\u201cForced bi\u201d (also sometimes called \u201ccoerced bi,\u201d \u201cencouraged bi,\u201d or \u201cforced bisexuality\u201d) is the name for a sexual fetish that (1.) has to do with a person being compelled to participate in same-sex activities and that (2.) falls broadly underneath the umbrella of the so-called \u201cBDSM scene\u201d[1]<\/a> (for more on which, see the end note). Typically, the person doing the \u201ccompelling\u201d is playing the role of the dominant overseer. This role is sometimes \u2013 but not always \u2013 carried out by a person who self-identifies as a \u201cMistress\u201d (female) or \u201cMaster\u201d (male) or a \u201cDomme\u201d (female) or \u201cDom\u201d (male).[2]<\/a><\/p>\n It is important to note that the \u201cforced\u201d part of the phrase is not<\/em> intended to convey anything illegal.[3]<\/a> Being \u201cforced\u201d in the relevant sense does not<\/em> imply that the pertinent activities are being foisted upon persons against their wills or without their consent. Instead, what is in view is more of a subtle process \u2013 variously described as coercion, encouragement, or manipulation \u2013 to which all involved parties have given their consent.<\/p>\n It is possible to think of the \u201cforcing\u201d as lying along a spectrum. On the one end, we have \u201chard forcing\u201d which, although is by no means intended to verge on assault or rape, is nevertheless, carried out in a \u201charsh\u201d or \u201cmean\u201d manner, perhaps roughly. On the opposite end of the continuum, we have what we might call \u201csoft forcing.\u201d On this end, the person doing the forcing merely \u201cadvises\u201d or \u201csuggests,\u201d perhaps gently.<\/p>\n We might think of a progression something<\/em> like the following:<\/p>\n Of course, the prefix \u201cbi-\u201d strictly designates the number two and has to do with something that has two parts<\/em> or is, in some way, doubled <\/em>or halved<\/em>. For example, to \u201cbisect\u201d something is to cut it in half \u2013 that is, to reduce it to two portions. Similarly, if you\u2019re paid a bonus biannually<\/em>, you expect to cash extra checks twice a year.<\/p>\n In the relevant fetish, \u201cbi\u201d is short for bisexual<\/em>. The basic idea is that a \u201cbisexual\u201d person is a one who is somehow \u201csexual\u201d with both males and<\/em> females. Following the sexual-research work of people like Alfred Kinsey (a pioneering 20th<\/sup>-century American \u201csexologist\u201d), the usual connotation of the word \u201cbisexual\u201d is that such a person experiences actual sexual attraction<\/em> to persons of both sexes. However, it is important to observe that it is physically possible to have sexual intercourse with a person to whom one is not particularly attracted.[5]<\/a><\/p>\n In the forced-bi fetish, one person (usually, but not always, male) is \u201cforced\u201d (see the meaning, above) by a someone to engage in sexual activities with another male. In this sort of scenario, the person who is being \u201cforced\u201d may or may not feel attracted to his (or her) sexual partner. To the extent that the forced person is sexually aroused, the arousal may stem from an attraction to the person who is doing the forcing (rather than with the partner, per se) or from some fascination with the idea of being forced, or some other source (an unrelated fantasy, for instance).<\/p>\n Thus, we usually have these sorts of pairings:<\/p>\n In one sense, there are probably as many different sorts of forced-bi situations as those who engage in it. But, we can probably group some scenarios together and draw some general inferences.<\/p>\n For example, we can sort by the sex of the participants.[6]<\/a><\/p>\n We could sort by the sexual orientation of the participants as well.[7]<\/a><\/p>\n We can also sort by the \u201cBDSM\u201d-orientation[8]<\/a><\/p>\n Absolutely. Some other fetishes that are often related to \u201cforced bi\u201d include: blindfolding; bondage; crossdressing; strapon play; and so on.<\/p>\n Motivations and interests vary considerably. Here are a few personality types that I have run across.<\/p>\n On the one hand, there are facilitators who say that they merely to enjoy watching people \u2013 or maybe watching people \u201cexperiment,\u201d sexually. Call these people the voyeurs<\/em>. For voyeurs, it isn\u2019t about self-discovery or about ruination; it\u2019s just about fun \u2013 and being a fly on the wall, observing.<\/p>\n Somewhat differently oriented are those to claim that they enjoy assisting people in \u201cfinding\u201d their \u201ctrue selves.\u201d These people often deny that they are \u201cforcing\u201d anything \u2013 in any<\/em> sense. Rather, to hear them tell it, what they are doing is encouraging people to act upon latent impulses that, they may believe, represent the actors\u2019 \u201ctrue, inner selves.\u201d Call them the quasi-therapists<\/em>. For the quasi-therapists, it\u2019s not at all that the men involved could be straight, really. Rather, the men are latently gay and the facilitator is just encouraging them to \u201ccome out.\u201d<\/p>\n Other people have a decidedly darker set of motivations. A few \u201cMistress\u201d-types profess to derive satisfaction from corrupting people \u2013 often, but not always, men<\/em>. They may have something in common with the mythical witch Circe, who turned men into pigs for her amusement. For mistresses of this kind, one main goal is sometimes stated this way: to take straight men and sexually reprogram them to respond to gay stimuli. In some cases, the facilitators wish, bluntly put, to ruin men for women and to prompt them to become gay. Like the quasi-therapists, these people think of \u201cforced bi\u201d as merely a bridge to out-and-out homosexuality. However, unlike the quasi-therapists, these mistresses do not view their intercession as assistance. They prefer to think of it as debasement. Call these people the \u201ctransformers.\u201d<\/p>\n Transformers themselves run the gamut, motivationally. Some transformers wish to see their subjects (or \u201cvictims\u201d) end up as cock or cum addicts. Others claim to want to actually turn their targets into transsexuals. Still others that I have found enjoy trapping men into lifestyles of homosexual promiscuity (or worse).<\/p>\n Of course, there can also be hybrid facilitators. For example, one \u201cMistress\u201d seemed to think of herself as assisting latent homosexuals to become patent homosexuals. But, she also professed to want her stable of homosexuals to end up seduced and sucked in (no pun intended) to the gay lifestyle. We might call this kind the evil therapists.<\/p>\n Submissives have a wide variety of motivations as well. In fact, we might think that, to a certain extent, there are submissive attitudes that mirror each of the dominant ones just surveyed.<\/p>\n The counterpart to the voyeur would therefore be the exhibitionist. The exhibitionist is really out to be seen, to be watched and observed. Being a spectacle gets the exhibitionist off. In the scope of this fetish, however, it\u2019s not being watched doing just anything; it\u2019s being watched doing something taboo.<\/p>\n On the other hand, there are those who have latent gay desires\/urges. For these people, it may be that they seek out facilitators like our quasi-therapists. The idea is that the latent gays want permission to engage in homosexual behavior.<\/p>\n Finally, there are those people who really want to be corrupted. They may want to be trapped, suffocated, or otherwise destroyed \u2013 physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Let\u2019s call these the \u201cself-destructors.\u201d<\/p>\n And, as before, there are doubtless people who are hybrids. They may display traits from some other categories, or they may embody the kind of confusion that precludes any clear trait manifestation.<\/p>\n There are two somewhat interesting psycho-philosophical points. One has to do with the \u201cdomme\u201d\/\u201csub\u201d or \u201cmaster\u201d\/\u201cslave\u201d dynamic, generally. The idea is that it can be understood as an exercise in guilt-avoidance.<\/p>\n It is conceivable that one sort of \u201csubmissive\u201d is the kind of person who is fascinated with some taboo activity, but who is unwilling to go out and just do it. This sort of submissive therefore latches onto a dominant who, by \u201cordering\u201d the submissive to act in such-and-such a way, gives him or her the \u201cpermission\u201d that is sought. So, on this reading, the goal is an escape from guilt.<\/p>\n Similarly, at least one sort of \u201cdominant\u201d is the kind of individual who likes to be on the outskirts of taboo activity, but who feels that the dominant\/submissive (D\/s) relationship affords a kind of protection. To put it another way, the dominant says: \u201cI myself am not the one engaging in this activity. It\u2019s the submissive(s). Thus, I bear no culpability or guilt.\u201d So, in the end, on this picture, anyway, the dominant is also escaping guilt.<\/p>\n The second issue is simply the curious notion that pairing sadists and masochists, for preference-satisfaction purposes, is practically impossible.<\/p>\n The usual idea is that sadists and masochists work well together. The sadist likes dishing out punishment and the masochist likes getting it. What could be more complementary?<\/p>\n The problem is this. If a \u201csadist\u201d is a person who enjoys inflicting genuine pain, and the \u201cmasochist\u201d is a person who experiences certain corporal punishments (or whatever) as pleasure<\/em>, then the two don\u2019t actually complement each other. After all, no self-respecting sadist would want to be delivering pleasure to someone else. But the masochist, as defined above, derives pleasure from various punishments. Therefore, the sadist would not want to punish a masochist (so defined), because the sadist would be pleasuring the masochist, rather than causing pain.<\/p>\n Notes:<\/p>\n [1]<\/a> BDSM<\/strong> roughly stands for a fourfold conglomeration of fetishes usually enumerated as \u201cbondage<\/strong>\u201d (i.e., the use of duct tape, handcuffs, neckties, ropes, scarves, zip ties to \u201cbind\u201d a person for sexual purposes); \u201cdiscipline<\/strong>\u201d or \u201cdomination<\/strong>\u201d (i.e., a wide variety activities, including the administration of corporal punishment or \u201cpaddling\u201d\/\u201cspanking,\u201d in order to elicit a submissive response in another person); \u201csadism<\/strong>\u201d (i.e., taking pleasure in the deliverance or infliction of pain on someone else); and \u201cmasochism<\/strong>\u201d (or the taking pleasure in the reception of pain on oneself).<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Some dominant females may refer to themselves by other titles, including: \u201cBrat,\u201d \u201cEmpress,\u201d Enchantress\u201d\/\u201cEnchantrix,\u201d \u201cGoddess,\u201d \u201cPrincess,\u201d \u201cQueen,\u201d and the like of those.<\/p>\n [3]<\/a> The forced-bi fetish, like much else besides, could absolutely be taken \u201ctoo far\u201d or used as camouflage by someone with illicit or nefarious intentions. However, none of these illegalities fall under the scope of this article. FORCED-BI.com does not condone, excuse, recommend, or otherwise support illegal activities or rape.<\/p>\n [4]<\/a> In this context, \u201cblackmail\u201d is supposed to refer to another sort of BDSM fetish where two or more people roleplay the ideas of exposure and public humiliation. FORCEDBI.com does not condone or recommend actual blackmail, which is, of course, a criminal activity. Similarly, the word \u201cthreat\u201d should be understand in the context of the roleplay just sketched. \u201cThreat\u201d therefore amounts to (something like) \u201cpretend threat\u201d and \u201cblackmail\u201d should be taken to mean (something close to) \u201cfantasy blackmail.\u201d<\/p>\n [5]<\/a> A sort of tongue-in-cheek illustration would be the married couple that is no longer sexually attracted to one another, but who manage to engage in sexual activities with each other \u2013 perhaps because each partner is thinking about, and consequently being aroused by, some third (or fourth) party. Another example would be a single-sex prison environment in which same-sex sexual activity may be a function of desperation rather than of attraction.<\/p>\n [6]<\/a> Since the fetish is termed \u201cforced bi<\/em>,\u201d and since \u201cbi\u201d stands for bisexual<\/em>, and since \u201cbisexual\u201d has to do with the difference between males and females, I am here ignoring so-called \u201cnon-cissexual\u201d persons such as pan-sexuals, transsexuals, and the like. But, in theory, one could derive other \u201csorts\u201d by various combinations such as <a male-to-female transsexual having sex with another male-to-female transsexual under the direction of a female\/male\/transsexual> and so forth.<\/p>\n [7]<\/a> This is a bit trickier, however, since it is arguable that the main thrust (no pun intended) of the fetish is to \u201cforce\u201d a person who is neither homosexually nor bisexually oriented to engage in same-sex activities. On this view, the usual situation would be to pair an antecedently straight male with another male, or an antecedently straight female with another female. However, in another sense, it seems possible to have an antecedently gay male \u201cforced\u201d to couple with another male, or an antecedently gay female to have sex with another female.<\/p>\n [8]<\/a> Again, there is a little twist, here. The typical assumption would seem to be that the person being \u201cforced\u201d is going to be on the submissive side, at least in contrast to the person doing the \u201cforcing.\u201d However, it is debatable whether it is possible for a dominant male to be \u201cforced\u201d into same-sex situations. On one view, a view that understands the word \u201cforced\u201d to be a real compulsion<\/em>, this would be a contradiction. What is occurring, on this interpretation, would be that an antecedently dominant male was being rendered submissive. On another view, one that understands \u201cforced\u201d in a softer way \u2013 something like encouragement \u2013 the dominant male isn\u2019t being compelled<\/em> to do anything, rather, he is simply being cheered on<\/em>. And this, one might think, is compatible with his remaining dominant.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What Is the Basic Definition of the \u2018Forced Bi\u2019 Fetish? \u201cForced bi\u201d (also sometimes called \u201ccoerced bi,\u201d \u201cencouraged bi,\u201d or \u201cforced bisexuality\u201d) is the name for a sexual fetish that (1.) has to do with a person being compelled to participate in same-sex activities and that (2.) falls broadly underneath the umbrella of the so-called… Read More »What Is \u2018Forced Bi\u2019?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-forcedbitheory"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6\/revisions\/28"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/forced-bi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}What Does \u2018Forced\u201d Mean, Exactly?<\/h1>\n
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What Does \u2018Bi\u2019 Mean?<\/h1>\n
What Does \u2018Bisexual\u2019 Mean?<\/h1>\n
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Are There Different \u2018Types\u2019 of \u2018Forced Bi\u2019?<\/h1>\n
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Are Other Fetishes in the Vicinity?<\/h1>\n
What Do the Facilitators (or Dominant Players) Get out of \u2018Forced Bi\u2019?<\/h1>\n
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What Do the Participants (Especially the Submissives) Get out of It?<\/h1>\n
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Final Thoughts<\/h1>\n
Escape From Guilt<\/h2>\n
Paradox of Sado-Masochism<\/h2>\n