Today, we have a bit of a change of pace. We’re going to hear about Forced Bi from the point of view of a male practitioner!
Hi, and thanks for being with us, today!
First of all, what name do you go by?
“Oz Bigdownunder.”
Big “down under”? Yes! Ha! Very, um…evocative!
Tell everyone: how do you like to be addressed?
“For cuckolding sessions, some of my duo partners refer to me as ‘My Bull, Oz.’
“Sometimes, for forced bi and/or double domination, clients call me ‘Master Oz.’
“On my site it says I’m an ‘Escort and Pro Dom.’
“Depending on the session, I can be ‘Sir’ or ‘Mister’ or ‘Daddy’ …or whatever suits the scene best.
“Usually, I’m just Oz.”
A lot of roles to play. Right on.
Are there are deep reasons for your preferences, here?
“Not really. I’m very versatile when it comes to adapting to other people’s kinks and fetishes. I’m a professional. Titles are just part of the scene for me. And the scene is all about catering to someone’s wants and needs and creating a ‘bespoke session’ that’s perfect for them.”
Aha. “Bespoke,” as in tailored – like a custom-made suit.
So, is this just a monetary venture for you? Is it more than that? A lifestyle, perhaps? Are you a social activist? Etc.
“None of the above, really.
“My job is usually good fun. But I’m definitely not messing around.”
You’re aiming at money and pleasure, in other words?
“Both. I get a lot of pleasure from my job, but I’m not interested in entertaining anyone for free who has contacted me as Oz – that is, via my site or social media or directory listing.
“I say on my site I’m the number one independent male escort and Pro Dom in the world. I base this on the fact that I’m the top result on Google for related search terms – for example, ‘forced bi male escort’ – and the fact that every Mistress I’ve done a duo session with has told me I’m the best male duo partner she’s ever worked with.”
Hey, kudos!
“Many say I’m the only male duo partner she’s met who can reliably show up to sessions, prioritise the clients wants and needs over his own, get hard, stay hard, and cum on demand.”
It’s harder than it might seem. Um… no pun intended.
“I take being ‘the best’ very seriously and put a lot of work into promotion and giving the best experiences possible for each client.
“And I have great fun in the process.”
I gotcha.
The fun is the fulfillment of doing something enjoyable – filling guys full, lol!
But, you’re not an amateur or a dilettante (so to speak).
How do you think of the guys who seek your services? “Betas”? “Losers”? “Subs”? None of the above?
“I think of them as clients.”
I follow you.
“I refer to them out loud by whichever word they want. Or I choose one that I think is best suited to their session and use that word after checking in with them whether they like it.”
A measured approach.
And I’m guessing that’s because…
“Because they pay me.”
Ha! Right?!
People can talk “Dom” versus “sub” all day long. But there’s a certain sense in which the payor is the boss. Period.
I’m curious, what got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general – and forced bi in particular?
“I’ve always been kinky, since long before I became an escort and pro dom. I got into forced bi after I met Mistress Volga.”
Oh, cool! We interviewed her! (Readers: see that interview next, HERE.)
“We became friends. She knew I was working as an escort and pro dom, and she invited me to join in a session with one of her slaves.
“She said I was the best male partner she’d ever done a duo with.”
Yeah. That’s where it all started?
“I realised there was a lot of demand from male clients and from Pro Dommes for reliable male duo partners for forced bi. And there was no competition since none of the other male escorts were reliable enough.”
I can only imagine!
“So, I’ve spent the last ten years treating my business like a full-time office job. I spend at least a 9-5 shift worth of hours per day promoting myself via my website, social media, directories, building relationships with regular clients and duo partners.”
Marketing is a full-time gig by itself!
“A lot of my regular duo partners found me via word-of-mouth recommendations from other Mistresses or clients.”
You’ve been at this about a decade, then?
“About 12 years.”
Do you have a physical space for in-person meets?
“Yes.”
That’s cool.
Anything that you feel comfortable sharing on a more personal level?
“Do you mean here? Or are you asking me if I’m comfortable when people ask me personal questions when they meet me in person?”
Well, I meant the first. But… now that you mention it, what about the second?
“I’m in my 30s. I’m bi.
“My girlfriend is Milady, from vipfetishmodel.com. We’ve been together for six years.
“I’ll answer most personal questions people ask me, but I don’t share my real name or show my face in pictures or videos – for my privacy.”
Understandable.
“The current level of facial-recognition and reverse-image technology is impressive, and the tech will improve dramatically in the not-too-distant future.”
No doubt.
“I don’t want to be walking down the street in five or ten years time and have everyone I pass be able to scan my face with their ‘eyeball implants’ and use their brain-interfaced, net-connected tech to access my entire history and web presence.”
Wow. It’s a scary thought!
Let me shift into a different gear.
Let’s talk about Forced Bi, itself.
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” Let’s handle both, but in reverse order.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more or less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – is possible?
“Yes. But you don’t have to be ‘equally’ attracted to men and women to be bisexual. See the Kinsey Scale.
“And I don’t think bisexuality is any more or less ‘true’ depending on where you are on the Kinsey scale.
“A lot of my clients identify as straight or bi curious and don’t think off a ‘one off’ or occasional, forced-bi experience as defining them as ‘bi.’
“That’s fine with me.
“It’s also fine with me if they are bi.”
Makes no difference to you?
“These things are always way more complicated than labels and scales would indicate.”
Does that apply to you, too?
“I could be anywhere on the scale depending on my mood, who I’m with, whether they’re paying me etc.”
Ha!
That makes sense.
So, is the Forced-Bi fetish itself an extension of the business model you sketched, earlier?
“For me, it’s a service I offer as a professional.
“For my clients, it can be whatever they want it to be. For some of my clients, it’s just a bit of fun they decide on a whim to try out. For others, it’s a really big deal that they might have spent years or even decades fantasising about, researching, talking to Mistresses about, etc. before finally plucking up the courage to try.
“I don’t judge, and I do everything in my power to try to make it an enjoyable experience for them.”
Which I’m sure, in no small measure contributes to your apparent popularity.
I forgot to ask: How do you refer to the fetish? Coerced bi? Forced Bi? Encouraged gay? Any of the above?
“I prefer ‘forced bi’ because that term sends the most clicks to my site. But I don’t have a problem with any of the others.
“As far as I know, the others are mainly used as euphemisms to avoid getting banned by certain sites for using the word ‘forced.’”
I have heard something similar.
I’m pretty sure that I know the answers, but… you get mostly guys for this, right?
“Yes.”
And how about the actually, um… “forcing”? Within all applicable legal bounds and constraints, of course, is that a role that you play? Doing the coercing, persuading, etc.?
“I’m usually there mainly as a prop.”
I understand!
“The stunt cock.”
An essential part of the scene.
“Every Mistress I do duos with is different and the wants and needs of every client are different.”
Some popular ones are commanding, enticing, seducing…
“So, the tone of the session could resemble anything you mention. The reality is the guy is paying for this to happen, so there’s no real ‘force’ involved. But the level of apparent force, encouragement, seduction, etc. is unique each time depending on the personality, preferences and mood of the Mistress and client.”
Like Forced-Bi snowflakes.
Does Forced Bi change a guy’s sexuality? For example, does it “make a gay gay”?
Men might engage in forced-bi activities as expressions of obedience, submission, and subordination. Whether they identify as straight, or bi, or bi curious is up to them.
“I don’t think there are any reliable estimates of the numbers of bi – let alone bi curious – men in this world. How many married men are going to tick the ‘bi’ box on a census or similar when their wives are looking over their shoulders?
“A lot of men who might be attracted to, or have sex with, another man under specific circumstances (for instance, as part of a kinky forced-bi scene with a Mistress) don’t identify as bi.
“I think if it were possible to scan the brains of the entire male population of the planet and detect the actual sexual preferences of all men, we’d find the percent of the population that is bi to some extent would be enormous – way beyond what anyone would predict based on census results. More than straight and gay combined.”
If only!
Do you think guys can be “switches” or “versatile”?
“Yeah, sure.”
Do you get off on the visuals of gay sex?
“Watching man-on-man action does nothing for me in porn. But I love being involved in any kinky scene involving more than two people.”
That’s fascinating. Some Mistresses seem to like the optics, but not want to be involved. So, I suppose you’re a good match for a lot of them.
Do you think that engaging in bisex or gay sex affects a guy’s attractiveness or desirability?
“Those are desirable qualities in men, as far as I’m concerned. Bi and bi-curious men who want Forced-Bi sessions with a Mistress and me are my favourite clients.
“As far as a man’s overall attractiveness or desirability, maybe don’t mention your forced bi fetish on your Tinder profile. Save that for at least the second date.”
Ha! Probably sage advice.
Do you see a lot of men being too open about this side of their sex life?
“I meet a lot of men who are seeing me in secret from their wives or girlfriends. I don’t judge. It is a risk if you tell your partner you’re bi and you don’t know how she’ll react.”
Well, readers should know: the secret’s safe with us!
“But I also meet guys whose partners do know they’re bi. And I see a lot of couples.
“I really admire the couples I meet who have a relationship where they are open and honest with each other about sex. I meet some couples and it seems like they’ve read every page of my blog together and know exactly what they want, what they don’t want, and have talked about every detail to make sure they’re agreed about how the session should go.
“Good communication, really caring about your partner’s wants and needs, and being turned on seeing your partner having hot sex and sharing that experience: those can be very attractive and desirable qualities for men and women.”
Especially when you’re getting paid? Lol! Or is that just icing on the cake?
“I love my job. Bi men are my clients and I enjoy forced bi – but, yeah… especially when I’m getting paid.”
Do you think it’s healthy? Psychologically speaking, I mean.
“I think it’s always healthier to act on one’s sexual fantasies than it is to keep them repressed.”
A not-uncommon opinion in your line of work, I’ve found.
“Doing so with professionals greatly increases the likelihood that you’ll have an enjoyable experience, since their priority will be your enjoyment. And if the reality for some reason isn’t for you, no harm done. At least you tried and you learned something about yourself.”
So, it’s healthy in that it’s exploratory and aids in self-discovery?
“Yes.”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“No.”
Right on.
Here’s another question about language.
It’s fashionable to oppose to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“No, not at all. Labels are only a problem when someone tries to inflict an unwanted one on someone else.
“There’s no reason why a man can’t enjoy forced bi as a once off – or on a regular basis – without any re-labelling.”
Do you have a list of guy-on-guy activities that you enjoy? Or…don’t enjoy? What’s on the menu?
“It’s usually the Mistress doing the ordering.”
Ha! Naturally.
“I don’t kiss, rim, bareback, use drugs or show my face in pics or videos.
“All my duo partners know these are hard limits for me.
“Cock sucking and anal sex are fine with me either way, but in forced bi I’m always the top. Similarly, rimming, cum eating, and facials are all okay – but, of course, with me as a top.”
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I do, yes.”
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“Yes, actually.”
How so?
“I’ve done interviews with The Times, BBC, Metro, Newstatesman, Cosmopolitan, a Reddit IAMA – and many more – and mentioned ‘forced bi’ in all my interviews.”
No kidding?
A fair amount of press, n’est-ce pas?
So, in your professional life, I presume you require that the other guy be a dedicated bottom? A total bottom?
“I’m always the top.”
Roger that.
Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?
“I’m both aroused and amused – provided it’s with a genuine paying customer.”
For real…
“When I’m contacted by guys pretending that they want to book an appointment in the hopes that I’ll entertain them with free sex chat, I’m neither amused nor aroused. I’m annoyed.”
A lot of professionals routinely complain about “time wasters.” It’s an occupational hazard, I suppose.
You to put a finer point on something… You do think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit, right?
“Sure. Yep. Maybe he’s into it, maybe not.”
Are you exclusively into this for in-person meets?
“Usually in person. I also offer chat sessions, but the chat session doesn’t start until I’ve received payment.”
And, you said that you’re mostly the “stunt cock.” Does that mean you’re mostly silent?
“It’s usually the Mistress giving directions. Sometimes, I’ll chat – via WhatsApp video – but, again, that’s only after receiving payment via Amazon-U.K. voucher.”
You stated that, for you, it’s a combination of amusement and arousal. What turns you on the most?
“I enjoy sessions involving more than two people. Finding the points where three people’s turn-ons intersect and making a sexy, kinky scene that we all enjoy – with focus on the satisfaction of the client – is rewarding to me as a job and, also, exciting and erotic.”
Let’s touch, again, on the subject of limits.
“As I said, I don’t kiss, rim, bareback, use drugs or show my face in pics or videos.”
Bareback is a big element of a lot of fantasy. How firm (forgive the word) are you on your opposition?
“I don’t bareback, and if guys ask for it, I don’t see them – even if they agree to use condoms.”
You’re adamant.
“If they ask me, it means they’ve asked everyone. And the ones who said ‘yes’ are the ones desperate enough, and/or high on drugs enough, to ignore the risk. They’re the ones who say ‘yes’ to bareback with everyone.
“I won’t risk having a broken condom with someone who’s into bareback.”
No, that’s a good point. The condom could fail.
“Even if they’re on PrEP,[1] they could still have something other than HIV[2] – like antibiotic-resistant gonorrhea.”
How do you feel about married men? Any opinion, there?
“I don’t care either way. I don’t even ask.”
“I don’t use poppers.
“I don’t mind if other guys use them. But, I warn them not to use them if they have a heart condition or if they’re also using Viagra and/or cocaine.”[3]
Do you think that a guy can get “addicted” to gay sex?
“I don’t think so, no.”
Right on. Thanks for persisting through this with me.
Have time for a few last questions?
For example, do you have any other fetishes or activities that you get into?
“CBT,[4] sissification, SPH,[5] cuckolding, spanking (by hand and with implements – e.g., flogger, paddle, crop, cane and whip), dungeons, role play, orgies, bukkake parties, trampling, giving golden showers, humiliation, restraints (e.g., cuffs and ropes), Shibari[6] and many more.”
You get into all sorts of mischief!
All right, please tell us: How can fans and other interested persons check out your work and reach out to you? – for legitimate inquiries, only!
“https://www.reddit.com/user/AussieMaleEscort.”
Oz! It’s been a pleasure! Thank you so much for your time!
All good wishes for your future, kinky endeavors!
(All photos of Oz are Copyright 2020, Oz Bigdownunder. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com with permission.)
Notes:
[1] “PrEP” = “pre-exposure prophylaxis” – often a specific reference to the drug Truvada (emtricitabine and tenofovir)
[2] “HIV” = “human immunodeficiency virus”
[3] Forced-Bi.com does not condone, endorse, or otherwise suggest drug use – whether licit or illicit. However, it may be of vital importance to explicitly mention the potential risk of mixing chemical substances.
[4] “CBT” = “cock-and-ball torture”
[5] “SPH” = “small-penis humiliation”
[6] Also sometimes called “Kinbaku,” this is essentially a form of erotic bondage, or “rope play,” that is regarded as Japanese in origin.
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