[3]<\/a> discovered, it is a scale. Some people are more or less attracted but as his research was pre-acceptance of Trans* people, back then it only looked at female versus male very literally.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cToday, that scale unofficially includes people\u2019s preferences towards Trans* individuals also. <\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cThose who don\u2019t know the full history of the bisexual movement have continued to erase acknowledgement of it by creating a separate identity they feel is more politically correct and inclusive.\u00a0 If you expand the scope of the original Kinsey scale, it still covers everyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cLook at it as the channel between the U.K. and France. The original scale sees only two beaches: the metaphorically \u2018Straight\u2019s-ville,\u2019 and its opposite, Gay\/Lesbian\/Homo Town<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nQuite a cartograph.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen, in reality, Straightsville has more than one beach \u2013 as does Homo Town. And the Bisexual Sea also has a party cruise of everything goes! Depending on your preferences, you can choose to board the boat or not. But in the visual metaphor\/definition, the sea is bisexuality. If you dip your toe in the water or go for a swim, you\u2019re wet.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nIt makes the head spin.<\/p>\n
\u201cBoarding the boat, you\u2019ll find the Trans* people who don\u2019t want to fully transition or are still finding their place within the beaches. The beaches are more than one, at both sides of the sea: those born with their gender, and those who have had surgery, but they are the gender they present as<\/em>\u2026 Just as not everyone is attracted to only red heads or only tall people, the same can be said, here \u2013 born with your gender or had gender surgically corrected, it is a question of preference and choice.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nI follow you in broad outline. You think the sexual landscape is more complicated than what Kinsey envisioned.<\/p>\n
\u201cTo sum bisexuality up in a simple phase: It\u2019s about \u2018hearts not parts\u2019!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nSo, where does the Forced-Bi fetish fit on that map you just sketched?<\/p>\n
\u201cIt is an individual fetish in its own right.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cIt\u2019s enjoyed by male and female \u2018underlings,\u2019 usually having an interest or sexual desire to explore but requiring the leading and forceful hand of a dominant to \u2018make\u2019 them do it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nAnd that\u2019s where you come in?<\/p>\n
\u201cEither to encourage them to take the first step, or to give them pleasure by being watched; while, for others, it stems from the desire for humiliation \u2013 sexual control is the ultimate humiliation.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nI can imagine!<\/p>\n
Let me back up a moment. How do you refer to the fetish? \u201cCoerced bi,\u201d \u201cEncouraged gay,\u201d \u201cForced Bi,\u201d etc.?<\/p>\n
\u201cForced Bisexuality<\/em> (\u2018Forced Bi\u2019) is the correct term. The others have come about due to search-engine bans and clip-store rules passed, along with various governments\u2019 \u2013 and the worlds\u2019 banks \u2013 views on BDSM porn on the internet.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nI understand. Euphemisms circumvent the censors?<\/p>\n
\u201cMeaning \u2026alternate descriptors were required; though, it is all the same thing.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nIn practice, \u201cforced bi\u201d seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to others as well. You\u2019ve already hinted at this. But, I wanted to ask you to hit the nail more firmly on the head.<\/p>\n
Do you see Forced Bi primarily in terms of male submission?<\/p>\n
\u201cIt applies to all genders. But, in BDSM porn, it is most commonly seen as being men, though not limited to that.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nThanks for that clarification.<\/p>\n
Now here\u2019s something a little touchier.<\/p>\n
What does it mean to be \u201cforced\u201d?<\/p>\n
Are you thinking of it as \u201ccoercion,\u201d \u201ccommandment,\u201d \u201cencouragement,\u201d \u201centicement,\u201d \u201cinducement,\u201d \u201cinstruction,\u201d \u201cinstruction,\u201d \u201cpermission,\u201d \u201cseduction,\u201d or something else?<\/p>\n
\u201cDepending on the individual, it is all of the above.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nA lot of layers to the onion.<\/p>\n
So\u2026 what\u2019s actually going on with \u201cforced bi\u201d? Does it change a guy\u2019s sexual orientation?<\/p>\n
\u201cFundamentally, the sexuality is already in<\/em> the person \u2013 female or male. We just open the gates to how they will enjoy it as part of their fetish \/ desire.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nIs it possible for a guy to be a \u201cswitch\u201d or \u201cversatile\u201d? (That is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.)<\/p>\n
\u201cAny underling \u2013 regardless of gender \u2013 can identify as a switch, which is being <\/em>both dominant and submissive instead of <\/em>either\/or.\u00a0 A \u2018switch\u2019 is someone who enjoys submitting for some things and dominating for others.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nSome women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be exhibitionists. Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.<\/p>\n
Do any of these resonate with you?<\/p>\n
\u201cWatching two guys or two girls together is hot as fuck.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cIf everyone is enjoying themselves, it is even more fun sexually for everyone involved.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cIf it is humiliating, then it feeds my sadistic mind, giving me the power exchange craved by us both.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nHa! So, either way it\u2019s win-win for you!<\/p>\n
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he\u2019s less desirable to women.<\/p>\n
What do you think?<\/p>\n
\u201cSadly, many women can\u2019t see past the revulsion they seem to feel once they know a guy has been with another guy, sexually.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cThis means that most guys, out of undue shame, hide it \u2013 and most women will never know anything about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cPersonally, it makes no difference to me, so long as the sex is safe<\/em> \u2013 everyone is regularly tested and appropriately vaccinated.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cSome guys and girls have a preference to be more submissive or dominant and some like to switch; so long as all are happy, it matters not.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nYou touched on some things that I\u2019d like you to expand upon, if you would.<\/p>\n
Firstly, is the forced-bi fetish \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d?<\/p>\n
And, by the way, I\u2019m thinking about whether or not it\u2019s helpful from the standpoint of psychological flourishing.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019d say it should be neutral.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBut, if people don\u2019t practice safe sex, then \u2013 of course \u2013 that is when it becomes unhealthy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cThere are some whose limits include them never wanting to know if it\u2019s actually safe. But, part of the illusion is to conduct the checks and vetting for them<\/em>. That is one of the many jobs of being dominant.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nBut you think it can<\/em> be healthy?<\/p>\n\u201cIt is a combination of productive exploration and self-discovery.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cThe end of the road could confirm that it was only a fantasy; that \u2013 yes \u2013 they are indeed bisexual; that they only enjoy it in my presence; that they might really be gay; or that they might actually be Trans*.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cFor some, it is harmless fun and experimentation; for others they are following orders.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cEither way, it should be safe, sane, and consensual.<\/strong><\/p>\nAt the same time, it could<\/em> be<\/em> unhealthy, on your view?<\/p>\n\u201cOur sexual natures are corrupted anytime we learn about or try anything new.\u00a0 On the side of the dehumanising\/defiling\/degrading\/emasculating there has to be at least an implicit consent, otherwise they would stop the proceedings.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nDo you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t care about that. It\u2019s<\/strong> of no interest to me, whatsoever.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nFair enough.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve demonstrated that you have an appreciation for language. Here\u2019s another word-related question.<\/p>\n
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called \u201cbinary language\u201d \u2013 e.g., thinking in terms of \u201cfeminine\u201d versus \u201cmasculine,\u201d etc. \u2013 when it comes to John Money\u2019s concept of \u201cgender\u201d and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of \u201cbi-narism\u201d built into its name.<\/p>\n
Do you see this as a problem for the \u201cforced-bi\u201d fetish?<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, not at all. As I mentioned earlier, \u2018bi\u2019 doesn\u2019t mean two<\/em> it means more than one<\/em>, by dictionary definitions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cWhy fix something that isn\u2019t broken?<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cInstead, educate yourselves with the full history and it becomes a non-issue.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nOkay! Let me depart from linguistics for a minute\u2026<\/p>\n
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?<\/p>\n
\u201cCock sucking and oral sex, anal sex, kissing, cum eating and swallowing.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nHot!<\/p>\n
Anything to add?<\/p>\n
\u201cFrottaging.<\/strong>\u201d[4]<\/a><\/p>\nGuys rubbing against each other? Right on.<\/p>\n
Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?<\/p>\n
\u201cAll fetishes go through phases of popularity, especially as popular culture gets a hold of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cThe last few years it has been mainly focused on strap on and forced bi.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nDo you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called \u201cmainstream media\u201d?<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know for certain. But it is certainly being promoted within the fetish industry, largely by the insta-domme types.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nBack to you, again. Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?<\/p>\nForced-Bi With Mistress Lagertha<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\u201cI prefer pliable because possibilities are less limited.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nHa! I know what you mean!<\/p>\n
Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m both aroused and amused, depending on the circumstances.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nWho\u2019s involved, etc.?<\/p>\n
Do you think that a guy can \u201cjust try\u201d sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?<\/p>\n
\u201cThey don\u2019t know if they don\u2019t try. And I\u2019m a firm believer in trying something at least three times to be sure what you think of it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nOh, mercy!<\/p>\n
\u201cThe point of aftercare \u2013 as a part of responsible dominant control \u2013 is to see where a person\u2019s head is at in relation to the trip we take them on.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nLike a debriefing or an \u201cexit interview.\u201d I gotcha.<\/p>\n
What do you usually find yourself doing? Is it mostly fantasy chat? Or do you often find yourself encouraging real, in-the-flesh gay sex?<\/p>\n
\u201cAll and any! Depends on their limits \u2013 and if they want me to push them.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nAnd how about your involvement with respect to actual gay-sex encounters? Are you just standing back and issuing the order? Do you solicit pics or video? Or do you actually watch and direct in person?<\/p>\n
\u201cAll of the above!<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cAgain, it depends on circumstances.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nFair enough.<\/p>\n
What is your biggest focus\/turn on? The power aspect? The gay sex?<\/p>\n
\u201cSeriously \u2026if your mind is open sexually, what is not to like?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nHa! I think a lot of viewers will agree with you, there!<\/p>\n
Any particular sexual acts that really get you going?<\/p>\n
\u201cI love it all.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nNo kidding?<\/p>\n
\u201cNo preference, really. I just like pairing up males.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nLet\u2019s talk limits for a few minutes.<\/p>\n
I guess\u2026 do you have any?<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, of course. Any responsible, educated dominant has limits \u2013 even if it is only a few.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nMay I probe, there?<\/p>\n
How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., \u201cbarebacking\u201d)?<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m fine with guys barebacking, as long as it\u2019s safe.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nYou kind of mentioned that, before.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe guys need to trust each other or be able to produce clean bills of health. Otherwise, I totally oppose barebacking.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cAnd, I need to be clear: it\u2019s for the boys, only; they in no form get to be involved with me, sexually.<\/strong> \u201d<\/p>\nNot into any STD\/STI-related fetishes, I assume.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe sub must stay clean; they need to practice safe sex, be regularly tested and vaccinated for Heb B\/HPV, etc.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nWhat\u2019s your view on married men seeking you out?<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s on the individual. But, the sexual safety aspect is even more important in that case, being responsible as far as their other partner is concerned.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nRoger that.<\/p>\n
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (\u201cpoppers\u201d)?<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m non-fussed about their use in the general sense. The type used makes a massive difference.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nOh?<\/p>\n
\u201cThere are two types on the market \u2013 with amyl being the superior option.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cHowever never mix poppers with Viagra \u2013 and don\u2019t use them if you have blood-pressure problems, unless you want to run the risk of being in a coma!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nYikes!<\/p>\n
While on the subject of stern warnings\u2026 any last words from a psychological point of view?<\/p>\n
How about this? Is it possible for a guy to become \u201caddicted\u201d to Forced-Bi or gay sex?<\/p>\n
\u201cThe question is malformed; sexual addiction depends on individual motivations.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\nThanks so much.<\/p>\n
Just a few final questions.<\/p>\n
Do you have any other fetishes that you are interested in?<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is some of what I offer; but, there are many more:<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cAnal play (= training your ass, strap on\/pegging your ass)<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBall busting<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBody worship (= hands, feet, legs only<\/em>)<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBondage<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBoot, shoe & foot worship<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cBreast bondage<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cChastity control<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cCock and ball torture<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cCorporal punishment (heavy\/mild)<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cCorsets and stockings<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cDouble Domme<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cElectrics<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cFace slapping<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cFeminisation<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cGags and hoods<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cHumiliation<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cInterrogation<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cLeather and PVC<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cLeg worship<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cMaid\/valet \u2013 sissy and traditional service training<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cMummification<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cMedical play<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cNipple tease<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cPussy torture<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cRope<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cRoleplay fantasies<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cSissification\/sissies\/cross-dressing<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cSensory deprivation<\/strong><\/p>\n\u201cSensual tie and tease<\/strong><\/p>\n
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