Vidian Vixen: Forced-Bi Interview [Corporal-Punishment Domme]

Well, hello, fetish fans, “goons,” and miscellaneous supporters!

Today, we have a seductive-looking Forced-Bi professional with a bit of a sinister edge, from the look of her Twitter pics!

Hi! Welcome!

First, what is your name? What do you go by?

“Vidian Vixen.”

Thanks for being with us!

There are various adjectives, epithets, modifiers, or monikers that women in your area use. Which – if any – do you think of yourself as, or prefer?

“Both ‘Domme’ and Mistress are fine with me.”

Right on. You just like the ring of them?

“I feel like they are the most commanding – and slightly intimidating.”

Oh? Ha! I thought you were exuding some sexy-sinister vibes!

How do fetishes fit into your overall life? Is it just a job? Hobby? Curiosity?

“The short answer is it’s pretty much who I am all the time – a lifestyle, for sure.”

How cool!

“The longer answer is that there is a difference between my ‘vanilla’ life and my Domme life.”

That’s disappointing… lol!

“There are obviously areas which I cannot walk around being Vidian Vixen. But, personality-wise, Vidian is just a more extreme extension of who I am, naturally.”

Well stated!

So…do you think your clients and visitors and are well integrated? But… I’m jumping the gun. The people who seek you out: how do you refer to them?

“It’s definitely personal. But, ‘subs or ‘submissives.’”

Any word choices off the table?

“I just don’t like using the word ‘slaves’ when describing another person – unless it’s specifically asked for.”

Understandable!

“I’m okay with using the other names. But my default is ‘sub’ or ‘pet.’”

So… basic, biographical query for you: What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?

“In 2010, I was introduced to my Mentor, MZ Fawn at a ‘dungeon party’ in Rockville, Maryland. She took me into her space and showed me how to be a Domina.

“From there, I’ve adjusted a lot of the things I do and how I play to best suit myself, my style, and my usual clientele.”

Right on. And… Forced Bi?

“Forced Bi has always been in interest of mine, especially recently. I think it’s one of the truest forms of submission.

“As time has gone by, I’ve found myself developing deeper relationships with my regular clients, and they are more willing to surrender to my more ‘extreme’ scenes.”

Oh, that’s an interesting angle: segueing into Forced Bi… like a fetish graduation.

How long have you been doing this online, again?

“A few months.”

Because of, well… developments in the world?

“COVID-19 made me turn to online domination.”

You’re not alone.

“It’s not my favorite. But I’m happy to see my clients in whichever way they feel most comfortable and safe.”

Interesting…

But, you do also have a “dungeon,” studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?

“Yes. But I am very particular. Interested readers could apply.”

Aha!

Readers: Take note! And be on your best behavior!

“I actually have two, beautiful dungeons.”

No kidding?

“One residential, intimate space: Kent Island, Maryland. And another, 1,500-square-foot space in Columbia, Maryland.

“The 1,500 square footer was opened by my Mentor, Mz. Fawn, and me just a few weeks ago. We are 50/50 partners at our Columbia location.”

Well… congratulations on your new joint venture!

“Interested subs can visit my website to learn more about the dungeons and how to book and rent.”

So, don’t think I have to ask whether you’re aiming to make money, lol. But… is it just a money thing? Or are you after both money and pleasure?

My concern is both pleasure and money

“Money is always a necessity. But I do really, really enjoy my sessions.”

That’s awesome.

“They bring me great pleasure and I have a hard time going too long without them.”

How much of your energy and time does this take up?

“This is nearly 24/7. I get so engulfed with this lifestyle that I’ve had to set boundaries for myself.”

I have had others tell me that, as well.

“My phone is only on between 12pm-7pm, and I try to take a least one day a week to detach from too much kink.”

Overall, are you satisfied with this level of involvement?

“I’d like my involvement to be greater.

“There no such thing as too many good subs and sessions. Especially when they are open minded and can handle more extreme scenes.”

That’s hot.

Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? E.g., How old are you? Are you in a relationship? Etc., etc. Lol!

“Sure! Here are the basics.

“I’m Pan Sexual.

“Married to a cis man who is as vanilla as they come!”

That’s curious.

“He’s fully aware of my role in this community and supports me 100%, although he doesn’t ask a lot of questions.”

Ha! Okay!

“I’m 36 – a Virgo, to those to like that sort of info.”

Ah… the “virgin.” Interesting.

“I’ve been an active member of the Kink community since 2010.

“I’m an Alpha – in just about every way and in every relationship – romantic or friendly.

“I often have to tell myself to hold back when interacting with vanilla family or friends.

“I live this life out loud! Just about everyone who’s close to me knows what I do. There is no shame, here!

“I have a sister who’s also a Domina, Temptress Nyx. Kink runs in the family.”

Ha! I guess so!

“We love to do doubles.”

Oh…that’s hot!

I may need to pause for a cold shower. Lol!

Let me ask you a few, well… deeper questions, perhaps.

On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.

Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males is possible?

“Yes, of course!”

What would this fetish be about if it weren’t so?

So… what is Forced Bi, to you? Pastime? Social activism? Just pure, unadulterated kink? A power trip?

“I love the power. I love when a male sub is so entranced by me and my power over them that they are literally willing to do anything.”

Mmm…yeah. It’s, um… heady! Ha!

How do you refer to the fetish?

“‘Forced bi.’”

Just checking.

In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.

Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?

“It can pertain to both. And my love for females is great; I wish I had more female subs, in general! I would love, love, LOVE to do a forced-bi scene with two women.”

That’s a lot of love!

“Sadly, I’ve yet to have the chance. Hopefully, that will change sometime soon.”

Hey, I’m on your side, here!

As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” probably means something less than literally compelled by threat of force. Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting?

“It’s quite a combination of things – commanding, encouraging, enticing, instructing… For me, it’s entirely based on the sub who’s coming in.”

A very personal thing.

“I have one sub that loves strapon play, and blowing the strap on. So, for us, it seemed like a natural progression to exchange that fake cock for a real one.”

Mmm… Naturally!

“It was only a matter of time before I presented him with that scene.

He was doomed from the start!

“For others, it really is about the power!

“How far will this Sub let me go? What is the depth of his submission? What level of trust have we developed?

“Often, getting them to a space when they actually consider it is good enough – for a short time.”

Short-term goals, you mean? Sowing the seeds?

“Just getting in their head and putting that scene out in their universe… never knowing if they will just show up one night and we will have to start negotiations regarding this new, exciting – and slightly terrifying – scene.

“And I am a teacher – and a cheerleader. And offering words of encouragement.”

Many hats!

“Whatever I need to do to make the scene epic.”

I believe you.

So… what do you think is “going on” with Forced Bi? Does a guy change his sexual orientation?

“I don’t care.”

Lol! No?

“It doesn’t matter to me how they identify before, during, or after a scene. All I really care about is their surrender.”

That’s kinky!

Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with equal facility, if not enthusiasm.)

“Probably it’s possible, sure. But… personally? I enjoy subs who are true bottoms. I don’t want a dominant bone in their body. But that’s just me.”

Mmm… I think that’s hot.

Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be exhibitionists. Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.

Do any of these resonate with you?

“I love it all! Male/Male, Female/Female, Male/Female, Trans – all of it.

“To me, sexually shouldn’t be boxed up – especially in the Kink community. There’s far too much fun to be had!”

Your male partner… you said he’s vanilla. What are your opinions on guys who, well… aren’t “vanilla”? Lol. Oh, say… guys who get into Forced Bi, for example… attractive? Or… repugnant? Or… it depends?

“Bisexual guys can be attractive and desirable, sure. Bisexuality doesn’t affect their attractiveness.”

Right on.

Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? Psychology-wise, I mean.

“As long as all parties are consenting adults and protection is used, I believe it is an extremely healthy sexual expression.”

Fair enough.

Because…?

“Self-exploration can be extremely healthy!”

I gotcha.

“Some subs have been wanting to try forced-bi scenes for most of their kink lives, but never had the courage – or encouragement – to surrender to it.

“All subs who I have done forced bi with me come back for more.”

I was going to ask!

Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?

“No.”

Just wondering.

“I’m not religious or spiritual at all.”

That’s cool.

So… here’s another one: Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.

Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?

“I don’t care.”

Ha! Okay, then!

Now… a bit of the fun stuff: Forced-Bi activities!

What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?

“I find that cock sucking and kissing are the most sensual. And I like that!”

Intriguing!

“Erotica is beautiful.”

Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?

“I do think it’s getting more popular, yeah.”

Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?

“No.”

Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?

“I want my guys to both give and receive.”

Maximum gay!

Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?

“I’m both aroused and amused.”

Mmm…that’s my fav!

“During my last forced-bi session I casually said, ‘If I wasn’t such a pro, I might join in!’”

Oh… holy fuck!

“It was a hot and intense scene.”

I’m feeling all squirmy, now.

Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?

“I’m sure there are a lot of guys who been ‘forced’ to do it and come back to their Mistress and say it’s now a hard limit.”

But… your guys… how did you put it? Always cum back for more?

What are you most interested in? Your focus is on in-person stuff, right?

“I like to keep it casual. I don’t expect them to have an encounter that’s made for TV.”

That’s some X-rated TV! Lol. Made for Pornhub!

“I like to keep it casual and kinky. I love having them wear hoods and focus only the sexuality of the whole scene.”

Ooh. Yeah?

How “involved” do you like to be? You sound pretty involved!

“I like to lead. But I have them do what feels most comfortable.

“I do like to pressure them to go further…”

Mmmmm… Now I’m feeling a little flush.

“…but I always keep it within some of the boundaries that were negotiated.”

Ha! Love it! “Some of the boundaries…”

“Photos are always great. When its okay with the subs, I like to take photos and share them on social accounts – and share them with the parties involved.”

Mmm… You’re going to make me forget my questions…

“I like to imagine that – somewhere – they are looking at the photos of their forced-bi scene, replaying it, and enjoying some… ‘personal relief.’”

Getting all the more hooked…

What is your biggest focus/turn on?

“Honestly, it’s mostly about my power. I get off on my ability to get a guy to do extreme – even gay – things.”

Ooh… hot damn.

What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries? Partial to cocksuckers and kissers you said? Anything else? Anal bottoms?

“Honestly? I love it all.”

That’s kinky.

“I just like pairing up males.”

Putting cocks into holes. Collect the whole set!

Okay… I need to think about baseball, or something. Oh, bats and balls – maybe that doesn’t work so well…

Anyway… limits…

Well, do you have any? Lol.

“Yes, of course. Many. Most of my limits pertain to safety and sanity.”

Safe, sane, consensual?

“If I feel like a party is being unsafe or not sane or poses a threat to anyone else in the scene, then it will be called off or cut short. Safety is paramount.”

Roger that.

How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., “barebacking”)?

“I’m totally not into the barebacking scene.

“It’s got to be safe.”

Not a fan of STD/STI “fetishism,” I take it?

“There is absolutely no way that sexual play will go unprotected in my dungeons.  Again, safety is paramount. Any kinkster who insists otherwise will not be welcome in my space or in my scene.”

Fair enough!

What about married guys?

“I don’t care either way – I don’t even ask.”

How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?

“I just looked those up. I have zero experience with this.”

No problem.

How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex? Is that a “thing”?

“Sex addiction is a real thing. It’s never my intention to get someone so hooked on something that they are ‘addicted.’

“I’d rather say that I want my forced-bi sluts to crave it, to long for it, and to do anything to earn it again.”

Interesting distinction!

Almost finished!

Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?

“Oh, my résumé is long!!!”

At Forced-Bi.com, we’re big fans of long things, so… shoot!

“Anal stretching, ass to mouth, ball gags, ball kicking and stretching, behavior modification, belt spanking, biting, blindfolds, bondage, breast-and-nipple play, butt plugs, caging, cock-and-ball torture (CBT), chastity, corporal punishment (it’s what I’m most known for), edge play, face slapping, feminization, flogging, foot worship, human furniture, humiliation, impact play, light medical, orgasm control, paddling, sensation play, sensory deprivation, service-oriented submission, single-tail whips, small-penis humiliation (SPH), tens units, tickling, trampling, violet wand, and… much more!”

Holy crap!

Lol!

How can fans and other interested persons find you to look more into all these fetishes of yours?

“First, visit my website: https://vidianvixen.com/.

“Everything you need to know about me, my dungeons, and my sessions is outlined on my website.

“From there, you can follow me on all my social media accounts.

“Instagram: @_vidiansfeet_

“Snapchat @vidian666

“Fetlife @mrsvidianvixen

“Twitter @vidianvixen

“OnlyFans @vidianvixen.”

That’s awesome!

Thanks a lot, Mistress Vidian!

Just a reminder to Forced-Bi fans, we now have a Subreddit (Reddit.com/EnforcedBi) devoted to our brand of deviance as well as a few weeks-old Twitter account (Twitter.com/forcedbisexual)! Find us in either corner of the web — or both places! — and say “hi”!

(All images of Vidian Vixen are Copyright 2020, Vidian Vixen. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com, its associates, or its proprietor, with permission.)