It\u2019s a word that has to do with illumination and light. I\u2019m looking forward to this!<\/p>\n
So, let\u2019s start with something basic. What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general \u2013 and forced bi in particular?<\/p>\n
\u201cI find watching men together to be really sexy. Several years ago, I was in Mister S\u2019s \u2013 it\u2019s a local sex shop. There was gay porn playing. In particular, I recall a gay locker-room scene. Without realizing it, I got really caught up in that. The guy working in the shop had to point out to me that I was standing there just sort of staring at it. I was mesmerized.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n How long have you been going at this?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019ve been a professional dominatrix for around nine years.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Why do you think that the forced-bi fetish is so popular?<\/p>\n \u201cOur society gives more leeway to women to be sexually fluid. It\u2019s just that, for women bisexuality is more socially acceptable. But I think that men can be just as fluid as women. I give them opportunities to explore that.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Are you an online-only Mistress? Or do you also have a \u201cdungeon,\u201d studio, or other space for face-to-face, in-person, or real-time meets?<\/p>\n \u201cI do almost nothing online. I really enjoy in-person interactions with people. I work all over the country, primarily in Boston, New York, and San Francisco. I do a fair amount of phone stuff. I talk with clients a lot, but I\u2019m not really involved in clips or Skype.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe way I see it, making videos can become a totally different profession. It\u2019s just not where my interests lie. For me, online content is primarily advertising\u2014the necessary administrative work that enables me to do what I really want, which is in-person sessions. For others, online content is a bigger part of their profession.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n Do you mostly see new people every time, or are a lot of your clients regulars?<\/p>\n \u201cOh, they\u2019re mostly regulars. I have more fun with regulars because we get to know each other.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Are you open to having new clientele?<\/p>\n \u201cYes, I always enjoy meeting new people, but my schedule is very saturated these days. There\u2019s not a lot of space for new people.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you do this part time or full time, or something in between?<\/p>\n \u201cFull time, besides being a graduate student.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n And are you happy with your current level of involvement? Or would you like it to be more \u2013 or less?<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m right where I want to be.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Congratulations.<\/p>\n \u201cThank you.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you think that true \u201cbisexuality\u201d \u2013 where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males (but see a further question about problems with so-called \u201cbinarism\u201d) \u2013 is possible?<\/p>\n \u201cUntil recently, any sexuality outside of those conventional things practiced by \u2018straight\u2019 people, wasn’t considered legitimate. I think this put pressure on LGBTQ people to claim that their sexuality was immutable. To say that that was \u2018just the way they are\u2019 and that it was so since birth were defenses against societal criticisms. I believe this isn\u2019t universally true. There are perhaps immutable facets to our sexuality, but I don’t think everyone is necessarily born just one way. I think there\u2019s potential for<\/strong> fluidity as we age and develop. Kinks and fetishes could be core parts of your personality, or they could be tangential.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n There are actually a few names for this fetish. I\u2019m thinking of \u201ccoerced bi,\u201d \u201cenforced bi,\u201d \u201cforced bi,\u201d or even \u201cforced gay.\u201d Which, if any, do you prefer \u2013 and why?<\/p>\n \u201cAny really. But there\u2019s a bit of fluidity between an illusion of <\/strong>coercion<\/em> versus providing a safe space.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n In practice, \u201cforced bi\u201d seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things \u2013 for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women \u2013 as well. Do you see the fetish as pertaining to male submission only or mainly? Or to females as well?<\/p>\n \u201cI have personally never run across a woman looking for this, though I\u2019ve worked with women seeking other sorts of fetishes and kinks. I\u2019d love to work with more women, but they don\u2019t tend to pay for sexual services the way guys do.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n That\u2019s an interesting point.<\/p>\n Do you think \u201cforced bi\u201d would have the same \u201cfeel\u201d to it, if you were Domming other women instead of men?<\/p>\n \u201cI have a theory concerning bi-curious men versus bi-curious women. <\/strong>Men, at least submissive men who contact me, seem to want degrading interactions. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWomen, on the other hand, approach things differently. When bi-curious women kiss each other at a club, there\u2019s a more romantic aspect to it, as opposed to an experience of force and degradation.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cOf course, this could be a function of who I am and what I do. Certain people will seek me out\u2014people who may be a bit deviant to begin with. But I\u2019ve found that the \u2018<\/strong>forced-bi scene\u2019 can often be borderline violent for guys. It\u2019s coercive in a strong sense. Think of the initial sex scene in Brokeback Mountain<\/em>. It\u2019s heavy and violent, and the men who seek me out for forced bi tend to approach the fantasy in that way.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you think this is a function of the societal constraints you spoke of earlier? I mean, do you think it\u2019s a way for the guy to preserve his masculinity? To say he was \u201cforced\u201d into homosexual situations isn\u2019t as threatening to his manhood as it would be if it were freely chosen?<\/p>\n \u201cPossibly, yes. It is possibly due to societal constraints. Some guys may have trouble even admitting their curiosities, so being \u2018forced\u2019 frees them from that. But on the other hand, some guys just want to be degraded and kinky.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What do you think is actually going on with \u201cforced bi\u201d? Does a guy actually change his sexual orientation?<\/p>\n \u201cIt depends. Some men may be closeted gay guys. I had one sub in particular who says that he\u2019s never had any sort of fulfilling relationship with a woman. So, he approached to me saying that he thought he might be gay and wanted to explore that with me. Of course, he could have been lying or fantasizing. The back story he provided could itself have been part of his fantasy. And then, some guys might be completely or mostly hetero and just want to please their Mistresses.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Those are very interesting points.<\/p>\n \u201cOn the other hand, it definitely can be a matter of awakening homosexual kinks. To try being with another man.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n You\u2019re sharp, for sure. It\u2019s interesting that you think about the guy coming to you with a pretend back story. And you seem to take it all in stride.<\/p>\n \u201cMost of us who are in this are pretty smart.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n You<\/em> definitely are.<\/p>\n \u201cJust the way that sex work is treated, you have to be pretty humble underneath the Mistress fantasy. You have to have clear-headed idea of reality and fantasy.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Don\u2019t let things go to your head? Don\u2019t assume things really are how they appear to be? Or how a guy represents himself as being?<\/p>\n \u201cWell, in the case of the man I just mentioned to you, think of it this way.<\/strong> Our society is becoming more accepting of queer sexuality. Right? If you really are<\/em> a closeted gay man, it seems like an odd choice to pay a female Mistress hundreds of dollars to \u2018force you\u2019 to do something with a man that you want to do anyway and that is becoming more and more socially acceptable, and easy, to do on your own\u2014for free.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Ha! Fair point.<\/p>\n What\u2019s the woman for? And why spend the cash? There must be something else going on, for sure.<\/p>\n \u201cOn the other hand, after all these years I\u2019m still learning every day about the absolutely vast range of sexualities that exist, the depth of shame people can have, and the seemingly illogical ways we all process it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Let me shift gears a little. Is the forced-bi fetish \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d? I mean, do you think that involving himself in this fetish is likely to promote a guy\u2019s flourishing? Hinder it? Something else?<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s healthy on some level. There\u2019s a range of fantasy, and yes, things can be dark sometimes. It depends on how far you want to take it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n And you\u2019re willing to take it in multiple directions?<\/p>\n \u201cA session always involves meeting in the middle with clients. It\u2019<\/strong>s a conversation.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching? Cock sucking, anal sex, kissing, rimming, cum eating, facials, creampies?<\/p>\n \u201cWhen a sub is up for it, I love playing with boundaries. For many, many guys, kissing and making out with other guys is a hard limit. I obviously respect all hard limits. But I love \u2018making\u2019 them do it, if they\u2019re open to it. It\u2019s all about working with sub and seeing where their head is at.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n What are you interested in doing? I mean, how does a session usually go?<\/p>\n \u201cBook a session with me in order to see how I work.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201c\u2018How it goes\u2019 involves verbal negotiation, and I also rely heavily on<\/strong> intuition. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cConsensual non-consent is a tricky thing to accomplish. But I\u2019m good at what I do.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n I believe you!<\/p>\n But I\u2019m just wondering: how \u201cinvolved\u201d do you like to be? I mean, do you keep things at the level of fantasy chat? Pegging? Or do you encourage real, guy-on-guy sex, too?<\/p>\n \u201cIt could be a lot of things.<\/strong> For some guys, it\u2019s definitely fantasy-only. For others, it may involve getting fucked with a strapon. In other situations, it may involve inviting another guy into the scene. I\u2019ve done everything.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Do you have any limits?<\/p>\n \u201cOn limits, I trust the sub to take the lead on limits.\u00a0 Saying there is \u2018<\/strong>no limit\u2019 just means that the sub is inexperienced.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n How do you feel about guys having gay sex without condoms (i.e., \u201cbarebacking\u201d)?<\/p>\n \u201cI trust people to take responsibility for their own health.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n How do you feel about married men? I mean, do you think they have any business experimenting around with this fetish?<\/p>\n \u201cWhether a guy is married or not is none of my business. They\u2019re coming to me to not<\/em> talk about that.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cUltimately, I\u2019m not responsible for their relationships. A guy\u2019s marital status doesn\u2019t matter to me.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers (\u201cpoppers\u201d)?<\/p>\n \u201cAs far as they go, I don\u2019t supply them, if that\u2019s what you mean. But I tolerate their use, as long as someone is experienced and knows what they\u2019re doing.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Some Mistresses suggest that they enhance forced-bi scenes. Maybe they lower inhibitions or they, well\u2026 loosen things up.<\/p>\n \u201cOkay. I guess for me it\u2019s not a big part of the scene, unless the sub is into it. If they bring it up, most of the time, they\u2019re not novices. Most have already used them. So, I feel like they know their own ability to handle it.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n I know you\u2019re pressed for time, so I want to make sure I ask this: How can fans and other interested persons check out your work? Do you have any social media accounts or websites to share?<\/p>\n \u201cMy website is: <\/strong>https:\/\/mistresslux.com\/<\/a>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n Awesome! I\u2019m sure more than a few readers will be following up on you, with great interest.<\/p>\n Thank you so<\/em> much for speaking with me! All good wishes for your studies!<\/p>\n (All images displayed in this post are Copyright 2019 Mistress Lux. They are reproduced here with express permission.)<\/p>\n For other Mistress interviews, see the following links!<\/strong><\/p>\n Hello to all those out there in Forced-Bi land! Today we have another treat for you. I have the pleasure of speaking with the dazzling \u2013 yet disguised \u2013 Mistress Lux. First of all, did I get your name correct. Is that what you go by? \u201cYes. 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