{"id":731,"date":"2020-12-06T06:52:46","date_gmt":"2020-12-06T06:52:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/?p=731"},"modified":"2021-01-16T16:48:21","modified_gmt":"2021-01-16T16:48:21","slug":"miss-lee_forcedbi_interview","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/2020\/12\/06\/miss-lee_forcedbi_interview\/","title":{"rendered":"Miss Lee: Forced-Bi Interview w\/ Side-of-Light Fetish-Artist"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve been trying to make this work for a while, now! I\u2019m glad you\u2019re finally with us! So\u2026 hi<\/em>, and welcome<\/em>!<\/p>\n

Tell everyone: What\u2019s your name?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m Miss Lee and my loyal lifetime sub hub<\/em> (submissive husband), Rei, calls me \u2018dear Lee\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cA few of my kink friends call me \u2018Miss L\u2019, since I\u2019m like a missile \u2013 and once I\u2019m focused, I get what I want!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! That\u2019s too funny!<\/p>\n

\u201cBut even if I\u2019m a figurative<\/em> missile, I always keep my cool in heated situations. So, I\u2019d be more like a remote-detonated missile only exploding when I need to. And it has not come to that! (Thank goodness.)<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Well! Thank you for that!<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll try to watch what I say, in that case! Haha!<\/p>\n

But, I think we\u2019re going to have fun.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s start with this. What \u201ctitles\u201d do you prefer? I mean\u2026 apart from \u201cMiss.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u201cOf all the colorful titles that we dominant women use for our areas of \u2018exper-tease<\/em>,\u2019 Domme<\/em> best fits me, as I am the dominant one in charge of my relationships \u2013 whether they are my marriage, friendships, or business partnerships.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Right on.<\/p>\n

\u201cBefore I was married, I considered myself more of a Mistress<\/em>, since I would enjoy toying and taunting my guy friends as their unattainable, kinky dream girl. But they could never have me as their main squeeze.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cNowadays, as the very satisfied wife of my alpha sub hub, I find myself in the Mistress role once again, when it comes to our play partners and production-content clients who are looking for that fap-fantasy female to make their wet dreams cum true.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe best thing about being a Mistress is that I create memorable lasting \u2018sex<\/em>-periences\u2019 \u2013 without having actual sex with any of them.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

You weave quite a web with words!<\/p>\n

I think \u201cDomme\u201d and \u201cMistress\u201d certainly befit you.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t identify with the bratty, \u2018mean girl,\u2019 \u2018goddess,\u2019 \u2018princess,\u2019 or \u2018queen\u2019 personas, since I\u2019m quite down-to-earth. I find the elevation of one\u2019s status to a deity a bit too outlandish for me, even in roleplay.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Fair enough!<\/p>\n

\u201cAlthough, my sub hub acknowledges me as his<\/em> Goddess, and he is the only one that I consider worthy to worship me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Kind of a private thing; I get it.<\/p>\n

\u201cRegarding titles, I feel more at home with being the disciplinarian type of Domme who motivates people \u2013 specifically submissive boys and men \u2013 to have a purpose in their lives, namely, becoming better versions of themselves to serve me better. \u2026Trickling down, to improving their social worth in the world \u2013 whether that be the fetish<\/em> world or their vanilla<\/em> one.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe goal is to enjoy both worlds as part of their lives and explore their kinks in a healthier way than just fapping to a screen.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Am I wrong, then, in thinking that there\u2019s an element of, well\u2026 call it \u201ctherapy\u201d? \u2013 in a non-technical and legally above-board way, of course!<\/p>\n

\u201cAs a lifestyle Domme and a Mistress, I have a wide range of activities. These include a 24\/7 wife-Domme lifestyle; enjoying new role-play scenarios with my alpha sub hub; having fun, while exploring different fetishes; pursuing subtle social awareness for feminism; all while reaching new levels of physical and spiritual connectedness with my partner \u2013 through kink and vanilla interactions with each other \u2013 and also, through teaming up and sharing our adventures with select others.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

In other words\u2026 a complex blend!<\/p>\n

How do you think of the people who approach you? I mean\u2026 seek you out for this unique \u201csex-perience\u201d you provide?<\/p>\n

\u201cI have a few words to categorize the people \u2013 specifically males \u2013 who seek out my companionship and services.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThey fall into the following 4 categories: Beta Subs, Needy Gurls, Sissy Sluts, and Dickhead Doms.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! Dickhead Doms!<\/p>\n

\u201cThere are the rare few that immediately fall into the asshole<\/em> and douchebag<\/em> niche, but those exist when they let their little heads do the thinking and talking for them instead of their brains.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Do the people who seek out your services ever transcend those general categories?<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cI have a select few individuals who have started out with non-sexual, appreciative, intelligent conversation (and compliments) for the creative work that my sub hub and I have done through our online channels.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThese are now valuable kink friends to me and my sub hub. They did their due diligence of \u2018advanced, fappy homework\u2019 \u2013 which means that, even before messaging me, they had thoroughly browsed our <\/strong>FetLife.com<\/strong><\/a> account: ObeyLee,\u00a0 enjoyed the fun visuals of <\/strong>SideofLight.com<\/strong><\/a>, the adult online magazine that I co-own with my sub hub, and seen the teaser videos on our PornHub channel <\/strong>https:\/\/www.pornhub.com\/model\/obey-rei-and-lee<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

We\u2019ll do a complete rundown as a wrap up.<\/p>\n

\u201cOnce people finish a few rounds of tenderizing the hot dog \u2013 or circling the taco stand \u2013 they are able to approach me virtually \/ online with a clear head that isn\u2019t cockblocked by their initial, lustful emotions.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I can see that latter concern can be a real occupational hazard in your line of work!<\/p>\n

Can you explain a little more about each of your basic, well\u2026 how do you want to refer to them? Classifications<\/em>, I guess?<\/p>\n

\u201cOverall, these \u2018classifications\u2019 depend on what type of service or support the person in question is looking for.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf the person is seeking a strong, dominating, female figure whom they\u2019d like to serve, then they are Beta Subs<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf the person is more of an attention-whore crossdresser and feminization fan, then they are Needy Gurls<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf the person is a mix of the needy gurl with a cock-hungry streak and a constant desire for hole-filling, then we have ourselves a Sissy Slut<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIf the person happens to be a self-appointed, self-righteous male Dom with an \u2018ego-testicle\u2019<\/em> narcissism problem, then they are clearly a Dickhead Dom<\/em>. These are the double d\u2019s that no one wants to hold.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Ha! I knew we were in for a wild ride!<\/p>\n

\u201cIn a nutshell, and until proven otherwise, all men are considered Beta Subs<\/em>; since I consider my husband to be my ultimate Alpha Sub<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Okay; I gotcha! I was going to ask: Isn\u2019t \u201cbeta sub\u201d a bit redundant?<\/p>\n

Now I follow you.<\/p>\n

Let me take a step back for a moment and ask a foundational question.<\/p>\n

What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general \u2013 and forced bi in particular?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe world of domination and fetishes started in my teens \u2026when I was 15 years-old. A cute, gay, high-school friend of mine had lost a bet to me during Halloween and allowed me to collar and leash him as my \u2018pet\u2019 for the entire school day.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, my!<\/p>\n

\u201cEven when I was a tomboyish girl in my childhood years, I remember how fun it was to play Cops and Robbers<\/em> since it involved me putting silly, plastic handcuffs on the robbers \u2013 who were just so<\/em> happy to be \u2018captured\u2019 by me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Why am I not surprised?!? Lol!<\/p>\n

\u201cIn my late teens and early 20s, I started figuring out my sexual interests after I grew bored with \u2018vanilla\u2019 relationships. I had this one \u2013 very innocent \u2013 ex-boyfriend that was sexually adventurous. He allowed me to use handcuffs and collars on him. He often expressed his interest in getting \u2018forced\u2019 to suck another one of my guy friend\u2019s cock.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh? Well\u2026please, don\u2019t leave us in suspense!<\/p>\n

\u201cWe ended the relationship before that happened\u2026<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Darn. Lol<\/em>!!! I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve more than made up for it, since!<\/p>\n

\u201cThe fantasy never died for either of us, since my ex is now a bi-poly bottom, and I also recently made my sub hub blow a beta sub for me on our anniversary. Talk about a relationship milestone!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Right?!?<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cAfter a few \u2018friends-with-benefits\u2019 (FWBs) relationships with submissive college guy friends, I figured out that men were all just boys who needed discipline in their lives. And I was the one they were attracted to for providing that structure.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy involvement in the forced-bi fetish (FBF) came naturally as submissive males, more often than not, are intrigued with exploring their homosexual tendencies. And what better way to do it than with a sexy Domme like me ordering you to touch, kiss, and become intimate with another male?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat better way?\u201d Indeed!<\/p>\n

So\u2026 how long have you been offering this, um\u2026 way<\/em>?<\/p>\n

\u201cIf I were to guess the length of time that I\u2019ve been involved with online domination, I would have to say it\u2019s been about 19 years. \u2026Since I started doing jerk-off-instruction (JOI) and cum-eating instruction (CEI) when I was in my late teens over AOL[1]<\/a> Instant Messenger with my boyfriend back in the day.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI had no idea, at the time, that my activities were leading up to my involvement in female domination \u2013 or \u2018Femdom\u2019 \u2013 and forced-bi fetish.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Now, do you also have a \u201cdungeon,\u201d studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets? Or is this just an online thing, for you?<\/p>\n

\u201cI have a private<\/em> studio for real-time meets, and I\u2019m also friends with local dungeon owners who let me host subs in their kinky playground.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI carefully evaluate subs for different play scenarios, so each sub has a unique experience according to their kinks and fetishes.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Bespoke fetishism.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s your motivator?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sensing that it\u2019s not \u201call about\u201d the dollars and cents.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe goals of being a Domme are not as simple as financial gain or desire fulfillment. In no particular order of importance, with each D\/s experience, my goals are: <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cTraining my husband to be a model submissive for others to admire and learn from, while also modifying his behavior so he is more useful to me as well as to others \u2013 wherever and whenever I see fit to utilize his services.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cTraining my sub hub would allow him to be a better trainer<\/em> for other subs. So, the student can become a teacher. But he will always be my bitch \u2013 underneath my rule.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBecoming a better Domme and role model for females \u2018in the scene.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cEnjoying myself while giving a combo of pain \u2018n\u2019 pleasure to willing recipients.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cHelping subs understand that being under a Domme means being dedicated and respectful of responsible female leadership in their lives, even if they lead another life during their training.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMaking extra income as a bonus to my regular vanilla job.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cExpanding the \u2018kink-terests\u2019 (kinky interests<\/em>) that my sub hub and I showcase \u2013 in our adult web magazine and in our naughty social-media channels \u2013 so that we present them in such a creative and amusing way that we bring a fresh perspective on existing fetishes.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

You\u2019re right! That\u2019 may be a lot of things, but \u201csimple\u201d isn\u2019t one of them!<\/p>\n

So\u2026 you mentioned a \u201cvanilla job.\u201d How much of your energy and time does your fetish hobby take up?<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s more of a hobby, since I have my vanilla remote job and daily adult responsibilities that take precedence over my kink involvement.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cHowever, each day includes 3 to 5 hours where my husband and I are updating our Side-of-Light<\/em> website, communicating with product sponsors, vetting subs, posting to forums on our FetLife account, shooting new content for our PornHub, OnlyFans, and Instagram dedicated to socks: <\/strong>http:\/\/www.instagram.com\/touchmysocks<\/strong><\/a>, and just enjoying my ownership of my sub hub\u2019s cute little butt.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI would say \u2018energy consumption\u2019 with this hobby depends on the day (and night) <\/strong>\ud83d\ude0a<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

No, I hear you \u2013 totally!<\/p>\n

Are you satisfied with your current level of involvement?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m satisfied with my level of involvement since the pandemic has significantly increased my health concerns regarding adding other people \u2013 even friends \u2013 in our play circle.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cPre-coronavirus, I was hoping to go to kink events like CFNM (clothed female naked male) parties with my sub hub, or even just visit the local dungeons in our area.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe rate of infection in our sunny state of Florida makes in-person meetings too risky. So, online interactions become the go-to for my sub-vetting process.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIn the meantime, as this lockdown continues, I often experiment on and with Rei, my sub hub, for new kinks \u2013 or expand on the ones that we have already. It\u2019s been quite a fun-and-rewarding adventure being married to my loving and ever-loyal, kinky life partner.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Aw.<\/p>\n

\u201cRei has no idea that I have much more in store for us in the future, but he will love every second because I said so <\/strong>\ud83d\ude0a<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! Well\u2026if he wasn\u2019t wise to that already \u2013 which I doubt \u2013 hopefully, he\u2019ll discover it by reading your finished interview! Haha!<\/p>\n

Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m a heteroflexible (more hetero<\/em> than flexible), lifestyle Domme, cis<\/em>-gender female in her early 30s \u2013 newly married to my well-equipped alpha sub hub, Rei. We have a D\/s female-led relationship where I have final say over everything in our partnership. But I do listen to him and take his constructive feedback into consideration when it comes to all aspects of our life together.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWe are both content developers. And we co-own a non-profit arts organization together, as well as the kinky adult web magazine Side of Light<\/em>. I have a vanilla day job as a remote, web-content manager for a charity organization. And Rei works under me as my graphic designer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m both sapiosexual and demisexual and my sub hub is the same. So, I value intellectual and emotional connections with others more than the baser physical levels. I have hole-exclusivity with my sub hub. So only I<\/em> am the sole owner \u2013 with open admission to any<\/em> \u2013 of his \u2018entrances.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWith regards to my own entrances<\/em>, those are reserved for Rei, as he treats me better than anyone else can or will.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThis exclusivity has loopholes, as I see fit, according to my needs and the play scenario. I violate the willing holes of subs with my strap-on, and I occasionally allow Rei to use either a strap-on or his condom-encased dick to own the hungry boi pussies of beta subs, as I supervise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIn that respect, we still have hole exclusivity<\/em> with one another, but it allows us to violate the willing holes of others together \u2013 which is especially fun, as a dominating duo of double penetration.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I follow you. That makes a lot of sense.<\/p>\n

You have certainly thought through your approach.<\/p>\n

And that gets me curious. I\u2019d like to probe a little deeper<\/em> \u2013 if I may put it that way! \u2013 into your thoughts about the titular fetish.<\/p>\n

So, there\u2019s something about being \u201cbi,\u201d and there\u2019s something about being \u201cforced.\u201d So far, so good, lol!<\/p>\n

Lemme ask about the bisexuality angle first.<\/p>\n

Do you think it\u2019s possible for somebody to be more or less equally attracted to females and males?<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, I believe that true bisexuality is<\/em> possible. But I haven\u2019t seen it while socializing with other people, since there is usually a deeper attraction to one or the other. It\u2019s not a 50-50, down-the-middle split of being interested in both females and males.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI believe that with the proper conditioning, true bisexuality can be achieved \u2013 as I am using my husband as an experimental subject to see if the peg-play and feminization treatments can sway his heteroflexibility into homoflexibility.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I perceive that at least one of the operative words, there, is \u201cconditioning.\u201d<\/p>\n

So, given that, how do you think about the Forced-Bi fetish?<\/p>\n

\u201cI see the forced-bi fetish as a role-play game, where males gain the freedom to explore their bisexual or homosexual tendencies with the supervision of a dominant, female figure.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Okay, interesting\u2026 a sort of game.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt becomes a natural power trip since the male is allowing the female to control or divert his sexual desires onto another male. Whether he wants to or not, he will succumb to his curiosity for another\u2019s cock.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAnd, of course the forced-bi fetish is a fun activity, or else why else would I bother doing it?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! I\u2019m sure I don\u2019t know!<\/p>\n

I should have asked this question previously. But\u2026 there are so many variations of the fetish name \u2013 \u201ccoerced bi,\u201d \u201cencouraged gay,\u201d \u201cenforced bi, \u201cforced gay,\u201d \u201cmake-me-bi,\u201d \u201cmake-you-gay,\u201d etc., etc. \u2013 which (if any!) do you use?<\/p>\n

\u201cMy preference of fetish name for this kink is \u2018forced bi,\u2019 since it usually implies forcing<\/em> the other person to participate in bisexual activity \u2013 whether that\u2019s girl-on-girl or guy-on-guy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cTypically, anyone who has this fetish already has bisexual tendencies or curiosity. So, I think of it as motivation to go through with their fantasy.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I gotcha.<\/p>\n

So\u2026 you said, \u201cgirl on girl\u201d or<\/em> \u201cguy on guy.\u201d Should I take it that you don\u2019t see this fetish as exclusively geared towards male submissives?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn my point of view, I see forced bi as pertaining to both<\/em> male and<\/em> female submission. But in the fetish realm I noticed that it\u2019s more, in-practice relating to submissive males.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI find it more common between the Dominant-Male\u00a0 \/ Dom \/ adult-baby, diaper-lover (ABDL) \/ mommy-domme; daddy-dom (MDDD) societies that encourages female submission.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t have any preference for one over the other. But, since I have a submissive husband and I\u2019m naturally a magnet for submissive males, I am more involved with male submission \u2013 since no submissive females, as of yet, have been worthy of my time.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve frequently been told that \u201cit can be for both,\u201d but males are more likely to seek it out \u2013 and pay! And there\u2019s been much speculation that appeals to the notion that girl-on-girl sexual involvement is more accepted; male-on-male action, more taboo.<\/p>\n

Now, let me ask about the bugaboo word, \u201cforced.\u201d<\/p>\n

You say you prefer it. For legal reasons, \u201cforced\u201d has to mean something less than literally compelled by threat of force<\/em>. But, that leaves a wide range of possible meanings, right?<\/p>\n

How do you think of it?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe second core idea of \u2018forced\u2019 is a combination of the arts of power exchange, instruction, motivation, persuasion, and seduction.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe power exchange of a submissive to a dominant plays a large role in this fetish.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThere is power connected with the instruction as well, since there is a level of trust that the submissive places in their dominant.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMotivation and persuasion is another driving factor of forced bi, since without proper encouragement to pursue the potential of the bisexual encounter, that fantasy would not be fulfilled.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cLast, but not least, there is an art of seduction here. The sub\u2019s attraction to a beautiful, unattainable Domme is diverted to her other subs. And, by following her orders, he \u2013 or she<\/em> \u2013 still achieves winning his (or her) Domme\u2019s attention and approval.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThe combination of these give forced bi the appeal that it has.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Does Forced Bi change a sub\u2019s sexual orientation?<\/p>\n

\u201cWith forced bi, I believe that the guys who are attracted to me with this fetish are heteroflexible. They seem to be sexually interested in women to begin with, but I know that they would get turned on by the right type of stimulus from an attractive man.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cHowever, these guys are either too afraid of societal repercussions of being considered a homosexual, not self-aware enough to know that they are not 100% heterosexual, or secretly want to experience the role reversal of being the one being told what to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThere are a vast majority of men who consider themselves to be \u2018straight,\u2019 yet \u2013 with the appropriate encouragement \u2013 would gladly participate in a forced-bi scenario as their expression of obedience, submission, and \/ or subordination to a dominant woman.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Is it possible for a guy to be a \u201cswitch\u201d or \u201cversatile\u201d?<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, it\u2019s very possible for a guy to function as a switch<\/em>, and be versatile with his D\/s level, to choose from being top or bottom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy alpha sub hub is a fine specimen for being a switch in this respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cOther subs, however \u2013 deep in their hearts \u2013 will only be a real top or bottom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cFortunately, I have the ability to read that scale within a man even when he doesn\u2019t see it himself. So, I don\u2019t need to worry whether he would be receptive to forced bi or not.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cGut instinct goes a long way for determining a sub\u2019s forced-bi-fetish answers and how well they play their switch role.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be exhibitionists. Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.<\/p>\n

Do any of these resonate with you?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m the type of woman who enjoys the gender-bending and reversal of the roles of the typical \u2018man in charge.\u2019 I\u2019m not a fan of \u2018gay spectacles.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat are those anyway, rainbow sunglasses?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cGay men are not just on park benches sensually kissing or sexually involved with one another out in public view. If there is an overly homosexual display of affection somewhere, like a strip club, sex club, or dungeon, I find those to be over dramatic and fake, appealing to the exhibitionists and their voyeurs.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cNo offense to exhibitionists and voyeurs who get off from that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cBack to the gender-bending, everyone knows that behind a strong man there\u2019s a strong woman. In my world of kink, that woman is behind him supporting his sense of sexual adventure, pegging him, and pushing his head onto a cock \u2013 whether it\u2019s a strap-on dildo or another man\u2019s cock.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy level of interest and enjoyment in the forced-bi fetish is dependent on the person or people involved.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he\u2019s less desirable to women). What do you think?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn my opinion, bisexual guys that pass my mental, physical, and psychological criteria can be attractive, desirable, and fun to play with.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThese men are just one of the types of sexual creatures that exist within the male gender in my world of kink. Their sexuality doesn\u2019t have any weight in how attractive they are or aren\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAs a side note, I consider a man that has the talent to swallow down an entire cock, skillfully take it balls deep in his ass, while also being able to please a woman in more ways than one, a considerably multi-talented play partner and a bigger turn on than a vanilla straight guy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMy sub hub fits all three of the above turn-on criteria and, at the end of the day, I still find him very desirable with all his kinks and quirks.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Is the forced-bi fetish \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d? \u2026psychologically, I mean.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe forced-bi fetish can be both healthy and unhealthy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cFor example, I was in contact with a bodyguard at a bar who wanted to be forced to suck my sub hub\u2019s dick. I did not entertain his interest in my sub hub, since I found the bodyguard to be too thirsty and shady with his intentions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI later found out that he was so cock hungry that he was willing to take the dick anywhere, even in a public restroom glory hole during COVID-19.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIn that respect, the forced-bi fetish can be unhealthy for subs or Dommes \/ Doms that are irresponsible with their sexual choices.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAside from the potential negative health aspects, I love the concept of sexual freedom and being able to choose your sexual preferences and partners as you wish. However, there is a certain point where that freedom needs guidelines and rules to remain a healthy pastime.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThat\u2019s another reason that I enjoy being a Domme. I teach my subs that even if they need a dose of the \u2018Vitamin D,\u2019 or have a hankering for trouser snake, there are precautions and self-maintenance procedures that one takes to preserve sexual longevity, which includes personal hygiene and emotional maturity.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Forced Bi itself, is \u2013 so to speak \u2013 neutral<\/em>?<\/p>\n

\u201cI believe the forced-bi fetish is both healthy and unhealthy. Depending on the player, they can really fuck up the game.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIn real-life applications, that means that if the sub was already interested in bisexual activity and was apprehensive about it, as a Domme with access to other subs of similar interests, why not help the shy guy with broadening his guy-on-guy sexual horizons, safely?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cOn the other hand, if the sub was not truly interested in bisexuality and was \u2018forced\u2019 to try it, that could cause mental or psychological trauma. Hence, one of my bottom lines is that all subs should have similar interests and participate in safe activities that they are comfortable with.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t believe that this fetish \u2018ruins\u2019 guys from having relationships with women. But depending on the sub, it helps them live out their bi fantasies so it stops their curiosity before it becomes a problem \u2013 say 20 years into a vanilla marriage. Better to get it out of their system early in their lives; or, allow it to develop properly with the help of a Domme.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not the kind of Domme that would enforce bisexuality on an unwilling sub because it causes too much drama.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s good.<\/p>\n

\u201cI enjoy having subs that are happy with being \u2018forced\u2019 to do what was already in their nature, and who feel good that they were able to do it under my supervision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s beneficial that my submissive husband is my \u2018trophy sub\u2019 \u2013 so other subs have a \u2018hole<\/em>-some\u2019 role model for the forced-bi fetish, and other kinks.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha!<\/p>\n

\u201cHe also serves as a figurative security blanket \u2013 as an alpha sub for my beta subs to be more comfortable with trying bi-activities for the first time.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Do you think any of this is religious or spiritual terms?<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me, the forced-bi fetish is not religious \u2026other than some subs practicing it religiously<\/em> \u2013 like going to cock-whore \u2018worship service\u2019 each week, where the donations are emptied into them.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I see your point!<\/p>\n

\u201cAnyway, forced bi, in a spiritual sense, is freeing the sub from thinking they should be ashamed of their slutty, cock-hungry or carpet-munching behavior to experience an enjoyable bisexual adventure with someone of the same sex that they were attracted to and did not have the courage to approach on their own.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cWith me, they can practice that safely under my control.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThere\u2019s also something to be said for opening up certain chakras<\/em> (a.k.a. \u2018spiritual energy centers\u2019 of your body) when you experience satisfying sexual activities with someone of the same sex.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Forced-Bi.com has a few posts (e.g., HERE<\/a> and HERE<\/a>) that touch<\/em> on that (no pun intended).<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen it comes to forced bi, it\u2019s amazing that my sub hub and I are on the same page, and that we must have more than physical connection with the beta sub that we allow into our kinky realm.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t allow just anyone to be blessed by my husband\u2019s magical staff<\/em>, or my own dildo of deliverance<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! Fair enough! The wand chooses the wizard<\/em>?<\/p>\n

Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called \u201cbinary language\u201d \u2013 e.g., thinking in terms of \u201cfeminine\u201d versus \u201cmasculine,\u201d etc. \u2013 when it comes to John Money\u2019s concept of \u201cgender\u201d and sexuality. But forced bi, arguably, has a kind of \u201cbi-narism\u201d built into its name.<\/p>\n

Do you see this as a problem for the \u201cforced-bi\u201d fetish?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe binary labeling of the forced-bi fetish is not a problem, per se<\/em>, since fetish fans that are \u2018in the know\u2019 are aware of the concept that sexuality is \u2013 historically<\/em> \u2013 described in binary terms.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cThese days, that is not true, since sociology and psychology studies have advanced our understanding of people\u2019s sexual desires.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cMost individuals start out their lives without a solid sense of what their sexual preference is \u2013 until hormones set in<\/em>. There are a few that know from childhood what sexual tendencies they do and don\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cKnowing this, binary language is not often considered in the realm of problems for the forced-bi fetish, since the fetish world is full of conflicting terms (i.e. \u2018consensual non-consent\u2019).<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I have made a similar point to the handful of people who object to the adjective \u201cforced.\u201d After all the obligatory legal disclaimers are duly noted, \u201cforced\u201d is probably best regarded as a term of art<\/em> \u2013 not unlike the word \u201cslave,\u201d which is often invoked by fetishists in a non-literal sense.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you plan to play with me and my sub hub, leave \u2018bi-narism\u2019 at the door, since you\u2019re already blurring the line of masculine-feminine division by expressing an interest in forced bi to begin with.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s descend from the ivory-tower a moment, and from these fascinating linguistic explorations, and talk about something more carnal and, well\u2026 visceral<\/em>.<\/p>\n

What forced-bi shenanigans do you most enjoy ordering or watching?<\/p>\n

\u201cThe homosexual activities that give me the most enjoyment would be: mutual masturbation, one-sided oral sex, 69-ing, and \u2013 if the subs are willing \/ receptive \u2013penetrative sex, either with dildos or cocks (condoms required).<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

If there\u2019s penetration, then someone\u2019s surely \u201creceptive\u201d! Ha!<\/p>\n

Anything that you prefer to \u2018pass\u2019 \u2013 or \u201cswipe left\u201d \u2013 on?<\/p>\n

\u201cIn general, seeing guys or girls kiss each other is not a turn-on for me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

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Interesting.<\/p>\n

\u201cOn that note, I have yet to find a guy worthy, attractive, and healthy enough for my husband to kiss, and that goes the same for me, as I have yet to encounter a woman worth my time \u2026and spit.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cHowever, seeing a guy skillfully take a cock down his throat, or having a girl creatively lick a clit, gets my engine going.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ooh<\/em>! I\u2019m feeling a bit revved up myself, now that you mention it!<\/p>\n

Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?<\/p>\n

\u201cThis relates back to the binary-language question, since the popularity of the forced-bi fetish is growing due to acceptance of the fact that gender and sexual preference is not<\/em> binary<\/em>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve gotten several answers like that that. But a few respondents have said something to the contrary.<\/p>\n

These interviewees hypothesize that Forced Bi only has the appeal that it has because<\/em> it\u2019s still taboo. In other words, the argument is something like this.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s fetishized, then it\u2019s not yet accepted<\/em>, and if it\u2019s accepted, then it\u2019s not fetishized<\/em>.[2]<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cStatistics tend to speak for themselves. My experience in the fetish world increased when I openly stated in my FetLife profile that my husband was actively interested in forced-bi activities. Many other subs came out of the woodwork expressing support or similar interests \u2013 even if their profiles listed them as \u2018straight\u2019 or \u2018Dom.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cForced bi does not mean you\u2019re gay or lesbian, but you definitely aren\u2019t 100% straight.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called \u201cmainstream media\u201d?<\/p>\n

\u201cNo. Not that I know of.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

I just thought I\u2019d ask! It\u2019s a question that gets responses all over the spectrum.<\/p>\n

\u201cOur Side of Light<\/em> magazine is a way for us to reach out and raise awareness for sexual freedom with safety in mind.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

A bit of social activism. I gotcha.<\/p>\n

Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I\u2019m with two subs, I prefer that my husband is the dedicated top and alpha sub while the other sub is the beta-bitch cocksucker.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! I kinda figured you might say that.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s just proper D\/s hierarchy that my alpha sub hub teaches the lower level sub how to suck cock properly \u2013 since he has an 11\u201d kielbasa. What better way for the beta sub to learn how to blow a real man?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ha! I\u2019m not going to gainsay you, there!<\/p>\n

\u201cIf they can successfully swallow all that meat, they earn a chance at riding my amazing horse.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Are you aroused by forced bi, or just amused by it?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m mostly amused by the forced-bi fetish. The excitement only happens since I get turned on by ordering my husband to own the holes of other subs.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s hot\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cOftentimes, forced bi just makes me laugh, since beta subs are usually awkward and shy \u2013 but totally obedient and open to anything I say. Even when my husband\u2019s cock gets bigger than my forearm, and I tell them, \u2018swallow it or I\u2019ll whip you,\u2019 the beta sub will give in to their bisexual curiosity.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n