Attention, Forced-Bi fanatics around the globe. Today, we invite a ruggedly individualistic Mistress who, in our estimation, represents a strong dose of raw femininity.
Welcome. What name do you go by?
“Valkyree Jaine.”
Of all the available labels – “Alpha,” “Brat,” “Mistress,” and so on – which do you fancy?
“I am partial to ‘Goddess,’ ‘Princess,’ and ‘Queen.’ Although, I typically ask my subs to call me ‘Goddess’ or ‘Master Empress.’
“I prefer to be referred to as Goddess because I feel like it best represents what I truly am: A Goddess on Earth.”
What do you think of yourself as doing? I mean, is this just a roleplay? Is there a strand of activism in you? Etc.
“It’s a lifestyle. This is who I am all the time, and who I plan to be as time continues.”
I believe you!
Now… those who seek you out… what do you call them? “Betas”? “Losers”? “Slaves”?
“They’re slaves and subs, or submissives.”
Right on. What’s your thought process? And… what got you into all this?
“I like to call those who submit to me ‘slaves’ in private play, but will refer to them as ‘my submissive’ to a peer, co-worker or within a public conversation or scenario (filming, discussing how they serve me, etc.).
“When I first started my sex-work (SW[1]) career, I mostly did vanilla performances – although I was aware of the kink and fetish scenes.
“It wasn’t until three years down the line that I realized how unhappy I was, and how I often felt like I wasn’t truly getting a chance to be myself during my performances. I often felt like I was lying, and the majority of my customer interactions were forced or fake altogether.
“This means too much to me to have let it continue going in that direction. I knew I needed to change something.
“I didn’t really know what or how it would be at the time, but I felt desperate for redirection.
“I had even tried to quit camming for a month during the summer of 2017 while I attempted to sort out my thoughts. Towards the beginning of Fall that year, I started exploring a bit on Twitter and eventually found myself fully emerged in ‘Kink Twitter’ and ‘Findom Twitter,’ two places I had never been before. And… two places that fascinated me beyond belief, for multiple reasons.”
Twitter has a burgeoning and vibrant fetish community, for sure. What were your reasons?
“One of the main ones was the simple fact that I seemingly could support myself and make a full living from facilitating kink and fetish content / performances. A second observation that intrigued me was how effortless it seemed for me to be able to do that.
“I started researching more and more kinks and learning about Femdom through different methods. I also began to experiment more with different types of kinks, fetishes and Femdom-based sessions on Streamate, which is the website that I cam for.”
There’s a blue million of those sites, it seems. I’ll have to check it out.
“After a couple months, I had completely changed my entire presence in the industry and I began to facilitate kink, Femdom and Findom full time. I developed a very personal and satisfying D/s relationship with a sub who later came to be known as ‘Pony Boy,’ and who now has been serving me for two and a half years.”
Readers may be interested, also, in Mistress Mix Trix, who also has a real-life setup similar to what you describe.
“Pony Boy was heavily invested in Findom, Ignore fetish, bondage, and Forced-Bi. We would chat and session often, playing on his fantasies to please men and to be used by them for oral pleasure.
“He regularly expresses his wish to be forced by me to perform oral on a man, and it makes me smile just the same as it ever has to this day.”
I’ll definitely ask a bit more on what makes you tick in just a moment.
“I love joking with my subs about how having them suck cocks could never be used as a punishment on them, because I truly believe that deep down inside all men are bi-curious at a base level.”
And I’ll probe more deeply into your views on that, too!
But, first… just a few more ground-laying questions.
How long have you been, well… the new you?
“My 6 year anniversary for SW just passed in January, 2020. I plan to continue building my brand and empire into the future for at least the next ten years (as long as we’re all still alive of course).”
Sometimes I wonder whether we will be!
Do you do this at a “dungeon” or other physical space, or just online?
“Short answer: No.
“Long answer: Not at the moment, but… I do have plans to build or rent some type of dungeon / studio space for my regulars to enjoy private, in-person sessions.”
That sounds intriguing.
Is this for income only? Or pleasure, too? Either/or? Both/and? And, how much of your time does this take up? Is it a pastime? Avocation? Occupation?
“I am a full-time SW, I make a full living and support my entire lifestyle off my SW alone. Because of this, I will always be concerned about the money. It will never not be about the money for me.”
Fair enough. I feel a “but” following fast on the heels!
“But… it also goes so much deeper than that.
“I genuinely believe that I am changing the lives of each and every customer that comes into contact with me, whether they choose to spend money on me or not.
“How that happens may vary from each individual, and those who spend more time with me obviously will carry a greater impact into the future, but to be in my presence truly is a blessing and the effects it has on a person are undeniable.”
Confidence and vision go a long way!
So… not to put too fine a point on it, but… you’re full-time… is this where you want to be? Or do you want more? …or less?
“This is my ‘full-time job,’ although I have managed to keep away from a ‘full-time schedule’ since the first year I started camming.
“In the beginning I easily cammed 40-45 hours a week, and this was back when I only cammed. I didn’t even have a phone line or social media profile.”
Now you’re more efficient? More equally dedicated?
“These days I try to meet my goals in as little time as possible, and typically spend around 25-30 hours a week on performing, making content, and communicating with my subs.”
I felicitate you!
“One thing I have learned about myself this far into my life is that I will always want more.
“Sometimes it may not even be that I want more, and maybe I just want something different for a while instead.”
What did Socrates say? The unexamined life is not worth living.
“Regardless of what drives me, I am always motivated to explore and succeed in new ways.”
How so?
“One specific way I am satisfied with my current kink involvement is the recent D/s lifestyle relationship I have developed.”
Gotcha. Would you share a little about that?
“It started in November of 2019 and has been positively progressing since then.
“Sometimes, I feel like I’d like to be more directly involved with the online fetish community, but I have never been one to ‘go with the flow’ or have a ton of friends. I’ve always ended up doing my own thing and I’m happy to continue pursuing my career and lifestyle in that way.
“I do however intend to continue challenging myself to branch out and show my face at more in person kink, fetish and industry events.”
The Goddess with a plan! That sounds really great!
Is there anything else you feel like telling us about yourself?
“I just turned 25 in February.”
Belated happy birthday!
“I am an Aquarius and loving every moment of it.
“I feel like I’ve always been a Female Dominant in my core, in and out of the professional world, and I am so, so thankful that I have found a way to monetize my preferred lifestyle at such a young age.”
Again, congrats!
“In addition to my SW career, I also do professional dreadlock installation and maintenance on the side, mostly for fun – plus cash of course.”
No kidding? That’s different! Haven’t heard that one, before.
“I had dreadlocks myself for five years but recently decided to take them out.
“I am a certified Reiki Master Teacher (RMT), and I’m currently studying under a 200-hour YTT[2] program. I will also be taking courses to become a clinically certified Hypnotherapist in the Fall of this year.”
Busy Goddess! I’m sure you could find numerous applications for hypnosis in your profession.
“Regardless of all this info, I am not a vegan. But I do love animals!
“I practice Witchcraft on a daily basis and enjoy learning about other forms of ritual and ancient cultures in my free time.”
Free time? Ha! You have any of that?
“I am an artist, an adventurer, and I love food. The beach has my heart, but the mountains will forever have my soul.”
A bit of a poet, too – if your interview answers are any indicator.
“As I previously mentioned, above, I am currently in a lifestyle D/s relationship.
“My partner is three years younger than me and serves me full time. We are highly compatible in a multitude of ways, and I am constantly learning new things about myself as a Domme and a person through our experiences together.”
Personal growth. Self-discovery. Very cool.
“Mostly, I tend to date or become involved in long term relationships with men, but I do consider myself to be pansexual. I have had experiences with men and women and neither sex is more desirable, or satisfying, to me than the other.
“I do know one thing for certain, which is that Polyamory is entirely not for me. My current partner feels the same way.”
Thank you so much for that!
Let me transition more directly into that fetish which forms the specific focus of my project: Forced Bi.
On the face of it, the “forced-bi fetish” has two components: (1) “force” and (2) “bisexuality.” I wanna ask you about both, but let’s tackle them in reverse order.
I can probably predict this answer, based upon your personal remarks, but I’ll ask it anyway.
Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called “binarism”) – is possible?
“Yes, of course.”
I thought as much.
How do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish? I mean… is it a lifestyle? Bit of fun? A game? A roleplay? Something else?
“It’s a lifestyle and something else: freedom, escape, truth.
“It’s important to me for people to be able to feel all the things they were meant to feel. Some of you need to feel a cock down your throat.”
That conjures up quite an image.
What do you call this fetish? “Coerced Bi”? “Encouraged Bi”? “Forced Bi”? Same difference?
“I typically would choose A. Coerced Bi, mainly because I don’t like the idea of it being forced 100% of the time (often this is where the role play will lead, but I’m not interested in projecting the idea that forcing it is mandatory).
“Although… I do like the way that ‘Enforced Bi’ sounds as well.
“I would never use the term ‘Coerced Gay’.”
For most interviewees, and in practice, “Forced Bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well. And a few Mistresses have expressed an interest in doing it with (or to) females but confess that it isn’t the usual way.
What do you think? Is “Forced Bi” more or less directed at males?
“This term pertains to male submission only.
“The only reason this fetish can even exist in the world is because of the incredible stigma there is around men being gay or bisexual. Women do not face that same stigma.”
That’s not an uncommon opinion, it seems.
“In fact, it’s almost as if some men secretly wish all women were bisexual or even gay because they fetishize it so much.”
The American philosopher John Searle once summarized an opinion held by the 17th-century French thinker, La Rochefoucauld, who apparently said that “few people would ever fall in love if they never read about it.” I think a lot of what men wish – secretly or otherwise – has been shaped by the media (and, ahem: porn).
All right: what about the “Forced” or “Coerced” part?
Legally, obviously, we don’t mean anything illegal such as being compelled by threat of force. But, how do you see it? Coercion? Commandment? Encouragement? Enticement? Inducement? Instruction? Permission? Persuasion? Provocation? Seduction? A little of everything? Something else? None of the above?
“My honest answer is all of the above.”
Yeah?
“All these different ways to facilitate this fetish come in handy, it really depends on the type of sub you are dealing with. A cuck is going to have a different mindset around the fetish than a sissy, and so on.”
That makes sense.
Engaging in this fetish, do guys change their sexual orientations? Or… do you alter their orientations? What’s going on, do you think?
“I do not believe that any change of the sexuality takes place. You wanted this before you knew I even existed.”
Is it possible – or usual – for a guy to be a “switch” (i.e., either top or bottom).
“I believe it’s possible for men or women to be a switch, although I think far less likely for men to be able to execute and facilitate being a switch appropriately.”
Ah. A distinction between what a guy is and how he functions? I like it.
“They have a hard-enough time finding their keys in the morning before work, so asking them to go back and forth between two extremes is, I think, too much.
“Men are simple creatures and fixate on simple ideas. Women are far more capable and equipped to be true switches.
“In my experience, when a man claims he is a switch and I give him the opportunity to show me what that means to him, I have been dissatisfied.”
What do you think of guy-on-guy sex, as far as its visual appeal goes? Is it of interest? Do you think of it as a spectacle? What’s your opinion, there?
“I don’t consider bisexuality or gay sex to be a spectacle. I also don’t believe that a man trying gay sex makes him less desirable or less valuable.
“What would be a spectacle is if the person who’s performing the task initially believed it wasn’t what they wanted or that it was avoidable.
“I enjoy gender-bending very much, and I also enjoy guy-on-guy sex, but I typically don’t watch porn at all.”
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women.
What do you think?
“Most of me is leaning towards saying that bisexual guys can certainly be attractive and desirable. Although, parts of me agree with the idea that bisexual guys can actually be more attractive than straight guys.
“I do believe that there are some (a lot of) men out there telling themselves and the world they are straight or bisexual to cover up that they are in fact very gay. I imagine it to be incredibly unfortunate to live your life so heavily conditioned by our society.”
Ignoring, for the moment, any consideration of sexually transmitted diseases or infections, and thinking only about the sub’s flourishing, do you think that the forced-bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”?
“This is 100% healthy and freeing.”
No qualifications? Roger that.
What makes you think that it’s healthy?
“It’s productive exploration; it aids in self-discovery.
“Plus, a lot of these guys are latent homosexuals anyway. This just helps them be faithful to their true natures.”
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“For many, yes. A true cock sucker will seek cock every day and may even pray to cocks.”
Oh, mercy.
“It could be your destiny, if you have ever contemplated the subject – even for a moment, ‘just that one time’.”
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “forced-bi” fetish?
“I see this as a problem for all of existence.”
Oh? What is the response? Rebellion against all existence?
It recalls the words of esteemed Feminist Theorist and Professor Camille Paglia, when she stated: “Homosexuality is not ‘normal.’ On the contrary, it is a challenge to the norm; therein rests its eternally revolutionary character.”[3]
Wading back to the shallows, however… here is a fan-favorite question: What homosexual activities to you like to order or see? Bukkake? Cocksucking? Cum eating? Creampies? Facials? Kissing? Rimming? Etc.
“I enjoy watching and ordering all of the activities, but my favourites would have to be penetrative sex, oral sex, and facials / self-facials.”
Self-facials. Hmm. I don’t remember anyone else (so far) mentioning that one specifically. Interesting!
“Self-facials are one of my favourite fetishes of all time.”
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I have no idea, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was – as kink and fetish are becoming more popular as a whole. And more people (men specifically) are waking up and choosing to explore their sexualities more each day.”
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“If it is, it’s via the military.”
Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?
“Depending on the situation, it’s usually that I prefer having one dedicated bottom/passive partner and one dedicated top/active. But, ultimately, I have no preference; I’ll work with whatever they’re willing to do.”
Cool.
Does this stuff actually turn you on? Or are you just amused by it?
“I’m both aroused and amused.”
For a lot of guys, I think that’s ideal.
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Theoretically I suppose you could continuously fight the urges and never pursue cock again, but there is an energetic exchange that comes with taking cock, and it is incredibly empowering.”
Empowering? For the guy, or… for you? Ha!
What are you mostly talking about, here? Fantasy chat only? Do you encourage guys to have real, in-the-flesh homosexual sex? Or… something else?
“B.”
Ha! Right on!
So… chat and fantasy is a kind of gateway – or stargate – into, um… deeper recesses.
How “involved” do you like to be? I mean… do you just issue a command and then assume it all went to plan? Do you request photographic evidence? Or are you actually watching this stuff go down via webcam, or even directing it in person?
“Over cam, I tell them what to do, and I want to see it go down.
“But, if I can, then definitely watch in real-life situations.”
That’s hot.
What’s your biggest turn on?
“The satisfaction of seeing men bend to my will turns me on the most.”
What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries? Anal bottoms? Cocksuckers? Cumdumps? Tops? Something I can’t even imagine??
“I love it all.”
I’ll bet you do! And I suppose it’s easy for you to get… it all!
Do you have any limits?
“A few.”
Are we talking limits for you, personally? Or… for the subs, too?
“Mostly applying to me.”
What’s your opinion of “barebacking” / condom-less sex?
“I don’t care what two consenting adults are willingly choosing to do with their bodies.”
How do you feel about STDs and STD risk?
“My sub must stay clean. Any other sub, I don’t care.”
Jeez. Wow.
“If you’re a real slut, be prepared to get nasty.”
Shit. I think I forgot the next question. Blood. Flow. Redirecting.
Oh, yes…
Married men: what’s your feeling, there? Come on in? Or… stay away?
“I prefer married men.”
Wow.
“I like defiling marriage and ruining things.”
I shouldn’t think that’s hot, should I?
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers – what are called “poppers”? Do you tolerate…
“I insist on them.”
Holy crap.
You presiding over a Forced-Bi extravaganza sounds like a wild time. My goodness.
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex?
“I prefer guys to become addicted to gay sex, because then there will be less problems in the world for women.”
Ha! I can’t decide if that’s funny or arousing!
You’ve been a blast!
Wrapping up… um… what else are you into?
“I enjoy so many different fetishes, I couldn’t really list or describe them all!”
Pardon! Just to break in… and borrow a line from the Aladdin character Iago: “I think I’m going to have a heart attack and die from not surprise!”
Sorry! Proceed!
“A few of my favourites do include CBT,[4] SPH,[5] Blackmail, Findom, Body-Hair Worship, Human-Toilet Play, urethral sounding, Human Furniture, and anything involving rope.
“I love tying up my subs and rendering them entirely helpless.”
Amazing.
Some readers will be champing at the bit to get in touch with you. Where can they go?
“My fans can find me and check out my work through these links here:
“Streamate: valkyree_jainex.cammodels.com
“OnlyFans: onlyfans.com/valkyree_jainex
“AVN Stars (free to follow!): stars.avn.com/valkyree_jainex
“SextPanther: sextpanther.com/valkyree-jaine
“NiteFlirt: https://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/11458002-HAIRY-FemDom-Goddess-Join-My-Collection-of-Souls
“Twitter: twitter.com/valkyree_jainex
“I plan to be opening clip stores soon with AVN Stars, iWantClips, and Clips4Sale within the next couple months.”
That’s awesome!
Thank you so much for being with me, today!
I think I need a cold shower…
(All photographs of Valkyree Jaine on this website are Copyright 2020 Valkyree Jaine. They are reproduced here with permission.)
Notes:
[1] SW = “sex work”
[2] Presumably, YTT = “Yoga Teacher Training”
[3] Vamps & Tramps: New Essays, New York: Knopf; Doubleday, 2011, p. 70.
[4] CBT = “cock-and-ball torture”
[5] SPH = “small-penis humiliation”