unhealthy depending on why and how you do it.”
Very true.
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“No. I just think it’s fucking hot!”
Mmm… Now my blood is redirecting south!
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“No.”
Okay… Forced-Bi activities!
So… What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching? Cock sucking? Anal sex? Kissing? Rimming? Cum eating? Facials? Creampies?
“All of the above.”
Yum!!
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I hope it’s getting more popular – more people to play with, then!”
Haha! You’re fun!
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“No, but I would love to hear if anyone sees this happening. Tweet me @IAmVictoriaGray.”
Readers: Take note!
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“Both, depending on the situation.”
Gotcha.
And… are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“Both, actually. More aroused though.”
Mmm… Yay!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Lol! I mean, he is welcome to give it a try.
“I have never had a sub turn back though.”
Mmmm… Now I’m sure my mind went blank!
What are you interested in doing? I mean… for you, is it a mix of fantasy chat and, well… real-life situations?
“Both.”
Right on.
How “involved” do you like to be? Are you just sitting back, issuing orders? Are you soliciting photographic – or videographic! – proof? Are you watching via live stream or webcam? Or… directing in-person guy-on-guy confabs?
“All of these answers, actually.”
That’s hot.
And your biggest focus…?
“It is more about the power for me. Although, it is hot as hell to watch two men playing, for sure.”
Mmmm…
On limits… well, do you have any? Haha.
“I have limits – and expect submissives to have them, too. All limits will be respected.”
Fair enough.
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?
“I love a bit of small-penis humiliation[1] actually. I have had a number of SPH calls, lately, and always appreciate the laugh right now.”
Haha!
“Pegging is a long-held favorite, as is sissification / feminization / cross dressing. Cum-eating instructions (CEI) and jerk-off instructions (JOI) are things I got into in a much bigger way since becoming a pro-Domme.
“For a full list of my fetishes, though, you’re better off hitting up my profiles online, or my website.”
Perfect segue!
How can fans and other interested persons check out your work?
“The best place to find me online is victoriagray.blog. That is where I post my latest happenings, and link to my profiles on sites like NiteFlirt, AdultWork, AVN, OnlyFans, Clips4Sale, iWantClips, etc.
“It is an ever-growing list.”
I believe you!
“I am also available on social media.
“You can find me on twitter (@IAmVictoriaGray) or Fetlife (Victoria_Gray).”
Thank you so much for joining us, today!
All good – and kinky! – wishes for 2021!
Notes:
[1] “SPH,” for short – no pun intended 😉