{"id":952,"date":"2021-02-23T19:57:36","date_gmt":"2021-02-23T19:57:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/?p=952"},"modified":"2021-02-23T20:00:22","modified_gmt":"2021-02-23T20:00:22","slug":"slut-riley-forced-bi-interview-with-transfemme-submissive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/2021\/02\/23\/slut-riley-forced-bi-interview-with-transfemme-submissive\/","title":{"rendered":"Slut Riley: Forced-Bi Interview With Transfemme Submissive"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello, Forced-Bi land! Today, we have something \u2026a li\u2019l different from our usual fare!<\/p>\n

We\u2019re interviewing someone who will give us deeper (ahem<\/em>!), um\u2026 insight \ud83d\ude09 into our fav fetish \u2013 from the perspective of a sub!<\/p>\n

Hi! Welcome!<\/p>\n

What shall we call you?<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2018Slave Riley\u2019 or \u2018Slut Riley\u2019 (f.k.a.[1]<\/a> \u2018Toby Dammit\u2019).<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy in-scene pronouns are \u2018it\u2019 and \u2018that.\u2019 <\/strong>\ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Yes! Very\u2026 impersonal.<\/p>\n

\u201cFor my primary D\/s dynamic, I am just property \u2013 fully Hers<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mistress\u2019s? I gotcha.<\/p>\n

And you respond to\u2026?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn-scene, with play partners \u2018slut,\u2019 \u2018slave,\u2019 \u2018sub,\u2019 \u2018toy,\u2019 and \u2018pet\u2019 are all good.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI also have a Daddy dynamic and, with Her, I am \u2018babygirl.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cProperty reflects my D\/s[2]<\/a> desire \u2013 to be an object, owned and controlled by my Mistress, all within a negotiated framework of power exchange and surrender.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve been fortunate to have found someone who not only allowed me to grow and discover new aspects of my \u2018self,\u2019 but who both encourages and embraces these new aspects.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

So\u2026 may I ask\u2026 how do you see your fetishism? I mean, is this a lifestyle, then? Roleplay? A spiritual exercise?<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, it\u2019s really a combination of all of those!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe lifestyle dive is influenced by a spiritual need for connection in a very specific way; I\u2019ve always viewed Femdom and sexual\/gender non-conformity as inherently political \u2013 it\u2019s why they\u2019re so often secreted and taboo, right?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBut I also love<\/em> to take on particular roles for my Dominants\/partners and, obviously, there\u2019s a ton of fun to it. Or, why dive into it so completely?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! I can see that! Though, I never presume!<\/p>\n

What do you look for in a Dominant? And\u2026 just to be absolutely clear: You\u2019re not-at-all Dominant, right?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not a Dominant, pro or otherwise. So, I seek out Dom\/Dommes, of both the physically and emotionally sadistic varieties, to find connection with.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat I look for is the ability to get my needs fulfilled, which is by fulfilling theirs. I have a number of lifestyle dynamics, but I also play professionally as both the seeker and, on rare occasions, as a hired pro-sub.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

How do you usually refer to these Doms or Dommes?<\/p>\n

\u201cI say \u2018Dominants,\u2019 because the power surrender is the key to my own satisfaction. I\u2019m not a masochist, nor much of a bottom (in the sensual sense) in that my primary driver isn\u2019t \u2018sensation.\u2019 I need a partner to accept my surrendering of power to them, even if only in-scene, in order to find fulfillment and provide them my best service\/suffering.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Thanks for that.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m so curious\u2026 how did you get into all this?<\/p>\n

\u201cLike many, I knew from a pretty early age that my desires were out of the mainstream. A big part of it was the emotional and physical excitement that being exposed to BDSM and Femdom concepts in popular culture would create, especially reruns of 1980s TV shows like \u2018Wonder Woman\u2019 and \u2018Buck Rogers.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThis was further affirmed the first time I saw porn in the form of a VHS tape\u2026 Anyone remember those??<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Oh, sure!<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2026that a friend had stolen from their father\u2019s collection.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar!<\/p>\n

\u201cRounding up a group of the boys in the neighborhood, he brought us to his house to watch, while his parents were at work. While it was generally exciting, it was when a scene infused with a lot<\/em> of power exchange that I found myself incredibly drawn to the sense of \u2018forced\u2019 surrender that the female partner was experiencing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut I wasn\u2019t attracted to men, so it wasn\u2019t the actor (Jamie Gillis, a notorious porn top) that I was reacting to, but the Dominant energy<\/em> he was putting out. Putting two-and-two together led to seeking out women with a preference for being dominant as girlfriends and partners.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I follow you. Intriguing!<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s how you got involved with Forced Bi?<\/p>\n

\u201cEntry into \u2018forced\u2019 bi came by two different routes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe first was getting involved in the leather community in the eastern city I was growing up in \u2013 where my sexual orientation and needs\/desires were secondary to my role as a slave. Pleasing was the directive \u2013 not enjoying \u2013 so, the gender\/orientation of whom I was instructed to give pleasure to didn\u2019t matter. In fact, it wasn\u2019t allowed to.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAlthough, it needs to be reinforced: I did<\/em> give my consent to be in a place of ostensibly non-consensual expectations.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I gotcha.<\/p>\n

That was the first?<\/p>\n

\u201cA more intimate introduction came during college in Los Angeles when I had gotten involved in some fetish filming \u2013 some on actual, super-16 film!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh; no kidding?<\/p>\n

\u201cI had an industry girlfriend who wanted to cuckold me. For me, the combination of having a partner whose sexual satisfaction would come from other men, and from me serving her \u2013 and, eventually, them<\/em> (in the pre- and post-) \u2013 while also denying me most chances of direct sexual pleasure \u2026was truly ideal.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I think I follow.<\/p>\n

\u201cEven though I\u2019m years removed from being an active sex worker \u2013 mostly<\/em>\u2026<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh?!?<\/p>\n

\u201cLol<\/em>! I\u2019ve been an on-line presence in various kink communities for several years.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

But, your frame of reference is\u2026 in-the-flesh encounters?<\/p>\n

\u201cMost of my experiences are IRL,[3]<\/a> and I have them with partners \u2013 pro and lifestyle \u2013 in a variety of locations and situations: their dungeons, hotels, house parties, swinging\/kink societies, etc.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Quite an assortment!<\/p>\n

What\u2019s your aim? Or\u2026what was<\/em> it?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m in it for the D\/s-structured pleasing of others!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Fair.<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2026which, in turn, pleases\/satisfies me!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Okay, that\u2019s kinda what I was wondering!<\/p>\n

Was this always a side \u2026occupation?<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s a hobby \u2013 but, a very immersive and time\/resource-consuming one.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I can imagine!<\/p>\n

\u201cI try to help the friends I\u2019ve made in the community with their various professional needs and goals \u2013 possibly by supporting them with some patronage or technical advice.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Technical advice?<\/p>\n

\u201cI have a vanilla background in film production.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Aha!<\/p>\n

Are you\u2026 satisfied with your current level of involvement?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019d like it to be more, lol<\/em>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI dream about being owned 24\/7 and just helping to support our debauchery with my passive incomes.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, \u2026really<\/em>??<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, if anyone is curious about an LTR[4]<\/a> with a financially secure trans-femme cuck\/gimp, hit me up.\u00a0 <\/strong>\ud83d\ude09 Not really. But\u2026 maybe.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! I can\u2019t tell if you\u2019re kidding or not! Lol!<\/p>\n

Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else?<\/p>\n

\u201cI feel like I\u2019m peaking now, in my mid-forties \u2013 old enough to know better, but still young enough to jump full-speed into spectacularly fun errors of judgment!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! I have used the expression \u201cold enough to know better\u201d a number of times when asked for my age!<\/p>\n

\u201cOn the (sex\/kink) professional end, I\u2019m 20-years retired from work in custom-to-order specialty\/kink film \u2013 and some limited, vanilla-porn. And now I keep my BDSM\/kink\/sex-play rooted in the realm of the personal.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

A lot of people would envy that position.<\/p>\n

\u201cI have a small pool of emotionally intimate partners, and a wider array of valued-but-casual play partners.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I gotcha. Some people\u2019s network is a mile wide, but an inch deep.<\/p>\n

\u201cGiven that I was AMAB (\u2018assigned male at birth\u2019), my sexual orientation was straight<\/em> for most of my life. But, in the past few years, as I\u2019ve come to understand myself as trans<\/em>, I guess I\u2019m gay now\u2026?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe interesting thing \u2013 in the context of this site and its subject \u2013 is that the change in gender orientation impacts only that lens of sexual orientation and not \u2018who\u2019 I need to be \u2018forced\u2019 to be bi- with, i.e. cis<\/em>-men.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I think I grok you. It only affects description of what\u2019s going on \u2013 not who is involved.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cLast \u2018interesting fact\u2019: my Owner has had me in 24\/7 chastity for going on four years, and I am almost exclusively limited to prostate-orgasms. \u2026Which, to be fair, are fucking amazing<\/em> once you learn how to ride the wave into them.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Fascinating!<\/p>\n

You mentioned feeling \u2013 in a way \u2013 that you went from identifying as \u201cstraight\u201d to, well\u2026 saying \u201cI guess I\u2019m gay now\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019m curious: Do you think that true bisexuality is possible?<\/p>\n

\u201cI know \u2018true\u2019 bisexuality[5]<\/a> (and, for that matter, bi-romanticism<\/em>) is possible. I have many friends who are.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Right on.<\/p>\n

\u201cConversely, there are also those who are much less fluid, and are affixed more firmly to one end of the spectrum or the other, making the \u2018forced\u2019 component of the forced-bi kink even more resonant.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Where would you \u201cmap\u201d yourself?<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, I guess I consider myself passively bisexual? My innate attractions are with women, and it\u2019s very<\/em> rare that I have spontaneous sexual attraction to a man.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThat said, there are often cases where you\u2019d be hard-pressed to spot the \u2018forced\u2019 part of the forced-bi scene I\u2019m in. When I\u2019m told by my Owner or Dominant to please someone, I am not<\/em> going to do it with an air of reluctance; they will get my full, eager, and passionate attention.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

How do you see the Forced-Bi fetish, overall? I mean\u2026 is it a facet of lifestyle?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn my dynamics, my Dominants have \u2013 I\u2019m sure \u2013 various ways that they would define the role of forced-bi for them<\/em>. But, for me<\/em>, it is an opportunity to transport myself more fully into the role of property\/slave\/sub by performing something I do not desire independently.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAs I said, I will \u2013 when called for \u2013 fully jump into the \u2018role\u2019 of eager slut\/toy for a man. But, it\u2019s all in service of my submission to my Owner or Dom\/Domme. It\u2019s for their<\/em> amusement \u2013 or, sometimes, to shock\/titillate friends or other subs \u2013 not for my own exploration and revelation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI want them to be proud of how I perform for them \u2013 especially if it\u2019s with something I wouldn\u2019t necessarily \u2018choose\u2019 to do. My guess is some of it stems from my early exposure to leather-scene etiquettes.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Wow. That makes a lot of sense to me \u2013 especially, the exhibitionist \/ performance undercurrent.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn many ways, forced-bi is similar to pain play for me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll have to think about that one.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not a traditional masochist, in the sense of being aroused by or finding enjoyment in the receiving of pain. I really dislike it. But I love pushing myself to deliver pleasure\/satisfaction to my Dominant, and so I will meet them where their desires\/needs are, and do my best to perform in a way that meets with their approval \u2013 whether that means taking a cane until I\u2019m covered with bloody welts, or taking a series of cocks in my holes and milking them with gusto <\/strong>\ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Interesting. I had a discussion once, the central question of which was this. Can a Sadist<\/em> really be compatible with a masochist<\/em>? The problem we were wrestling with \u2013 intellectually speaking \u2013 was that, if \u201cmasochist\u201d is defined as \u201ca person who derives pleasure (sexual or not) from experiencing pain,\u201d then a Sadist who delivers the pain will \u2013 underneath it all \u2013 really be pleasuring<\/em> the masochist!<\/p>\n

But, of course, if a \u201cSadist\u201d is \u201cone who experiences pleasure (again, whether sexual or not) by administering pain,\u201d then a Sadist shouldn\u2019t be too pleased if his or her actions were actually being received pleasurably!<\/p>\n

Anyway\u2026<\/p>\n

There are, of course, more than a few names for this fetish. \u201cCoerced bi,\u201d \u201ccoerced gay,\u201d \u201cenforced bi,\u201d \u201cforced bi,\u201d \u201cgay encouragement,\u201d \u201cmake me bi,\u201d etc., etc. Which, if any, do you prefer \u2013 and why?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve always called this play \u2018forced-bi.\u2019 I think the whole debate over coerced\/encouraged nomenclature is an overreaction.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut I do understand the concerns that some \u2013 both inside and outside the community \u2013 have. It needs to be made even more clear that consent and agency remain a lynchpin of the scene.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

So\u2026 \u201cforced\u201d-asterisk<\/em>?<\/p>\n

\u201cHaving heard you mention \u2018coerced gay,\u2019 I now think I\u2019m going to call it \u2018coerced het\u2019 or \u2018coerced straight,\u2019 for me!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Fair enough!<\/p>\n

Is Forced Bi mostly geared towards, well\u2026 non-female submissives?<\/p>\n

\u201cI think forced-bi play is mostly understood within the context of male submission. This is enhanced, I think, from the paradoxical combination of social pressures on women to deny their own sexuality, while also being (generally) more fluid in their sexuality than men.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI have been a participant in a few scenes over the years where a bi-curious or strictly-hetero-female submissive was \u2018forced\u2019 to play with another woman.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cRare in my personal experience. Definitely hot.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mmm\u2026 I can imagine!<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve hinted at some legal \/ ethical topics. \u201cForced\u201d obviously doesn\u2019t mean literally compelled by threat<\/em>. But, well\u2026 what does<\/em> it mean?<\/p>\n

\u201cI suppose I think of \u2018forced\u2019 play as being more captive to a \u2018straight\u2019 streak in kink culture, than any particular gender orientation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cGiven the omnipresence of heteronormativity, I don\u2019t know too many queers who are interested in \u2018forced-bi\u2019 \u2013 as they \/ we are basically \u2018forced bi\u2019 by heterosexual expectations in society from day one.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cNot being particularly attracted to men, any approaches that a Dominant uses to \u2018force\u2019 me can be enticing: coercion, seduction, commands.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThat said, my personal preference is for a kind of (consented-to) physical \u2018forcing\u2019 \u2013 being reworked into an actual object, via severe bondage, mouth-opening gags, etc.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cPhysical helplessness \u2013 a literal inability to resist (in the context of total agency and agreement between all parties) \u2013 is the<\/em> kick for me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, is it?<\/p>\n

\u201cEven though I am active in my agreement, I can float into a headspace of true powerlessness. And that is so<\/em> hot to me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThat kind of restriction in play is definitely not<\/em> for everyone! And I don\u2019t recommend it for anyone just getting into kink, BDSM, or D\/s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy Owner and I have a blanket-consent relationship, worked out over years together. So, there\u2019s a level of mutual trust and knowledge that can\u2019t be replicated quickly.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a good point.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd, even there, she often checks in with me before, during, and after scenes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m fortunate to also have similar lengths of trust and play with other partners.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

So, is that a hard limit of yours?<\/p>\n

\u201cWould I ever engage in that kind of \u2018force\u2019 play with someone new, off the bat? Absolutely not.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

What do you think leads people to do it? What is actually \u201cgoing on\u201d with Forced Bi?<\/p>\n

\u201cI think social strictures are so oppressive that, yes, many participants in forced-bi play are seeking a structure of permission to more fully be themselves, whether that\u2019s gay or bi or something else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut I don\u2019t think it has<\/em> to be that. Some people are just comfortable, curious, and \/ or kinky!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Is it possible for someone to be a true \u201cswitch\u201d? To be \u201cversatile\u201d? I mean\u2026 deep down, so to speak \u2013 not just ordered to be.<\/p>\n

\u201cAbsolutely! Just not me!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Right on\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2026bottom only, thank you!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

And, what\u2019s your focus? The exhibition?<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, there are three big incentives in forced-bi play.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe first, as I\u2019ve mentioned, is pleasing my Dominant with my obedience and submission.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe second is pleasing my partner. No matter what I\u2019m doing or with whom, I want my partner to be left so satisfied that they\u2019ll be jacking \/ jilling off to thoughts of it days later!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut the last thing is more for me: I\u2019m a huge exhibitionist and love<\/em> being at the center of a \u2018public\u2019 sexual performance, whether it\u2019s a party of one (i.e., my Dominant) or an actual<\/em> party!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mmm\u2026 Nice!<\/p>\n

How does participation in bisexual situations \u2013 or Forced Bi, itself \u2013 affect a person\u2019s desirability? Does it? \u2026in your estimation, of course.<\/p>\n

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\u201cLike everything else under the sun, I think the \u2018attraction\u2019 of being (or not<\/em> being) bisexual is totally dependent on the individual.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cSome people wouldn\u2019t dream of being with a bisexual partner; others wouldn\u2019t dream of not<\/em> being with a bi-sexual partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, as long as my partner is Dominant and willing to cuck the fuck out of me, I\u2019m good!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! I award \u201ccuck the fuck out of me\u201d quote-of-the-day status!<\/p>\n

Is the fetish \u201chealthy\u201d or\u2026 not? I mean\u2026 from a psychological point of view.<\/p>\n

\u201cAgain, this is coming from my point of view as a predominantly lifestyle sub, but \u2026I think so long as consent is involved, it\u2019s healthy.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Roger that.<\/p>\n

\u201cWould it be healthier<\/em> if society were more accepting and tolerant, so that people needn\u2019t create a construct of \u2018force\u2019 in order to explore themselves or their desires? Undoubtedly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut that\u2019s not where we are. And if I\u2019m given a choice between people having to excuse or justify their exploration of self, versus their not doing it at all and just self-repressing, I think there\u2019s no question that self-denial is the unhealthier of the two.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Is there any spiritual element to this?<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t know that I view \u2018forced bi\u2019 itself as a spiritual exercise \u2013 at least not for me. But, I do personally feel a deep spiritual aspect to my D\/s dynamics and how we feed \/ service each other\u2019s souls \/ needs within them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAnd, as I said, forced bi is definitely a way in which I can demonstrate my fealty to that connection and relationship.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called \u201cbinary language\u201d \u2013 e.g., thinking in terms of \u201cfeminine\u201d versus \u201cmasculine,\u201d etc. \u2013 when it comes to John Money\u2019s concept of \u201cgender\u201d and sexuality. But Forced Bi, arguably, has a kind of \u201cbi-narism\u201d built into its name.<\/p>\n

\u201cI suppose it can be a problem to some, but it\u2019s really one of nomenclature and terminology rather than anything with the exploratory nature of the kink, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cUltimately, we all self-identify with concepts and terms that we believe represent us. To try to do that from outside for someone else is a fool\u2019s errand.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

How so?<\/p>\n

\u201cIf someone subscribes to binarism as a concept, then that is the construct being challenged in forced \u2018bi.\u2019 It doesn\u2019t matter if someone outside of them does or doesn\u2019t believe in a binary as such.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBut the truth is, what they are challenging is their own conceptions of \u2018self\u2019 and \u2018desire\u2019 \u2013 regardless of whether it\u2019s called a \u2018binary,\u2019 a \u2018spectrum,\u2019 or \u2026something else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe key is the search, the challenge to self.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

All right\u2026 here\u2019s a fun one! What Forced-Bi activities do you enjoy most?<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, confession time: I am a big, filthy slut.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Oh! Here we go\u2026!<\/p>\n

\u201cA proud, downright heaux<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAs I said, my general preference is to be bound and for people to have their way with my holes in a manner such as I can\u2019t stop it or get away if I wanted to. But if I\u2019m not in \u2018object\u2019 mode, if I\u2019m in service-slut mode? Game on!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI love sucking cock and lapping \/ suckling balls \u2013 feeling the warmth of a scrotum covering my face, or the soft-yet-hard flesh of an organic penis thrusting into my throat.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cFuck my face, pinch my nose, slap me, gag me!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf I\u2019m not a drooling, eye-watering mess by the end of it, I\u2019m gonna feel let down.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Holy fuck\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m very good at deep-throating. And there are few things better to me than digging my fingers into a guy\u2019s ass-cheeks and spreading them, as I take his dick down my gullet just in time to feel it surge and spasm, shooting his load directly into my stomach.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mmm\u2026 The audience is getting a true, um\u2026 taste of what it\u2019s like!<\/p>\n

\u201cWhile I try not to \u2018top\u2019 \u2013 ever \u2013 the one time<\/em> I\u2019ll do it eagerly is in a sub-69.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, wow! Tell me about that!<\/p>\n

\u201cI love the competing sensations of another sub sucking me while they are plunging their cock into my mouth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m an \u2018ass person\u2019 in every way, shape and form. I\u2019ll spend all evening sniffing an ass before gobbling it up like it was dick or pussy. Pin my knees by my ears and plunge into my hole; ass-to-mouth is literally my favorite thing ever<\/em> \u2013 anyone\u2019s<\/em> ass to my mouth. Everyones\u2019s<\/em>!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Oh, my!!<\/p>\n

\u201cBecause of my various partners, I do maintain safe sex practices but would love<\/em> to have a really<\/em> wet bareback party \u2013 like one of those Czech or Japanese places where my head \/ body is in a box and my ass is just a restrained cumdump for a line around the block.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cSince I\u2019ll (probably) never do that, I am prioritizing a post-Covid bukkake scene.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf anyone in the U.S. wants to start an American version of \u2018Milky Cat,\u2019 and is open to either a trans-femme or male-presenting sub, hit me up<\/em>!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Readers: Are you paying attention?!?<\/p>\n

\u201cFuck; I need a cold shower now!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! I know the feeling! Maybe I need to update facilities with that feature!<\/p>\n

Let me cool off a moment and ask\u2026 do you think the Forced-Bi fetish is gaining in popularity?<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s hard to know if it\u2019s getting more popular or just becoming more acknowledged \/ tolerated. The ubiquity of the internet does grow things. But, it also can disproportionately amplify perceptions. (?)<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy guess is it is doing both<\/em> \u2013 becoming more visible and<\/em> more popular, or at least there\u2019s growing curiosity.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mmm\u2026 Something else<\/em> is \u201cgrowing,\u201d too!<\/p>\n

But, seriously\u2026 what about the so-called \u201cmainstream media\u201d? Do you perceive any promotion from that quadrant?<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t think forced-bi, per se<\/em>, is being \u2018promoted\u2019 in the media.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI think the notion of default gender and sexual expectations are being challenged more, both socially and in the media. And that creates more visibility to things like D\/s, BDSM, and bisexuality \u2013 forced<\/em> or otherwise.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Right on.<\/p>\n

So\u2026 you\u2019re strictly a bottom? As in\u2026 could \/ would you even perform as a top if a Dominant \u201crequired\u201d it of you in your capacity as a do-whatever sub?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn almost any scene, save the dual-sub 69, I\u2019m a pure bottom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI can\u2019t even service top!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Fair enough.<\/p>\n

Does the scene itself arouse you? Or is it your submissiveness?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m aroused by everything<\/em>, so forced-bi is no exception.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Haha! Okay, then!<\/p>\n

\u201cTo me, the big thrill isn\u2019t the actions<\/em>; it\u2019s the combination of serving my Dominant, pleasing my partner, and the affirmation I receive from my D\/s partner\/s for doing something for them I didn\u2019t really enjoy<\/em>, but still did well<\/em>, in service of my commitment to my submission to our dynamic.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I gotcha.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s one from a newbie\u2019s perspective. Can a guy \u201cjust try\u201d getting assfucked and then quit?<\/p>\n

\u201cSure.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Simple as that?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe only thing that changes, definitively, is the unisexual nature of the person. <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cEven if a person only has one<\/em> same-sex engagement, it\u2019s still a bell that can\u2019t be un-rung.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Point taken!<\/p>\n

\u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean anything profound. But, I do<\/em> think that\u2019s the aspect of bi-play that fucks with people\u2019s heads and causes some people angst before, during and after.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt shouldn\u2019t.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

So\u2026 the underlying<\/em> \u2013 or, overarching<\/em> \u2013 theme is the\u2026 how do you keep putting it? The dynamic<\/em>?<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, it\u2019s about the power<\/em> \u2013 the surrendering of it to my Dominant and my scene partner \u2026just becoming a willing (or \u2018unwilling\u2019) vessel for delivering their pleasure \/ satisfaction.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Any particular acts that really charge your batteries, as it were?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m fortunate to have an Owner who is tickled by my unbridled sluttiness and enjoys seeing me used. And used. And used \u2026and used \u2026and used.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! Alrighty, then!!!<\/p>\n

\u201cShe uses \u2018slut\u2019 for me as a term of great endearment and pride in me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk about limits for a moment.<\/p>\n

Firstly\u2026 do you have any? Lol!<\/p>\n

\u201cMost of my limits revolve around consent, i.e., making sure no one involved in a scene has not given \u2013 or can\u2019t<\/em> give \u2013 total<\/em>, enthusiastic consent to everything<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I understand.<\/p>\n

\u201cGiven that, I don\u2019t like playing with people who are drunk, or \u2026such.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Anything else?<\/p>\n

\u201cAlso: tickling.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! Really?<\/p>\n

\u201cI can \u2013 and will<\/em> \u2013 do just about anything<\/em>. But tickling is a trigger, and a hard, hard<\/em> limit.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s interesting! I mean, I wouldn\u2019t have thought to ask about it. But, now that you mention it, I can relate!<\/p>\n

What about no-condom scenes? \u201cBarebacking\u201d?<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ll never have bareback, anonymous<\/em> sex. But, if a trusted partner has a bull or slave and we all do fresh testing, then \u2026yes<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThere are few things hotter- \/ dirtier-feeling than being used as a hole and feeling that cum running down your leg after! Mmmmm.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Mmm\u2026 Yes!<\/p>\n

So\u2026 hard \u201cno\u201d to STD-risk-type scenarios?<\/p>\n

\u201cJust like I wouldn\u2019t let someone that I play with lop off one of my limbs, I\u2019m not about to let them risk my life \/ health \u2013 or my partners\u2019 lives \/ health \u2013 by rolling the dice on STDs.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Totally.<\/p>\n

What about married men? Limit?<\/p>\n

\u201cI try not to judge people. Being yourself is hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI do<\/em> feel for both partners if the husband is having needs that they need to keep from their partner. But, it\u2019s not really any of my business.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIn a scene, I\u2019m usually just the hole they\u2019re sticking their meat in.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

And what about amyl-nitrate inhalers? \u201cPoppers\u201d?<\/p>\n

\u201cPoppers are not my thing.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Fair enough.<\/p>\n

\u201cI take size the old fashioned way \u2013 I earn it! <\/strong>\ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Bwahaha!!!<\/p>\n

Nice!!!<\/p>\n

How do you feel about people getting \u201caddicted\u201d to the scene? Or to gay sex? Is that a \u201cthing\u201d?<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t think people get addicted to \u2018gay sex.\u2019 I think they can get addicted to sex<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf the sex they are getting addicted to is gay<\/em>, then \u2013 to your earlier question \u2013 they are either gay or bi and this wasn\u2019t merely a curiosity or just a kink, or\u2026 \u00a0whatever.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Thanks for that. Just a few more\u2026<\/p>\n

Any Forced-Bi experience that really stands out to you?<\/p>\n

\u201cNot a session<\/em>, exactly, but a cuckold relationship in my mid-twenties was the first time I experienced a \u2018clean up.\u2019 It was a \u2018first\u2019 for us both.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWhen she asked for it, we were both nervous that I couldn\u2019t do it or that one of us would hate it. We both agreed it was the hottest<\/em> thing ever, and it quickly snowballed \u2013 ha<\/em>! Freudian slip! \u2013 into a constant element of our dynamic.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt remains one of my favorite things \u2013 in my favorite kind of dynamic: challenging, mentally and emotionally \u2026and so<\/em> intimate.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Before you go, what are some of the other kinks that are, well\u2026 up your alley, so to say?!<\/p>\n

\u201cWhile my submissive repertoire is wide and varied, with a lot of edge-play, my favorite activities are focused around emotional sadism \/ masochism. These include cuckolding, degradation, fluid play, objectification, orgasm denial, etc.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cPain-play-wise, I\u2019ll take whatever a partner prefers. But, the only thing I actually like to hurt from is electricity.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Right on!<\/p>\n

Thank you so much for all the answers!<\/p>\n

Any social-media \u2013 or other \u2013 links for interested readers to follow up with?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m long (pre-big-internet!) retired, but\u2026 I\u2019m on Twitter at @DammitToby<\/a> if anyone wants to come by and say, \u2018hi\u2019!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Well\u2026 that\u2019s important if we\u2019re going to arrange that bukkake-gangbang extravaganza, n\u2019est-ce pas<\/em>?!<\/p>\n

Slut Riley, you\u2019ve been a blast!<\/p>\n

Thanks so much for stopping, um\u2026 bi<\/em> \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

(Stock images are licensed to Riley West from Shutterstock. They are reproduced by Forced-Bi.com, or its affiliates and associates, in good faith and with Riley West\u2019s permission, under an implicit, limited sublicense.)<\/p>\n

Notes:<\/h3>\n

[1]<\/a> \u201cf.k.a.\u201d = \u201cformerly known as\u201d<\/p>\n

[2]<\/a> \u201cD\/s\u201d = \u201cDomination \/ submission\u201d<\/p>\n

[3]<\/a> \u201cIRL\u201d \u2013 \u201cin real life\u201d<\/p>\n

[4]<\/a> \u201cLTR\u201d = \u201clong-term relationship\u201d<\/p>\n

[5]<\/a> Slut Riley adds this note: \u201cStipulating that sexuality and gender are increasingly understood not as a scale nestled between two binary points, but a sphere\/grid with X\/Y\/Z axis. No offense meant to anyone who bristles at the oversimplifications I\u2019m employing for the purposes of this discussion.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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