Oh, man! Today we have a glamorous and kinky Mistress! She’s also a wordsmith; so, I feel sure we’re all in for a treat!
Hello and welcome!
Please, tell everybody your name.
“My name is Mistress Lucy Khan, and you can call Me ‘Mistress,’ ‘Boss,’ ‘Goddess,’ or simply Lucy – depending on our chemistry.”
“Boss”! I like that!
Any other labels you like? “Alpha,” “Brat,” “Domme,” “Goddess,” “Mean Girl,” “Princess,” “Queen,” “Sadist,” etc.?
“I would say that I am all of the above.”
No kidding? You’re complicated!
“Like many people, I am multifaceted, and one of the reasons I love My job is that I get to explore all the nooks and crannies of My subjectivity.”
Right on.
“Depending on the day, you can find Me in My ‘happy place’ as a bratty mean girl, a devastating tease, or a strict disciplinarian. I would say that the overarching category that all the others fall into is ‘Alpha,’ though… and I do consider Myself an Alpha Female through and through.”
I’m definitely getting a sense of that!
Tell me about your outlook on being a Mistress. I mean, is it just a bit of fun? Or a lifestyle? A spiritual exercise? Some Dommes seem to think of it as a role playing. Others leverage their professional endeavors into social activism. How do you see things?
“Again, I would say that I see Myself engaging in BDSM for all of the above reasons. While I do identify as a lifestyle Domina, I find pleasure in more extreme role plays, which My occupation helps to facilitate.”
That sounds intriguing!
“Of course, this is intertwined with fun/play, social activism, and spiritual enlightenment. I find that the divine and the profane often exist side by side, and in surrendering to our most depraved fantasies through kinky play, we are able to develop not only personally, but also spiritually.”
Clearly, you have a deliberate and reflective point of view.
“There is great power in taking on personas that are more extreme than our day-to-day self-expressions, and I think that the path toward self-actualization involves exploring our psyches in their full complexity.”
I’m interested… given this layered approach, how do you see those who seek you out? A lot of Dommes use words like “Betas,” “Losers,” “Masochists,” “Slaves,” “Subs.” Do you find these to be too limiting, or do they facilitate the self-discovery you’ve been speaking about?
“Personally, I don’t have a specific preference. I always welcome My playmates to tell Me how they identify, because it informs Me about their orientations.
“This is valuable data because, as they say, knowledge is power. The more information I can get from My playmate, the better I can use it against them 🙂”
Ha!
“For the purposes of this interview, though, I’ll often be referring to folks who seek out My services as ‘playmates’ or ‘subs.’”
How long have you been interacting with these playmates and subs?
“While I’ve been conducting in-person sessions since 2011, I didn’t begin My online explorations of D/s until 2017 when I started My Onlyfans at https://onlyfans.com/lucythemistress and My clipstore at iWantLucyKhan.com.”
Oh? Interesting. I am aware of several Dommes who started online and branched out to in-person. But you did it the other way around.
Right on.
So, do you still maintain a location for face-to-face meets, or has the online angle replaced everything else?
“Since I began My Domme career doing in-person sessions almost 10 years ago, I find that there really is no replacement for the electricity that occurs when playing in the flesh.”
I imagine you’re correct!
“I have a private, fully equipped dungeon space in Los Angeles, and a stable of loyal slaves who I train in person. Though I am open to adding new blood to My harem, those who are interested in serving Me should be service-oriented, versatile, and interested in expanding their own boundaries.”
Readers! Are you paying close attention?
“As an elite Mistress, My tribute is not cheap and I turn down sessions all the time – only those who are truly committed to transcending their egos should consider contacting Me via My official website MistressLucy.org.”
Would-be applicants, take note!
So, is this a money-making venture primarily? Or is it a combination of business and pleasure?
“I’m fortunate to be operating from a state of abundance, so anything I do has to check multiple boxes.”
Congrats!
“For Me, My BDSM practice is a marriage of business and pleasure.
“But with a very full and busy life outside of Domming, I do expect My playmates to honor the attention bestowed upon them through showering Me in monetary tributes.”
Indeed!
“I’ve observed over time that men tend to value more what they have to financially sacrifice for, so I only take on new playmates who demonstrate their generosity readily. Afterall, orchestrating forced-bi and gangbang/blowbang scenes can involve quite a bit of organizing and planning, so I expect My labor of love to be recognized and reciprocated.”
I’m sure the logistical considerations can sometimes be enormous.
Given all that, I’m assuming… this is a full-time occupation for you, yeah?
“Bringing fantasies to life is My bread and butter. And I love being able to say that!”
There are a lot of people who would be quite envious, no doubt!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels?
“As a bisexual ethically non-monogamous Woman, I believe that variety the spice of life.”
Ha!
A humorous Internet meme framed a similar point in terms of a grammatical analogy: the singular word “mouse” is to its plural, mice, as the singular “spouse” is to the word you just invoked; namely… spice!
Let’s get into the titular fetish, shall we?
I want to pick your brain a minute about the fetish’s name.
“Forced Bi” appears to have two “parts”: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.”
Firstly, in your opinion, does true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – exist? Is it a thing?
“Duh.”
Lol!
Al-right-y, then! Haha!
“Of course, it does! Where would this fetish be without that?”
So, tell me… how do you think of it?
I mean, is it part of a fetish-oriented lifestyle? Is it a game? A power play? A role play? How do you think of Forced Bi, specifically?
“I think a single activity can check many boxes!”
For sure!
“As a creative person with a background in the arts, I absolutely adore a good role-play scenario — the more taboo and perverse, the better!”
Oh, mercy!
That could get a lot of people’s hearts pumping!
“And in the same breath, there is something undeniably hot about a forced-bi scene based on a true story/feeling.”
What do you mean?
“If a sub really has an urge to experiment with men but has never had the guts to go through with it, I love being the straw that breaks the camel’s back (or butt lol).”
Oh, I see! And… “straw the breaks …the camel’s butt” is hilarious!
“It’s a rush to see someone doing something they would ‘never’ otherwise do, except for My influence. Also, as someone who enjoys novelty Myself, I enjoy being privy to someone’s ‘first’ – so, I totally get off on pushing people past their previous boundaries.”
Yes! That’s very, um…intriguing!
Okay, while I start thinking about baseball to calm myself, tell me, how do you refer to the fetish? By what name, I mean. “Coerced bi,” “coerced gay,” “encouraged gay,” “enforced bi,” “forced bi,” etc.
“Any of those. They’re all designating the same thing.”
Okay… here’s one…
In practice, “forced bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“Oh, it mostly pertains to male submission.
“Being a FemDom, 95% of My clients are men. So, this is the lens through which I see this kink.
“For women, many of us are shades of bisexual already. And, historically, society has always been more permissive of female/female eroticism than male/male.”
All good points.
“In addition, much research has shown that female sexuality is much more flexible and adaptable.
“‘Shout out’ to the fascinating book A Billion Wicked Thoughts.[1]”
Oh, right on. I’ll put bibliographic information into the notes.
“For Me, BDSM always speaks to the hard edges that form the taboos in a society. So, in this way, forced bi – as it pertains to men – is much more charged than it is for women.”
Let me segue into the touchier part.
The idea of being “forced.” Of course, for legal reasons, “forced” means something less than literally compelled by threats. But, which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting?
I’m thinking of “coercion,” “commandment,” “encouragement,” “enticement,” “inducement,” “instruction,” “permission,” “persuasion,” “provocation,” “seduction,” etc.
“While I can run the gamut regarding the tone I take with My forced-bi subs, I really gravitate towards the middle of the spectrum: Persuasion, permission instruction, inducement, enticement, and encouragement.
“For Me, if a man has to be literally physically ‘forced’ – like tied down and made to take a dick in their mouth – the juice isn’t really worth the squeeze for Me.”
Ha! That’s a choice turn of phrase! I love it!
“On the other end of the spectrum, if we get into a room and the sub leaps for My stunt cock’s member without any goading on My part, then what the hell am I doing there?”
Bwahaha!!!
You paint quite a picture!
“In that case I’m more of a voyeur – which is fine, but not forced-bi.
“What holds the most charge for Me is the psychological middle ground of forced-bi.
“I like to play the popular girl who makes two guys make out and go down on each other at a party; or the incestuous mommy who instructs her horny step-son on how to suck dick; or the femme fatal who uses the power of her sexuality to make her mark take it in the ass for her.”
Is anyone else feeling a little warm??
“I like when the gender cues get all mixed up, and the wiring in My sub’s brain crosses and intertwines to make an erotic web that can’t be untangled.
“Research has shown that even straight guys often become aroused when they see an erect cock or a cumshot (likely due to evolutionary purposes), so I use these physiological cues as material to be manipulated inside the dungeon.”
Have mercy.
Well…
I think I forgot the next question!
Um…Haha!
What do you think is actually going on with “forced bi”? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation? Hard no? Hard yes? Something in between?
“Weaker ‘no,’ for me.”
What do you think about the guy-on-guy sex itself? Some women profess to enjoy gay sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be exhibitionists. Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing. What’s your take?
“While I can appreciate the aesthetics – and spectacle – of male/male sex, what really gets Me off about forced-bi is the gender bending and role reversal aspects of it.”
I gotcha.
“I love playing with our society’s taboos and examining whether they still hold water or not.”
A bit of a subversive strain in you?
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women.
What do you think?
“I absolutely find Bisexual men more attractive.”
Oh; no kidding?
“The fact that a man swings both ways opens up so many possibilities for our interaction. It shows Me that he is secure in his own skin and doesn’t derive his value from conforming to the standards of our society.
“In addition, a queer boy opens doors for all involved. For example, I may not want to fuck him Myself, but I may want to see him fuck or get fucked, know what I mean?”
I can surmise!
“So yeah, if a man is willing to ‘take’ or ‘give it’ to another one of My boytoys, it gives him 2x+ chances of staying in My orbit 😉”
I hope readers are taking notes!
Is the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? And…just to clarify, I’m asking about psychological wellbeing.
“I always think it is healthy to enact one’s sexual fantasies in real life.”
That’s cool.
“The expression of a latent fantasy allows it to evolve and transform. Those who are frozen in their sexual proclivities are usually those who have denied the expression of their most charged fantasies.
“This is a great way to keep yourself in a sexual loop, which – functionally – ends up trapping you in your own sexual world-of-one… which is pretty alienating, if you ask Me.”
A sort of psychosexual solipsism.
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“I absolutely think that it can be transformative to do vulnerable-making things, like living out one’s sexual fantasies.”
A quasi-alchemy?
“I firmly believe that sluttiness can be an act of courage! Advocating and taking responsibility for one’s desires (sexual and otherwise) is an exercise in agency, which, in practice, is just an example of how we each take responsibility for the shape our lives take.
“When we build lives that mirror the acceptance we feel for ourselves, we relate to the larger world with a sense of security and abundance. This generosity of spirit, in turn, affects the people around you positively in a sort of ripple effect.
“Just how it’s oftentimes the closeted gay who exhibits the most vitriolic homophobia, I think that breaking down our rigid sexual boundaries (and the identities based on them) can help society evolve. Social taboos surrounding things like male/male eroticism don’t serve the contemporary landscape we live in anymore. Instead, these outdated ideologies create toxicity towards both men and women and should be exploded.”
Quite an introduction to your outlook!
Let me ask something else a bit a heavy – before moving on to lighter fare!
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“I don’t know, and I don’t really care.”
Ha! Okay!
“Labels are only useful up to a point. But, sometimes, they must be used for categorization purposes.
“I think people should identify with the label that most resonates with them, which may evolve over time.”
Is that a personal observation, also?
“I used to consider Myself pansexual, but now I prefer the term bisexual.
“Looking back, My preference for ‘bisexual’ is probably due to the fact that was the term that was used in popular culture when I was an adolescent discovering My sexual identity.
“Many factors go into how someone identifies. So I say, to each their own!”
Let a hundred flowers bloom?
Here, now…let me ask about something a bit more corporeal.
Some Dommes and Mistresses seem to be partial to cock sucking; others talk about their passion for encouraging anal sex. Some like cummy messiness.
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“While I love watching a good boy/boy blowjob, My love for forced bi isn’t tied to a specific sex act.”
Right on.
What gets you going? The gender bending?
“For Me, it’s more about pushing the boundaries of the people I’m playing with.
“For some, kissing may be more intimate than a blow job and vice versa. So, as a Domme, I like to see My subs pushing themselves for My pleasure, approval, or amusement.”
Somehow, I’m not shocked! Haha!
“Because I like to play on the edges of boundaries, the acts that interest Me most totally depend on who is in the room at the time.”
No, that makes total sense. The act is incidental.
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“Oh, without a doubt this fetish is getting more popular.
“Performers like Wolf Hudson[2] have stood as a counterexample to the stigma against bisexual men for a while now, and it has really laid the groundwork for the mainstream to pick up this practice of boy-on-boy play, in a gender-inclusive environment.
“I’m seeing a lot more queering of porn in this way… and I’m 100% here for it!”
“Queering of porn” – whew!
Again, very insightful commentary.
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“Sure.”
Now, a lot of your colleagues demur.
What, specifically, are you thinking about?
“One recent example is Bisexual Quantum Leap,[3] with Joanna Angel, Lance Hart, Baby Sid, and H3ll4sl00tz.”
Oh, I gotcha. You’re thinking of companies that produce porn.
Okay; fair.
Back to you, personally.
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role you want?
“I have no firm preference. I mean, as FemDom, I definitely have a soft spot in My heart for sissies, cumdumps, and power bottoms!”
Ha! Nice!
“But, honestly, a good, game top is the yin to that yang! A hot scene needs a balance of D and s. So, I find the most potential with playmates who are versatile enough to embody multiple roles. That way, I can fit them together like a Lego set 😛”
You have quite a way with words, Mistress!
Everyone always wonders: Are you aroused by forced bi; just amused by it? Other?
“Whether I’m aroused, amused, or incredulous during a scene totally depends on who’s present!”
Understandable!
“A forced-bi scene with some tight and twinky college asses isn’t going to feel the same a pile of dad bods, know what I mean?”
I know exactly!
“I usually get a nice power-trip high any way you play it, though!”
Or you’d be doing something else, surely!
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit? Or…is it more addictive?
“Why not? Women do this all the time. So, I think it’s about time men embrace the pleasures of humans’ brain plasticity.”
What are you interested in doing? I’m getting the distinct impression that this isn’t just fantasy chitchat with you!
“No; it isn’t.”
So, we’re talking encouragement for real, in-the-flesh encounters? 😀
How “involved” do you like to be?
“While I’m happy to offer instruction, encouragement, and review ‘evidence’ virtually, My happy place is facilitating forced-bi encounters in real life.”
The answer I’m sure a lot of folks were hoping for!
“I know that in the era of COVID-19, many opportunities for this kind of encounter have been put on hold. But, honestly, there’s nothing like the charge in a room when someone’s about to indulge in dick for the first time.”
Oh, my! Am I blushing?
“My hope is that once the pandemic is back under control, we will appreciate the ability to play face to face even more and take full advantage of it! You never realize how good you had it, and how precious time is until it’s gone…”
Time is the only resource you can never get back.
Switching gears, again…What’s your biggest turn on?
“Psychologically, I love the power of getting men to perform ‘extreme’ or boundary-pushing sexual acts for Me. Aesthetically, I love the visuals of gay sex. Man-on-man fucking can be so anonymous – primal – and just has a different quality of power dynamic than heterosexual hookups.
“I love helping someone push their own limits, and that’s one of the reasons I call Myself a Kinky Sherpa.”
And the acts? You indicated earlier that they were largely secondary to the rapport, but are there any sexual acts that really get you going?
“I love it all!”
Just as long as male flesh rubs against male flesh?
Okay, then! Haha!
Tell me something about your views on limits. Like…do you have any? Lol.
“As a Dominatrix, I take pride in exercising My power responsibly. This means respecting the hard limits of My playmates and pushing against soft limits with a considered approach.”
It’s a tightrope act.
“After all, I don’t want to break My toy on the first goal (physically or psychologically). So, I like to slowly turn the temperature up over time, instead of doing an extreme and potentially traumatizing scene without having prior experience with My playmate.”
Cook the “frog” gradually.
“Regarding forced-bi play though, I don’t have many limits because it’s not My body on the line.”
That’s hot.
“I assume that My playmates have done their own due diligence regarding risk assessment when we negotiate the scenes that we’d like to bring to life together.
“I’m nonjudgmental of other people’s risk taking as long as it doesn’t impact My own health, or that of My property (AKA. personal subs).”
Caveat lector!
You mentioned your “soft spot” for cumdumps. I wonder… do you have any opinions about Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) or Infections (STIs) as they relate to Forced-Bi scenes? I mean, some Dommes/Mistress express complete opposition – and even revulsion. Others don’t care either way. A few even profess to find it a turn on to see a guy engage in risky gay sex.
What’s your take, there?
“For subs with whom I have an ongoing relationship, I want them to stay clean so that I can continue to use them for other scenes.
“Obviously, if they contracted a non-curable STI, I would have to disclose this to future partners who I want to pair them up with – complicating the discussion, and compromising the potential of actually carrying out a scene.
“I value health Myself, so for the sake of simplicity during negotiation, I prefer that My subs carry a clean bill of health.
“Obviously, there is no such thing as ‘safe sex’ (only safer sex) and so, for Me, it’s about risk assessment and cost/benefit analysis.
“For example, I do think barebacking is aesthetically more pleasing. While it carries risks, if My two subs are only engaging in this type of play through Me, then the risk is much lower, since I have complete control over their sexual exposure.”
All right. How do you feel about married men?
“This question makes a lot of assumptions on what marriage is and isn’t.
“Married men can be ethically non-monogamous too!
“They don’t have to be for Me to play with them, but… just saying.”
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (“poppers”)?
“I absolutely think poppers can be used to enhance a scene.
“But I don’t think they should be used every time, otherwise they can become a kind of crutch.”
Actually, your mention of a “crutch” makes me want to ask something else. Do you think that a guy can get addicted to gay sex?
“I think getting My playmate to a place of ultimate surrender is extremely hot.
“As a scene, I think getting a sub ‘addicted’ to cock, to rimming, to My approval, or My ass, etc. is one way to get them to let go of control, which is something we all need.”
I perceive the “scare quotes” around the word “addicted,” though.
“Addiction insinuates that you’re beyond the point of being able to choose, and you’re basically just a robot (cockbot?) performing your programming.
“Obviously, I think when someone’s actually addicted – whether it be to gay sex or to a substance – it really narrows the scope of their sexual exploration, and isn’t very generous to the people with whom they play (like Me!).
“So, I’m for it in scene, but against it as a lifestyle.”
I think I follow you.
“But, honestly, unless there are other factors at play, I don’t think there is much danger of trying gay play once and becoming addicted.”
Thank you so much!
Just a few more questions. Do you have time?
Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?
“My list of fetishes is long and can seem a bit extreme to some 🙂”
I would expect nothing less from you! Lol!
“In addition to forced bi, some of My favorite activities include full-toilet training, brown and golden showers, CBT,[4] ball busting, cuckolding, degradation and humiliation, SPH,[5] feminization, slut training, strap-on and pegging, role-play, ABDL,[6] and anything having to do with foot and leg worship.”
Mercy!
“Generally speaking, I tend to enjoy creative role-play scenes, role reversals, and using the magnificence of My body against you.”
Yes, well… I’m losing blood to my brain at the moment…
Ha!
But, before I totally lose myself, tell us: How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? How can they get a hold of you?
“Official website: MistressLucy.org
“My xxx-b/G-Femdom membership site with over 450+ uncensored photos and videos: Onlyfans.com/lucythemistress (daily uploads)
“Access My premium snapchat, where you’ll share in My fetishes related to toilet + toes: fancentro.com/Lucythemisterss (uploads 4x/week)
“BTS[7] of my Femdom shoots and lifestyle can be found at AVN stars: stars.avn.com/lucythemistress (uploads 3x/week)
“Content-and-clip site: My worn + creampied panties, socks, and other goodies are available through My Manyvids store: Mistresslucykhan.manyvids.com
“My forced-bi POV,[8] sissy training, femdom, and fetish videos can be found on my clipstore: iwantlucykhan.com
“You can also commission a custom video order to make your personal fantasy cum true!”
Readers! Are you paying attention?!
“Twitter: @Lucythemistress
“IG[9] @MsLucyKhan”
Wow! Boy…
Thank you so much!
You’re so cerebral – even poetic, frankly.
Mistress Lucy Khan, everyone!
Check her out! …if you’re brave enough!
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(The images of Mistress Lucy Khan included in this post are Copyright 2020, Mistress Lucy Khan. They are reproduced with permission.)
Notes:
[1] Ogi Ogas & Sai Gaddam, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire, New York: Dutton, 2011.
[2] Wolf Hudson is a well-known pornographic actor and model who is featured in a lot of bisexual videos. See: https://www.pornhub.com/pornstar/wolf-hudson.
[3] See: https://www.adultdvdempire.com/3056984/bisexual-quantum-leap-porn-videos.html.
[4] “CBT” = “cock-and-ball torture”
[5] “SPH” = “small-penis humiliation”
[6] “ABDL” = “adult babies and diaper lovers”
[7] “BTS” = “behind the scene”
[8] “POV” = “point of view”
[9] “IG” = “Instagram”