Hello, hello, and it looks like 2021 is already shaping up to be every bit as crazy as 2020! We need a little balance and perspective, perhaps.
That’s precisely where this next guest fits it, I think! How do Forced Bi and Tantra intersect? Well… stay tuned!
Hi! Happy New Year!
How do you prefer to be addressed?
“‘Priestess Mariko,’ ‘The Goddess,’ or ‘Mariko Sensei.’”
Priestess? Right on, Priestess Mariko!
So… how did you end up traversing this path?
“I trained by observing my first pro Domme in action with her sub around 2011. I came out as queer in 1997 so I am ‘truly’ or ‘really’ bi.”
Ha! Nice!
“I have been different types of sex workers for over twenty years. As an escort, I created ‘Jenna Bie’ as a brand to attempt to sell my bisexuality, and maybe get more paid for threesomes.
“I’m no longer an escort and now mainly practice Sacred Sexuality – which includes ‘Kink Therapy’ and ‘Conscious BDSM.’”
Okay! Both of those are new to me!
“I first came out thinking I was a lesbian, but I’m definitely bi.
“And the people that I attract and are mostly attracted to are also bisexual, if they are queer.
“I don’t believe in ‘forcing’ people to be straight, bi, or gay.”
I gotcha.
“If they choose this scene, it is from a deep desire that is already in them – and you. So, no ‘forcing’ needs to be done, really.”
“Forced Bi” is just a term of art!
“As with everything in safe kink, there is willing, enthusiastic consent – either internal or beforehand.
“Because I’ve been in sex work too long, the word ‘fetish’ – to me – is a seeker who says, ‘Do you do fetishes?’ And it’s almost always an annoying time waster that I should outright refuse for my own sanity.
“‘Fetish’ means it is something exotic, rare, super nasty or ‘weird.’ And, I guess, since BDSM has been a part of my adult life the whole time, it has none of those associations for me.”
That’s interesting. I suppose I’m thinking of the word “fetish” as something more like the object of sexual focus. So, for example, a person might talk about a “foot fetish” or a “latex fetish” – meaning, like… tight, “rubber”-like bodysuits.
But, I follow your use, for sure.
“I grew up in San Francisco. We used to go to 18+ Fetish clubs at the Trocadero wearing my silver Docs!”
Ha! No kidding?!
I’m curious, then… what do you think the Forced-Bi fetish is? For example, is it just a bit of fun? A hobby? Experimentation? A lifestyle? Role play? …A “trap”? …in a playful sense, of course.
“It’s what I’d call ‘Shadow Play,’ from a Tantric perspective.”
I think Church-of-Satan-founder Anton LaVey’s daughter, Zeena Schreck, once referred to that as, what… Vāma Mārga?
“Part of your Shadow Self is part of your subconscious being: messages you’ve collected from others in your life, energy that you want to release, that you must release – because it is gnawing at you too often!
“It must mean something! Or it’s just energy that needs to be released in this way. I think these expressions are mostly great and safe ways to release feelings regarding needs which might otherwise manifest as bullying or homophobia in a non-consensual scene somewhere else.”
So, who do you think it “applies” to? Is it exclusively for males? Or… no?
“Forced bi is a product of the heteronormative patriarchy; so, it does refer to just hetero-identifying males.
“The assumption is that no heterosexual woman has to be ‘forced’ to be bisexual.”
I thought you might have a unique “take.”
“If I have ever seen this on a porn site, it soon turned into the typical ‘lipstick-lesbian,’ pussy-eating show soon enough – without any ‘forcing’ required.”
Ha!
“A real pop-culture reference that comes to mind is one of R. Kelly’s ‘slave’ girlfriends was forced to be gender-queer / bi for him, during their time together. If women are punished for being truly bi or lesbian, the punisher is the men in power / standing to lose power.
“What I have found, in my years playing in the BDSM world – and what I learned quickly – was that the character / persona you play in your scene is just a psychological aspect of the actual you / shadow desire. This is different from being ‘closeted.’
“I don’t use cruelty in my work, because I realize that it actually poisons me versus heals me.”
There’s a saying, attributing to the Christian religious figure, Augustine; it’s something like: “Resentment is drinking poison and hoping that the other person will die.”
In light of your interesting answers, I have to ask: How do you get into bi scenes? Do you have any “forced” element at all? – within legal bounds, of course!
“I like to do public flirtation / daring games at gay clubs.”
Ooh. That sounds intriguing!
“I’m very comfortable with gay men, and in I’m in the LGBTQ scene. So, perhaps the kink that I do could be coined, ‘Forced Out.’”
Lol! Point taken!
How does that, um… play out?
“I take a bi-curious sub to a club with me. I send him to the bar to buy us drinks –but, also, to say hello to the men there. I am close by to oversee if he does it.”
I follow you! That’s kinky!
“In thinking about the ‘who is this for?’ question, I think I would – again – only be able to do this by bringing a man to a gay-male club, because Lesbians aren’t so aggressive …and don’t get so overtly slutty so easily!”
Haha!!! That’s quote of the day!
“It usually takes hours of drinking!”
Lol! I can totally see that!
“But men – and, certainly, most gay men – will be slutty very easily …with almost no ‘forcing’ required.”
I love it! Lol!!!
Mmmm…
“I am a fun and gorgeous goddess to serve, if you are game to take me out.”
Readers: Need I say more?!?
“Gay clubs are super fun and comfortable for me. It is very easy for me to find subs’ willing partners.”
Mmm… Now I’m all hot and bothered!
I think I forgot the next question! Lol!
But, seriously… what happens to the sub’s sexuality because of one or more Forced-Bi experiences? That is, do you believe that a sub’s sexual orientation changes; or that some possibly latent “true self” emerges? Is that what you’re basically saying?
“Sometimes it does become full-time in the sexual orientation and gender-play worlds. Sissification and forced bi are ways for people to have an outlet for this expression.
“My Pro Dominant self is the only place that I get to be this person in my life, and I love and need it in my life! I only want to do most of my kink professionally because the exposure and outlet I get from my clients is enough for me to feel fulfilled.
“My Pro Domme is an expression outlet for my Narcissism. It is very different from the Tantra Goddess work I do, which is super nice and loving – caring, in a very different way!”
Oh? Is the Domme side a little darker?
“The pro Domme persona is still loving kindness – but… more devious!”
Mmm… That’s a turn on!
“…Caring in a different less obvious way.
“I have met a transwoman who said that I once encouraged her to go full-time – and that was how she remembers me. I hope to make all my clients better, not worse – whatever that looks like for them.
“In my ‘forced-bi’ scenes, I am already working with bi-curious guys. I have no attachment to what happens to anyone after; the intention is always to make people feel more accepting of themselves.
“Even after shit accidentally shoots out their ass, and they feel embarrassed!”
Occupational hazard, surely!
“With my work, a sub can’t say in the end that they only did it because they were serving me.”
“In the end…”? I like it! But, sorry… (lol!)
“I want them to do things because they know that they wanted to do them anyway, but just needed pushing into the pool to swim.”
No, I totally understand what you’re saying.
Okay, so… I gotta know: does Forced Bi – or, “forced out” – arouse you? Amuse? Something else?
“The way that the scene is typically done goes against my ethics and boundaries, personally. So, I wouldn’t be a match for someone who wants the standard fantasy. This applies to almost everything I do, not just Kink.
“But, if they want to play by my rules, and not theirs, and they come to a club with me, then… it is amusing and arousing.”
Mmm… Yeah! Love it!
Is this as “dark” as you get, so to speak? Do you think of yourself as operating on the lighter side of things, perhaps somewhat playfully promoting healthy exploration? Or… ?
“While I try to be working in the light – and on the conscious side – I am still human and dealing with my own Shadow… which is the darker part of my personality.”
Is there a crossover point? Maybe… a point at which you call off a scene?
“Once a safe word is called, I disengage energetically and start to take the person down. I am extremely conscious of people’s emotional and psychological needs – as I would be of my own.
“Even though I am not making someone take the loads of ten sumo wrestlers while being buried to their neck in sand, I believe that what I do is very edgy, unique, fun, funny and kinky. People can be permanently damaged very easily, and I try not to be the one responsible for that.”
Fair point. Where does that line usually get drawn?
“I’ve had subs call a safe word because I threw water in their face, and others who let me soccer kick them in the groin repeatedly.”
Oh, my!
“Everyone’s limits are going to be different; it’s your job, as a dominant, to be aware of this for each of your different subs.”
I see what you mean. That’s a lot to keep track of!
Is any of this confined to fantasy chat? Or is it all about the trip to the gay club?
“I could instruct a sub to set up a NiteFlirt profile, or something online. Some subs think it is ‘forced bi’ for them to suck my strap-on cock, because I am gender-queer when I wear a dick …and consider myself to be a dude when I wear a dick.
“People who have hard limits must tell me what they are beforehand. But, I start people off slowly, so they can pull out if they need to.”
Mmmm… I get the feeling that sometimes no one ends up, um… pulling out!
Which reminds me: What Forced-Bi activities do you enjoy directing, observing, or talking to subs about?
“I like getting my strap on dick sucked by my subs. They’re often really terrible at it.”
Oh?!?
“Yes, I can feel it!”
Interesting!
“I’m a very sensitive, energetic being. I have an energy cock the length of my body. I like playing out the role of some hetero-porn top on them and straddling their necks and fucking their faces.”
Holy shit! You just caused my mind to blank! Lol…
Are you more fascinated with or focused upon the homosexual acts and behaviors themselves, or with your influence and power over the sub?
“I like the power of certain scenes – like the one, above, when I am in the pure top space of allowing myself to be that guy. It’s fun.”
I’ll bet!
Do you have any limits that prospective subs should know about?
“There is more that I don’t do versus what I do, these days. I like newer subs, who don’t have an agenda and script in hand already.”
Ha! Fair enough!
“I don’t do scripts. People who have fetishes often have scripts. Haha!
“I have a sub ‘contract’ that talks about my dick and the things that I require service / task wise – explanation of my kinks.
“Sober… except weed welcome.
“I will do more, if I am attracted to my client.
“I want to have fun no matter what. I am not trying to traumatize people.”
Right on.
Any final thoughts?
“Maybe my assignment is for you to take a selfie of you about to suck someone’s cock in the bathroom. Perhaps I’ll send you on a scavenger hunt looking for an obscure item – and asking people in the room if they have it. I will order food and drinks – on your tab – while you work on the mission. And of course we’ll have a blast doing it.”
Oh, gawd! Well… there you have it!
Thank you so, so much, Priestess Mariko! It was a unique conversation for me, for sure! I appreciate your time!
And… all good wishes for the New Year!
Interested readers can find Priestess Mariko online at her website: https://www.tantratokyolovehawaii.com/ and on her OnlyFans account: https://www.onlyfans.com/marikopassion.
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