Today, we welcome a fiery “pet trainer” who also gets quite a charge out of our titular fetish!
Hi! Thanks for being with us! Firstly, how do you prefer to be addressed?
“Mistress Wiley Wolfe.”
Right on; welcome, Mistress!
Are there any other adjective or terms that you allow – or that you enjoy?
“When it comes to titles, I am always interested in how the submissive feels called to address me.”
Oh, really? Interesting!
“If the submissive feels deeply in their bones that I am King, and it inspires their headspace to call me such, then when they say it, I will feel it.”
So, context and rapport carry a lot of weight.
“That said, the titles I most commonly use are ‘Mistress,’ ‘Sir,’ and ‘Daddy.’”
You just think they have a nice ring to them?
“I love using titles that celebrate my masculine energy as well as my femininity. ‘Daddy’ encapsulates all that I am: Strict disciplinarian, nurturer, guardian, boss.”
Okay! I see where you’re coming from.
How do you see your general involvement in the fetish world? I mean, is it a lifestyle? A hobby? Social Activism? A roleplay?
“BDSM is my 24/7 lifestyle as well as my profession. This is not just a job. This is who I am.”
That’s awesome!
“I also love that it has grown into a way for me to educate others about consensual, risk-aware kink.”
On the other side of the fence, how do you think of the people who seek you out? Are they… “betas”? “Losers”? “Slaves”? “Subs”? Or… something else?
“It depends on the person.”
I gotcha.
“Just as my title might be different depending on the submissive I’m engaging with, the names I use for them will differ, too.”
That makes sense. You tailor the experience – including the language.
“I am most interested in creating an environment that brings pleasure and fulfillment to all involved.
“That said, I’d say the most common for me are ‘slaves,’ ‘devotees,’ ‘piggies,’ ‘bitches,’ and ‘sluts.’”
Ha! “Devotees.” I’ll have to remember that one!
How do you determine what label is the most appropriate?
“It’s about what their flavor of submission is.”
Interesting! Could you give a few examples?
“A slave is here to offer themselves to me in various forms of service and training.
“A devotee is focused on worship – the way you would be to royalty or a to deity.
“A piggy is a ‘pay pig,’ or financial submissive.
“A bitch is typically someone who desires to be degraded and objectified / dehumanized in some way.
“A slut will want their play to revolve around sexuality – being sexually used, feminized, fucked.”
I can totally see what you’re saying!
Let me take a step back and ask you a basic question about your own history.
What got you into the world of domination and fetishes, in general?
“When I first moved to L.A., I was working in the film industry and wanted inspiration for a story. My friend invited me to a circus-themed fetish event, and I decided to go – for ‘research.’”
Ha! I gotcha!
“I was immediately sucked in by everything, and dove headfirst into the lifestyle. Years later, I made it my profession.”
And how did things take a turn toward and Forced Bi in particular?
“As my brand as a Daddy developed, I found more and more men started to come to me for sissification, ‘sluttification,’ strap on, and forced bi.
“It seems to be a natural fit for the energy I offer.”
I think you’re right on the money, there!
How long have you been doing this online?
“Before COVID-19, I was an entirely in-person Domina.”
I was going to ask that.
“The pandemic has pushed me to explore the virtual realm – which has been exciting!
“I’ve been working online for almost a year now.”
Do you still maintain a space for face-to-face meets?
“Yes. I have a couple dungeons in the Los Angeles area that I utilize for sessions.”
Are you actively seeking clients for in-person encounters?
“For the duration of the COVID-19 pandemic, I will be considering in-person meets on an extremely limited and selective basis, for the sake of safety.”
Understood.
“Strict requirements and safety measures apply.”
Is that something interested readers could “apply” for?
“Those who are interested may request to book via my website, www.WorshipWileyWolfe.com.”
Readers: Take note!
What’s motivating you? Are you aiming to make money, or derive pleasure – or both?
“I make money doing something that brings me pleasure. It is also pleasurable to make money. So… both.”
Haha! Congratulations!
How much of your energy and time does this take up?
“I have my own side hustles, but this is a full-time job.”
And are you …good with where things are at?
“I always strive for more.”
I can relate!
Do you feel comfortable sharing anything else about yourself, on either personal or professional levels?
“I’m currently 27 years old and identify as a gay, genderqueer woman. (My pronouns are ‘she’ / ‘they’).
“I’m ethically polyamorous. I have multiple partners, including a live-in partner, Princess Raven Gray, who is a Professional Dominant as well. We love Co-Dominating and cuckolding together, and co-top regularly.”
Oh? That sounds hot!!
“Our dream is to co-own a house slave that we use – and drain – as our own personal, 24/7 toy.”
Oh, my!
Again: readers: There’s something to shoot for!
Let’s get more into the Forced-Bi fetish, itself, if you don’t mind.
It appears that Forced Bi has two “pieces” to it. Something about “force” and something about bisexuality.
So, the first question maybe is: Do you think that true “bisexuality” – where a person is more of less equally attracted to females and males is possible?
“Of course. it is possible. To suggest otherwise is the basis of ‘bi erasure’ – the invalidation of someone who is attracted to more than one gender.
“Sexual attraction is a spectrum, and all consensual expressions of it are valid.”
So, how do you think of Forced Bi, specifically? I mean… are we talking lifestyle, here, as well? Or, is this particular fetish more on the professional side, only? Something else? Make-believe?
“Like every kink and fetish, the meaning and intention behind Forced Bi will differ depending on the person and what it means to them.
“Because I am not romantically interested in cis-gendered men, there will be an element of role-play in it, for me. For example, this happens if the scene centers around, say, ‘bringing a man home for my boyfriend,’ or something.”
I gotcha.
“But it might also be about genuine exploration – helping them on their self-discovery journey. To do that for someone is humbling and empowering.”
Right on. I’ll ask you a bit more about that in a few moments.
“However, making submissives fuck each other in my name is most certainly a wonderful power trip. I love doing that.”
Mmm! Is it getting warm in here??
Let me pause and ask you… what do you call this fetish? “Coerced bi”? “Encouraged gay”? “Forced Bi”? “Make Me Gay”? Something else?
“These are all names that can be used. I have no preference.”
Fair enough.
In practice, “Forced Bi” seems most often to apply to men being somehow impelled to perform sexually (or to imagine performing sexually) with other men. However, in theory, it seems that it could apply to other things – for example, to women being impelled to perform sexually with other women – as well.
Do you see it primarily in terms of male submission, male and female submission, both, or neither?
“It could technically be both, but I typically engage with it from the perspective of male submission, since that is who requests it from me.”
I hear that quite a bit.
“Women tend to be more sexually flexible, overall. So, you don’t see women asking to be ‘forced’ to fuck other women very often.”
Ha! I see your point!
Now… on to the trickier word.
As far as goes the second core idea, the idea of being “forced” is a little vague. For legal reasons, “forced” means something less than literally compelled by threat of force.
But… what does it mean?
Are you talking coercion? Instruction? Seduction?
“Different strokes for different folks, right?”
True enough.
“My style tends to lend itself towards commandment, coercion, enticement, inducement, and permission.”
Quite a range!
“It can be about power, the taboo of pressure, the lure of temptation or reward, the emboldening approval to do something you would otherwise fear – and so… much more.”
Again, we’re back to the idea of custom-made fetish experiences.
What do you think is going on with “Forced Bi”? Does a guy actually “change” his sexual orientation?
“I find that many of the clients who come to me for Forced-Bi sessions are looking for a safe space to explore or to experiment with their sexuality.
“Perhaps they’re closeted, nervous, or simply curious.
“There are also some who get off on the taboo humiliation of it, but are straight in their daily lives.”
It does seem to attract a wide array of people.
Is it possible for a guy to be a “switch” or “versatile”? …that is, to be able to take on the role of either bottom or top with more or less equal facility, if not enthusiasm.
“Yes, of course. I’m just not personally interested in male Tops at all.”
I gotcha.
Okay. Here’s one.
Some women profess to enjoy guy-on-guy sex. Straight women sometimes liken their enjoyment to that expressed by straight men who like witnessing two women together sexually. And in the case of two women, it is reasonable to think that participants are not always lesbians or even bisexual. They could just be exhibitionists. Other women might just like viewing gay spectacles. And a few, more dominant types perhaps, seem to find the gender-bending and role-reversal aspects appealing.
Do any of these resonate with you?
“As a gay person myself, I love seeing two same-sex people enjoying each other. And yes, I think seeing two men together is hot.
“Anyone can be an exhibitionist.”
Right on.
A few women claim to want to date bisexual guys, participate in threesomes with them, etc. Others seem to think that once a guy tries guy-on-guy sex, he’s less desirable to women. Is bisexuality in general a “positive” quality in a guy? How about past participation in forced bi?
What do you think?
“I don’t support discrimination against someone based on their sexual orientation. It’s not just a ‘quality’ about them, it’s an aspect of their identity. To love someone is to love them for who they really are, not what you want them to be.
“Women who find a man who has enjoyed another man to be suddenly ‘undesirable’ are no better than men who won’t fuck a woman unless she’s a virgin.
“I say that because it generally boils down to one of two things: insecurity or perceived ‘dirtiness.’ Either way, I would encourage them to unpack that shit rather than projecting it onto the other person.
“It doesn’t make a man any less of a man to identify as bisexual, or to have participated in forced bi. Regardless of how much I love degradation within a scene, it’s important to me that my clients know that.
“That said – I don’t ‘date’ men; I just own them.”
Haha!!
“If a submissive I own is bisexual, well, that just expands the possibilities of how he can entertain me, doesn’t it? 😜”
Mmm… It does!
Is the Forced-Bi fetish “healthy” or “unhealthy”? …psychologically speaking, I mean.
“It’s healthy when done in a consensual, risk-aware, personal responsibility informed way.
“STD[1] testing, access to mental health support, disclosure of triggers / past relevant trauma, and self-awareness are all very important.”
And this goes back to the self-learning process you alluded to, earlier?
“It can promote better self-understanding, exploration, learning, and growth.”
Now… I’m not missing the word “can.”
“It can also become unhealthy if it becomes compulsive; if physical health like STDs are not taken into consideration; or if mental health/emotional support needs are not taken care of.”
Fair enough.
“Like every other kink, there is risk involved. And that must be taken into consideration before you start having fun!”
Would-be Forced-Bi players, beware!
Do you think of any of this is religious or spiritual terms?
“Christian blasphemy role-play is one of my favorite kinks.”
Oh, gawd… really?
“So, if the submissive is into that, it certainly can go that way.”
Wow!
“Sodomy is a grave sin, after all 😉”
Mmm…Yes, it is!
“Why not punish two priests after catching them in the act, or force them to swallow a certain ‘Holy Spirit’?”
My head is feeling a little light…
“When intertwining Christianity and kink, nothing is too taboo for me.”
No kidding?
“However, it is important to tread carefully when integrating religion and fetish. It can be important healing work for the right person, but for the wrong person, it can be extremely triggering, or bring up past trauma that they are not ready to work through. Deep, detailed negotiation is required.”
Speaking of “triggering,” let me ask another query about words themselves.
Nowadays, some people are opposed to the use of so-called “binary language” – e.g., thinking in terms of “feminine” versus “masculine,” etc. – when it comes to John Money’s concept of “gender” and sexuality. But Forced Bi, arguably, has a kind of “bi-narism” built into its name.
Do you see this as a problem for the “Forced-Bi” fetish?
“Like many fetishes, Forced Bi comes from a place of taboo and denial – that is, the oppression, erasure, and societal denial of those who enjoy same-sex activities.
“It is still considered ‘wrong’ to be gay in many places.
“This fetish plays within that taboo space and, therefore, it will exist as long as homosexuality is considered taboo.”
So… you look forward to the day when this fetish disappears?
“Maybe as society evolves, this fetish will evolve with it.”
Okay! Onto the topics of Forced-Bi activities!
What homosexual-related activities do you most enjoy ordering or watching?
“Rimming, cock sucking, deep throating, and ass fucking.”
Mmm… Fuck!
“Both submissives can bottom to each other at different times, or I also love facilitating ‘breeding’ scenes, where one is put in bondage as the bitch and the other is ordered by me to be the stud.”
I’m sorry, wuuttt? Lol! I think my mind went a little blank for a sec!
But, seriously: Do you think that Forced Bi, as a fetish, is getting more popular?
“I have no idea. I do get a lot of requests for it.”
Do you perceive that the Forced-Bi fetish is being promoted in any way by the so-called “mainstream media”?
“Not really. Mainstream media seems more focused on promoting actual same-sex relationships, lately – which I think is great – not the fetishizing of it.”
Um… logistically / mechanically: Which do you prefer, having guys in dedicated roles, or having both guys being plastic enough to perform in any role you want?
“Either way.”
Right on.
“But, they’re not topping me. Ew.”
Haha! Fair enough!
That leads me to ask, though: Are you aroused by Forced Bi, or just amused by it?
“It’s mostly entertainment to me. The arousal comes from the power of making it happen more than the actual activities they’re doing.”
I gotcha.
Do you think that a guy can “just try” sucking cock or getting assfucked and then quit?
“Sure, if he was curious and discovered it wasn’t for him.
“But more often than not, a man is interested in trying this because it has been a major fantasy for some time. It’s been a long road of repression and self-denial.
“Odds are, if he gets to this point, he’ll like it 😉”
Lol! Like… really, really like!
What are you interested in doing? I mean… do you prefer issuing commands via text message and then just assuming everything works out? Are you watching via webcam? Or would you rather have participants in your dungeon?
“I’ve done a bit of everything. Fantasy chat, giving detailed orders and requiring photo or video proof, webcam, and live sessions. I’m open to most anything.”
Fair enough.
Biggest focus…?
“It’s absolutely about my power to command sluts to my will.”
Any sexual acts that charge your batteries? I mean… form a voyeuristic point of view.
“I love it all – whatever the two men interested in exploring, I can shape into something that heats me up, too.”
Mmm… What a hot way to put it!
Do you have any limits?
“Within the Forced Bi fetish, my primary limits are ignoring safety – for example, no STD tests, removing safe words, ignoring limits, etc. And I will not bottom.”
What about guys have sex without condoms? So-called “barebacking”?
“If the participants are both comfortable with it, I can offer it.”
Mmm…
“However, I ensure they are informed of the safety and health risks – not only to each other, but also to anyone else that they may be involved with.
“I have a basket of condoms that are always available at any time.”
It’s kind of kinky to bareback next to a basket of condoms.
And… how do you feel about married men? …in the context of this fetish, of course.
“I don’t ask those questions. But, if they disclose that they are married, I will strongly encourage them to use extra protection such as condoms and testing for the safety of their married partner.
“The last thing I want to do is cause harm to someone who did not have the opportunity to consent to the risk.”
Respect.
How do you feel about amyl-nitrite inhalers – “poppers”?
“I generally prefer that my submissives be sober for the duration of our time together. However, within Forced Bi or other fetishes that include penetrative sex, poppers can help the sphincter relax and improve pain tolerance.
“So, it is something I am open to discussing, with additional risk-awareness in mind.”
What do you have in mind, there?
“Poppers can have some negative side effects, such as nausea, and should not be used by someone with heart issues – which anyone who has not tried them before should consider.”
Right on.
How do you feel about guys really getting addicted to gay sex? Is that even a “thing”?
“Sexual addiction is real for anyone in any lifestyle.
“That’s why risk-awareness, self-analysis, and avenues for mental health support are so important.
“My goal is to provide an accepting space for those who wish to engage in these activities, and to help them do so in the safest, most informed way possible.”
All right… here’s another, lighter one…
Do you have any particularly memorable Forced-Bi session to shar?
“My favorite sessions have involved ‘forced’ breeding between human slaves or human pups, Christian blasphemy, and ‘offerings of entertainment’ in the form of two men doing as I instruct, in order to please me as I watch.”
Mmm!!! That’s cool.
Just a few more items…
What other mischief do you get into?
“My interests within BDSM are vast and expansive. CBT,[2] ball busting, sissification, CEI,[3] humiliation/degradation, strap on, SPH,[4] slut training, and so much more are among them.”
I figured your interests would be pretty broad!
“I offer both real-time and virtual sessions, and encourage interested sluts to peruse the ‘Interests & Offerings’ section of my website for the full list of what I enjoy.”
That’s a fairly complete list? Fantastic!
Be you leave us, let fans and other interested persons know where they can find you online!
“My Website: www.WorshipWileyWolfe.com
“SextPanther: www.TextWileyWolfe.com
“Twitter: https://twitter.com/WileyxWolfe
“Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wileyxwolfe/
“Online Class Offerings: www.WolfeAcademyofKink.com
“Class Recordings: gumroad.com/wileywolfe
“I will also be starting a Patreon soon with both educational and devotional offerings, so keep an eye out for that on my website and socials 😉”
Oh! That’s awesome!
Well… keep us posted!
Thank you so much for stopping, um… bi today! And good luck to you for 2021!
Notes:
[1] “STD” = “sexually transmitted disease” – also sometimes called a “sexually transmitted infection,” or STI.
[2] “CBT” = “cock-and-ball torture”
[3] “CEI” = “cum-eating instruction”
[4] “SPH” = “small-penis humiliation”