Mistress Marlena! Lovely to have you here, today!<\/p>\n
How did you get into fetishes in general and Forced Bi in particular?<\/p>\n
\u201cThe fantasy-and-fetish world found me in the last ten months since the pandemic started.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! That\u2019s awesome! I mean\u2026 that there has been a bit of a silver lining for you in that regard.<\/p>\n \u201cI started doing <\/strong>online sessions after mostly seeing students in-person at\u00a0my Portland studio.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cIn person, I enjoy foot\/stocking fetish, tease and denial, sensation play \u2013 combined\u00a0with\u00a0impact play \u2013 and bondage. And, I mentor couples who want to learn kink and erotic touch.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cMy goal in a\u00a0session is to get students out of their heads \u2013 to help them feel more \u2018embodied\u2019 and to let go of control and get into sub space.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Right on.<\/p>\n \u201cI practice R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink.)<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n The improved and updated version of \u201csafe, sane, and consensual,\u201d as I understand it.<\/p>\n \u201cWe have a safety-and-boundary discussion beforehand. But, once they are bound and blindfolded, I discourage talking.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI do strap-on and toy penetration \u2013 if that\u2019s something they want to explore. But, they need to do a thorough clean-out before the session starts.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! I shudder to imagine the experience that necessitated stating that as a rule.<\/p>\n \u201cMore than half the students have never experienced anal play or prostate massage. Sometimes it\u2019s a \u2018meh\u2019 for them. But, often they\u2019ve just had the most mind-blowing orgasm of their lives.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Mmm\u2026 That sounds intriguing!<\/p>\n \u201cI love when I feel like I\u2019m the world\u2019s most powerful magician!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n I\u2019ll bet!<\/p>\n \u201cOnline sessions are the opposite. Since I can\u2019t touch, my voice, <\/strong>commands, and a good story have to bring them into their fantasy.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m not a fan of the term \u2018Forced\u2019\u2026<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s understandable.<\/p>\n \u201c\u2026but I do enjoy \u2018consensual\u00a0non-consent\u2019 role play<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cIt might be a rape fantasy, where I \u2018force\u2019 them to perform \u2013 training them to deep throat men or take my cock.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cDoll them up them up as sexy women, in makeup and feminine clothes, and \u2018pimp them out\u2019 as my whores, to perform sexual favors for my friends at a party.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Mmm\u2026 Is it getting warm in here?<\/p>\n \u201cMost of my clients are straight, cis<\/em>-gendered men. So, I think the idea of them being attracted to men and\/or not striving to be \u2018manly\u2019 and dominant\u00a0is humiliating or emasculating to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cBut, inside this humiliation fantasy, they get to give up control.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cOn a subconscious level, they may desire to be \u2018girly\u2019 or to be with other men. But, it\u2019s easier if they are \u2018forced\u2019 to do it, so they don\u2019t have to take responsibility\u00a0for their actions.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n The guilt-avoidance game!<\/p>\n \u201c\u2018But, Mistress, please don\u2019t make<\/em> me suck this guy\u2019s huge cock!,\u2019 they say \u2013 as they jerk themselves off faster.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Mmm\u2026Haha!<\/p>\n \u201cMany clients have attraction to men, but feel a lot of shame about it. So, the idea of being \u2018forced\u2019 means that they don\u2019t have to take responsibility and own those feelings. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI had one phone client who would spend the first thirty minutes telling me about his stressful job and problems in his relationship with his girlfriend. Then he would insist how he wasn\u2019t attracted to men at all and how he\u00a0found gay men disgusting. He would describe a<\/strong> particular large Black man he saw at his gym, and it was my cue to act out the other man at the gym \u2013 who would lure him into the men\u2019s bathroom and force himself on him.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Oh, man! That\u2019s quite a specific sort of scenario!<\/p>\n \u201cHis disgust was really what he desired, but he couldn\u2019t bring himself to say that he wanted this or that he might be bisexual or gay.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cSo, this is how he could have his fantasy without guilt.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s an interested, um\u2026 tale. But it leads me to ask: in Forced Bi, what d you understand \u2018force\u2019 to be, specifically?<\/p>\n Is it merely a ruse or make-believe device?<\/p>\n \u201cThe \u2018force\u2019 is part of the fantasy. No one can make<\/em> you do anything that you don\u2019t already want to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cA hypnotist will tell you they aren\u2019t making<\/em> you do anything you\u00a0didn\u2019t want already \u2013 on some subconscious level, at any rate.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThat\u2019s why they appear<\/em> to have control. But, in reality, the person being hypnotized is letting them drive<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n I have heard that.<\/p>\n \u201cMy work as a pro-Domme is to provide a non-judgmental space to live out what\u2019s already inside of my submissive\u2019s head. So, I would say: May the \u2018<\/strong>force\u2019 be with you<\/u><\/em><\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Haha! Well played, Mistress Marlena!<\/p>\n Now, in your opinion, do pegging or strap-on sessions lead a guy into Forced Bi?<\/p>\n \u201cDoes watching football lead a guy into being straight?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Haha!<\/p>\n \u201cWait \u2014 all those big, muscled men running around in padded ass tights \u2026Maybe <\/em>football makes men gay?<\/em><\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Lol! Would you believe that I have playfully suggested something similar with respect to comics, superheroes, and several other things besides? Toy advertisements from the 1980s, including the animated television \u201cprogram\u201d He-Man<\/em>. Haha! But, I\u2019m sensing you\u2019re being cheeky\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cThe myth that liking anal penetration will \u2018make\u2019 a man gay is why so many straight cis<\/em>-gendered men are afraid of just touch around the outer anus or having a \u2018rosebud\u2019 massage.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThey\u2019ve been told the ass is dirty and \u2018gay\u2019 \u2013 that is, submissive<\/em> and emasculating<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cBut then it becomes a curiosity. So, they may try a finger, then a toy \u2013 and decide they really like it. They may even learn to ejaculate from having their prostate massaged or stimulated while being pegged.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cFor men who\u2019ve never been pegged or had anal sex, they get to experience what it\u2019s like to have a pussy \u2014 to be vulnerable, open and sensitive as hell.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThey get to feel what it\u2019s like to be \u2018taken\u2019 by another, and to let their partner lead. They learn how to relax their muscles to enjoy new sensations and feel pleasure.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI think every man should experience anal sex \u2013 bottoming and\/or being pegged \u2013so they can empathize more with their partner (whose pussy and\/or ass they pound, but have no idea what penetration must feel like to their partner.)<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What an intriguing notion!<\/p>\n So\u2026 are Forced-Bi subs always\/usually males?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019ve had only one cis<\/em>-gendered, female submissive. She came to me because she has no interest in real cocks or men, and told me she never would. If she had a fantasy that I would \u2018cure\u2019 her gayness, by \u2018making\u2019 her have sex with a man, (\u2018forced straight\u2019), then I would tell her to seek out a good sex-positive therapist.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI suppose a straight, cis<\/em>-gendered women could have the fantasy of being \u2018forced\u2019 to be sexual with a woman. But, I think women are more gender fluid, and have less shame about being sexual with the same or opposite gender.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Interesting.<\/p>\n In the male-on-male situations you oversee, then, do you prefer \u201cbottoms\u201d or \u201ctops\u201d?<\/p>\n \u201cI am a pro-Domme. So, my clients will always be submissive, receptive and respectful when they are in a session.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! Right on!<\/p>\n \u201cThey can be a top or a Dom outside<\/em> of our sessions; it\u2019s none of my business.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What\u2019s your opinion of married men coming to you?<\/p>\n \u201cI think it\u2019s easier to work with married or partnered clients for boundary reasons.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What do you mean?<\/p>\n \u201cThey aren\u2019t there to find a girlfriend \u2013 and I\u2019m not looking to run away with someone\u2019s husband.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Oh, I gotcha!<\/p>\n \u201cIf they are bi-curious, then I offer coaching on how to have difficult conversations regarding sexuality, open relationships, kinks and desires with their partner.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Very much like sex \u201ctherapy,\u201d of sorts.<\/p>\n \u201cI have seen more married couples together for kink mentoring. A few times, the wife has mentioned she is bisexual. But, there\u2019s no \u2018forced-bi\u2019 fetish.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Boo! Lol. Kidding!!!<\/p>\n But\u2026 before you go, please tell the audience: How can fans and other interested persons check out your work?<\/p>\n \u201cFollow me on\u00a0 twitter.com\/TheSensualDom<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWebsite: TheSensualDominatrix.com<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cBlog: thesensualdominatrix.com\/erotic-educator-kink-coach<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cFetlife: PDX_Mistress<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cInstagram: @TheSensualDominatrix<\/a><\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Thank you so much, Mistress Marlena!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What do you get when you mix sensuality in with your Forced Bi? You get the sort of experience that is the hallmark of our next guest! Hello! Welcome! How do you prefer to be addressed? \u201cI am \u2018Mistress Marlena,\u2019 the Portland Sensual Dominatrix.\u201d Mistress Marlena! Lovely to have you here, today! 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