Welcome, Bastienne!<\/p>\n
So, there are numerous titles attached to a person in your line of work. I\u2019m thinking of \u201cBrat,\u201d \u201cDomme,\u201d \u201cMistress,\u201d \u201cQueen,\u201d and the like.<\/p>\n
Which of these most appeals to you? How do you think of yourself?<\/p>\n
\u201cI think of myself as a Professional Dominant and Kink Facilitator. I also identify as a Sadist.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That sounds like an explosive combination!<\/p>\n All right\u2026 Thinking of yourself in those roles, is this a lifestyle? Pastime? Roleplay? Social activism? What is it that you see yourself as doing?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m a Professional and Lifestyle Domme. I like to think I bring something special to my paid clients given that I enjoy D\/s relationships in my personal life as well.<\/strong>[1]<\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s awesome!<\/p>\n Let me ask a question on the flip side.<\/p>\n The people who look for you \u2013 seek out your services \u2013 what word or words do you use for them? I\u2019m thinking, here, about words like \u201cbetas,\u201d \u201closers,\u201d \u201cmasochists,\u201d \u201cslaves,\u201d \u201csubs,\u201d etc.<\/p>\n \u201cWhatever that particular person prefers! I have no strong preference<\/strong>\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n No preference? Interesting!<\/p>\n \u201c\u2026there\u2019s fun to be had with all of them, respectively.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Okay, then!<\/p>\n How did you start into all this? What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general \u2013 and forced bi in particular?<\/p>\n \u201cI started 5 years ago selling used panties on Craigslist of all things!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ah! Once upon a time, Craigslist was a go-to cyber destination for Forced-Bi! (See HERE<\/a>, HERE<\/a>, and HERE<\/a> for examples.)<\/p>\n \u201cI quickly ventured through many fetishes and ended up finding my passion in Female Domination. It was such a life-changing discovery for me; I\u2019m very grateful for not only the creative, professional path I\u2019ve since found but my own personal sexuality has completely evolved.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cProfessional Domination is what introduced me to the world of BDSM, and I\u2019ve considered myself a Lifestyle (and Professional) Domme ever since!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s fascinating!<\/p>\n So, how do you do this? Where? I mean, I found you online, but do you have a physical meeting space as well? A \u201cdungeon,\u201d studio, or whatever?<\/p>\n \u201cI exclusively offer in-person sessions in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. I host from the best dungeons in the city, run by fellow Professional Dommes.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Canadian readers \u2013 and adventurous travelers \u2013 take note!<\/p>\n What\u2019s your goal? Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure \u2013 or both?<\/p>\n \u201cThe perfect balance of both! I mean, yeah, Momma\u2019s gotta pay the bills!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cBut<\/em> \u2026the most important thing is passion. I must<\/em> be excited about what I\u2019m offering, otherwise why bother?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cIf I wanted a boring, miserable job, I would go get one!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! Well said!<\/p>\n How much of your energy and time does this take up?<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s my full-time gig!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Are you satisfied with this level of involvement?<\/p>\n \u201cI absolutely love it!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Well, congratulations! Not everyone is in such a position.<\/p>\n Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels? For instance, your age, relationship status, anything.<\/p>\n \u201cAbsolutely!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m 34 years old; I\u2019m in a D\/s relationship with an amazing, submissive man I met in session a couple years ago!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n No kidding! That\u2019s going to make a few readers quite envious!<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m pansexual and consider myself Dominant with men and submissive with women, in general. I have a high sex drive and a relentless appetite for novel, nuanced layers of power dynamics in my own sex life.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m highly cerebral, introverted and introspective. Dealing with complex, subversive forms of sexuality (my own and others) is what I was born to do \u2013 I truly love it!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That provides an interesting segue! Because my next few questions get a bit more into analysis than just personal story sharing.<\/p>\n Let me start with this: On the face of it, the \u201cForced-Bi\u201d fetish has two components: (1) force<\/em> and (2) bisexuality<\/em>. I\u2019ll ask you about both of these concepts, in turn.<\/p>\n Do you think that true \u201cbisexuality\u201d \u2013 where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called \u201cbinarism\u201d) \u2013 is possible?<\/p>\n \u201cAbsolutely! I\u2019m one of them!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Okay!<\/p>\n Which of the following, if any, do you think of the Forced-Bi fetish as? Are you thinking that it\u2019s a lifestyle? Just a bit of fun? A trap? A roleplay?<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s very much a power trip for me, particularly with men who are actually straight but have heavily fetishized homosexuality. I love watching them humiliate themselves doing something that I view as entirely innocuous<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s an interesting twist!<\/p>\n As you know, there are actually a few names for this fetish: \u201ccoerced bi\/gay,\u201d \u201cencouraged bi,\u201d \u201cenforced bi,\u201d \u201cforced bi,\u201d etc., etc. Do you prefer one over another? Or pretty much the same difference?<\/p>\n \u201cI love the term \u2018coerced bi\u2019 because I adore<\/em> any form of coercion roleplay, gaslighting,[2]<\/a> blackmailing, manipulation. I love the act of pushing someone to do something they\u2019re hesitant about.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n In practice, \u201cforced bi\u201d seems most often to apply to men<\/em> being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things \u2013 for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cYup, totally!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! I\u2019m guessing you\u2019re open to the fetish applying to women as well?<\/p>\n \u201cI would love<\/em> that. The reality is, most paid submissives are male.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n So much for \u201cbisexuality,\u201d then.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s talk about \u201cforce\u201d for a minute.<\/p>\n This one is not a little vague. For legal reasons, it probably means something less than literally compelled by threats<\/em>. But, where do you fall along the spectrum of possible definitions? Which, if any, of the following do you think is most fitting? Coercion, commandment, encouragement, enticement, inducement, instruction, permission, persuasion, provocation, seduction? Something else?<\/p>\n \u201cWith the right client, I love to persuade and entice, using empty promises as a way to trick the client into performing gay acts.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cFor example: \u2018I would totally love to fuck you but how do I know you\u2019re serious? There are so many guys like you that are trying to get in my pants, show me that you\u2019re serious by sucking my friend\u2019s dick first while I record it.\u2019<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Oh, my!<\/p>\n \u201cI love the idea of a man totally debasing himself for the chance to fuck me then turning it into a blackmail situation.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201c\u2018I\u2019ve got this video of you now and my friend said your mouth felt great, let\u2019s keep him happy and your secret is safe.\u2019<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Wow!<\/p>\n \u201cOkay, I have to stop, I\u2019m turning myself on! \ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s getting a bit warm in here!<\/p>\n But what do you think is actually going on with \u201cforced bi\u201d? Does a guy literally change his sexual orientation?<\/p>\n \u201cIn my experience it\u2019s either a veiled excuse to justify doing gay acts or it\u2019s a fetishization of homosexuality.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cIn the first instance, that guy may do gay things with other men on his own, without a woman present, in addition to participating in a Forced-Bi scene.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe latter example, of a guy who highly fetishizes homosexuality, the power exchange between him and the FemDom becomes the main focus. In that example, he wouldn\u2019t be likely to do anything gay outside of a Forced Bi scene.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Very clearly put. I follow you.<\/p>\n In your opinion, is it possible for a guy to be a \u201cswitch\u201d or \u201cversatile\u201d?<\/p>\n \u201cOf course!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be \u201cattention whores.\u201d Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing. Do any of these resonate with you?<\/p>\n \u201cYup, I love gay porn for the same reason I like all the other weird porn I watch: the power dynamics.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI prefer watching big, burly guys fucking smaller guys, or seeing two guys fucking with a significant age gap.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cPower dynamics turn me on!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That is intriguing!<\/p>\n A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he\u2019s less desirable to women). This may be a difference of opinion between more dominant and more submissive women. What do you think?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019ve dated a bisexual guy and had MFM[3]<\/a> threesomes, I think it\u2019s super-hot.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Is the forced-bi fetish \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d? I mean, is it conducive to a sub\u2019s flourishing, or to his corruption?<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s as healthy as the person who is experiencing it.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cAnything that is explored in sexuality as a taboo is often playing with deeper psychological issues. This isn\u2019t inherently a bad thing by any means, it depends entirely on the outlook of the person who is exploring.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cOften, we\u2019re delving into shame when we explore in BDSM. Does the person know how to navigate their own shame? Do they have an introspective practice that helps them assimilate their own desires into their real-life identity?<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you think of any of this in religious or spiritual terms?<\/p>\n \u201cI personally don\u2019t, but I know some people will experience their kinks through the lens of their religion.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI think it\u2019s best to test those boundaries and find a spiritual practice that is sustainable and healthy for you. I\u2019m a big fan of living truthfully, so everyone needs to put their big-girl or boy-pants on at some point and decide how they want to live \u2013 whatever that may look like for them.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?<\/p>\n \u201cAnal is my favourite!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n All right, then! A lot of your compatriots say \u201ccocksucking\u201d!<\/p>\n Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019ll probably lose a bit of steam as the homophobic older generations die out. It\u2019s a fetish largely based on homophobia after all.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Interesting statement!<\/p>\n Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called \u201cmainstream media\u201d?<\/p>\n \u201cWhat\u2019s mainstream media? I\u2019ve never heard of it \ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha!<\/p>\n Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role I want?<\/p>\n \u201cI like dedicated roles where one is the top and one is the bottom!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Power dynamics, again? Roger that!<\/p>\n I think I you basically disclosed this earlier, but\u2026 are you aroused by Forced Bi, or just amused by it?<\/p>\n \u201cBoth! I think it\u2019s super-hot watching a dude get used by another, but I also think it\u2019s funny how much of a taboo some guys think it is.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you think that a guy can \u201cjust try\u201d sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?<\/p>\n \u201cSure, I\u2019ve seen that before. Everyone is different. Also, there\u2019s nothing wrong with just leaving something as a fantasy, lots of people do that with lots of kinks.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What are you interested in doing? Having guys leave it at the level of fantasy?<\/p>\n \u201cActions speak louder than words; I love facilitating and watching.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Okay! How \u201cinvolved\u201d do you like to be? I mean\u2026 you just issue an order and the guys go and carry it out on their own?<\/p>\n \u201cLive and in the flesh! I want to be there to \u2018help\u2019 \ud83d\ude09<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What is your biggest focus\/turn on?<\/p>\n \u201cHonestly, it\u2019s all about my power. I get off on my ability to get a guy to do extreme \u2013 even gay \u2013 things.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What sexual acts, if any, really charge your batteries?<\/p>\n \u201cI love watching a guy reluctantly suck his first cock.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI also love anally training my submissives, leading up to a Forced-Bi scene. I like to warm them up with my strap on before handing them over to the bull.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you have any limits?<\/p>\n \u201cYup, condoms.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms?<\/p>\n \u201cNot for me! It\u2019s a turn off. Stay safe and have fun, y\u2019all.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Again, thinking about Forced-Bi encounters, how do you feel about married men?<\/p>\n \u201cThat\u2019s their choice. I don\u2019t like hearing about their personal lives, because I feel bad for their wives. But, ultimately, it\u2019s their marriage and morals on the line; I can\u2019t make decisions for others.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you have any other fetishes or activities that you like to participate in, direct, or instruct?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m best known for my ball-busting clip studio on C4S, and have recently gotten into tickling and extreme wedgies!<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Okay! That\u2019s a new one by me!<\/p>\n \u201cI also love orgasm torture, taboo roleplay and pegging.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n How can fans and other interested persons check out these interesting fetishes?<\/p>\n \u201cMy website is ballbustingtorontodominatrix.ca<\/a>, my clip studio is https:\/\/www.clips4sale.com\/studio\/141435\/ballbuster-bastienne\/<\/a> and my Twitter is https:\/\/twitter.com\/bossybastienne<\/a>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s awesome, Bastienne! Thank you so much for being with us today!<\/p>\n (All photographs of Bastienne Cross used in this post are Copyright 2020 by Bastienne Cross. They are reproduced on Forced-Bi.com with permission.)<\/p>\n [1]<\/a> \u201cD\/s\u201d designates domination<\/em> and submission<\/em>. Often, as here, adherents will capitalize the \u201cD\u201d and leave the \u201cs\u201d in lowercase as a symbol of the power disparity embodied in this form of relationship.<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> In fetish terms, \u201cgaslighting\u201d has to do with a sort of psychological manipulation. In broader terms, it designates a campaign to make someone question his or her own beliefs, identity, sanity, and so on.<\/p>\n [3]<\/a> \u201cMFM\u201d = a male-female-male threesome, as opposed to one with some other blend of genders: MMF, MTF, MMT, TTF, MMM, etc.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" To all of you Encouraged- and Forced-Bi addicts, today, we welcome an intense, ivory-skinned practitioner of our favorite fetish. Hello! Let\u2019s do the usual preliminaries. What do you go by? \u201cI\u2019m Bastienne Cross; I go by Bastienne!\u201d Welcome, Bastienne! So, there are numerous titles attached to a person in your line of work. 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