Howdy, Forced-Bi land! Today we speak with a clip creator whose fetish-related interests veer over into our neck of the woods!
Hello!
First of all, what is your name? What do you go by?
“Kayla Obey.”
Are there any title that you enjoy – or insist upon?
“‘Mistress’ or ‘Goddess’ are preferred. But they’re not necessary.”
Right on! Welcome, Mistress Kayla!
Can you elaborate on the “not necessary” part?
“I do enjoy a dominant role, but it doesn’t need to have a title. I like the ‘girl next door’-taking-advantage-of-you type role.”
Ha! Understood! And… appreciated!
So… you use the word “role.” Can I assume that you see all this as role play? Or is there another layer?
“I like to play this way for fun. It happens naturally in some circumstances, with some men. But I also play this way for work – where I create customs based on the fantasies of others. It’s a lighthearted way to act out some of my own pleasures.”
I gotcha. Yummy!
Given that you have a light touch, how do you see the people who seek you out for this?
“I prefer ‘slaves.’ I like that term, as it implies they’re at my beck and call.”
Haha! Oh?
“And, sometimes… ‘loser.’ It’s fun to be bratty – because I usually wouldn’t go around calling someone a loser. Haha! Although I wouldn’t call myself a Brat, either.”
That’s the essence of role play, n’est-ce pas?
How did you get into this… world?
“I work in the field. But, also, I’ve always been rather open and exploratory with my partners and my own sexuality.”
Ooh! Very sexy!
And how long have you been at it?
“Years.”
Okay…
“Not sure exactly how long…”
Just curious; time flies!
Do you also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?
“No, it’s just something I offer online.”
Fair enough.
“My partner is not into it. So, it doesn’t apply to my life outside of online.”
It’s not everyone’s cup of tea!
Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or… both?
“Why not both?”
Right on!
“If I can offer a service where people can have their desires fulfilled, I feel like that’s wonderful.”
Well… most of my readership would wholeheartedly agree, I’m sure!
“Outside of online, it would be for the pleasure of my partner(s).”
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“I create customs as a sole occupation. However, it is just part-time hours.”
Sounds like an ideal combination!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels?
“I’m 29 and am currently in a conventional relationship. I’m bisexual – no ‘forced’ required. Haha! But, it is fun with women to play that way.”
Ha! Yes, it is, isn’t it?!
Let me dive more into the fetish itself. May I?
On the face of it, the “Forced-Bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males is possible?
“Sexuality is unique to each individual. Someone can be bisexual and be more or less attracted to any gender. Their attraction can range in sexuality or romanticism.
“For example, they could be bisexual and a-romantic, etc.”
A-romantic? You mean… not romantic? I gotcha.
“Some people prefer being pansexual. Some prefer to only date one gender, or sleep with one gender.
“It’s a colourful thing.”
Ha! That’s one way to put it!
So… in your experience, is the fetish itself a role play for all involved?
“I think of it as an easy way to explore another side of yourself. Maybe you’re a bit afraid or ashamed; so, it can help take the pressure off.
“I enjoy the dominance of it as well, personally. It can be more or less to each person.
“Maybe, for some people, it’s a lifestyle. But, for others it’s just an occasional degradational treat – or an exciting roleplay.”
I give “degradational treat” the quote-of-the-day award! Love it!
Before I go too far… what name do you refer to the fetish as?
“Forced bi or coerced bi.”
Same difference? Fair enough.
In practice, “Forced Bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“I would more so relate it to a male submitting to another male, or to acts, like pegging, from a woman on a male. It can most definitely apply to women as well, but I don’t see that as often.”
That’s a pity!
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. But… how, exactly, do you see it?
“Hmm. Again, I do think it is a great means for men to explore this side of themselves. So, I see it as encouragement and permission. But… also inducement, because I do like that whole ‘beck-and-call’ aspect of a slave.”
What do you think is going on with “Forced Bi”? Does a guy actually “change” his sexual orientation?
“I don’t think I’m capable of changing someone’s entire sexuality. Perhaps I’m leading them further down the bisexual path.”
I follow you.
Do you think it’s possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”?
“Yep! I’ve dated men who were switches – as am I!”
Oh? Haha! Hot!
“I think it strongly depends on others involved, or even their mood that day.”
Very true!
“But there is something extra hot about a guy who usually never ‘bottoms’ to want to …for me.”
I was just going to ask you!
Do you like the optics? Or is it more or a spectacle to you? You like the role-reversal aspect?
“I am all for gender bending and switching up ‘traditional’ roles. But, if I have no part in it, then I don’t get off on watching two men together.”
Understandable!
“I also don’t care to watch two women together if it seems like it might only be for exhibitionism.
“If the man is doing it to please me in some way then… great – now I’m involved! Haha!”
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women.
What do you think?
“If someone finds a bisexual man less desirable then – quite frankly – they’re homophobic. I think it’s rare for a man to acknowledge that side of himself, and often I find bisexual men are much more openminded.”
Right on!
So… I assume that – overall – you’re thinking of all this as basically a “healthy” pursuit for those involved. Is that a fair assessment?
“I think it’s healthy.
“Everyone has their own kinks. Well, not everyone, but …you know.”
No, I gotcha.
“And if it helps them to express themselves, or get sexual gratification, then I’m not going to judge. I don’t think it’s shaming men either, unless they want to be shamed! Then I can go off on another tangent.”
Haha! I guess I’d have to start another website to really get into that!
“If it’s consensual, then it’s consensual.”
I can’t argue with that!
“…even consensual ‘non-consent.’”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“I’m not spiritual or religious.”
Okay… let me ask you a little about the Forced-Bi activities, themselves.
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“One-sided oral sex, one-sided penetrative sex.”
Ha! Mmm… hot!
Are you aroused by Forced Bi, or just amused by it?
“I like providing pleasure – even if it doesn’t directly relate to my own.”
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Yeah, definitely. He can even decide partway through.”
Ha! I suppose that’s true!
“But I think once someone is that curious, they probably won’t want to go back.”
Again… readers: beware! Lol!
What are you interested in doing? You said… fantasy chat and online play, only, right? I mean… professionally speaking – your private encounters aside.
“I have only engaged in forced bi gently online. And gently in my own life.”
How “involved” do you like to be? I mean… are you just issuing instructions and stepping out of the picture? Are you asking for photographic evidence? Are you directing via webcam?
“I would be down with being 100% there and involved, or playing from afar.”
Ah! That’s hot!
What is your biggest focus/turn on?
“It’s a bit of a power trip.”
Let me ask a few things about limits. Firstly, well… do you have any? Haha!
“Yes. I am not into shaming for the acts because of the bisexual aspect of it.”
Gotcha.
Any feelings about married men?
“No married men – unless it’s consensual in the relationship, or I don’t know about it!”
Ha! Don’t ask; don’t tell??
Readers: Take note!
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers – that is, “poppers”?
“I oppose them.”
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?
“I enjoy edging and pegging and physical domination in my ‘real’ life. In my online life, I enjoy physical domination, muscle humiliation, height humiliation, blackmail, pegging, and forced pegging.”
Ha! Mmm… You sound like a blast, for sure!
So, please tell everyone: Where can you be found online?
“All my work is available at www.SleepyKaylaObey.com, which will forward you to my Clips4Sale store.
“I’m also available for customs and am always open to new stuff!”
I totally believe you!
Thank you so much for taking time to speak with us, today!